Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Is anyone else considering giving up until the new year?

I don’t really have any irons, the one iron I did have (Mr Beard) has done a vanishing act, Tinder says he’s 133 miles away and that hasn’t changed for days (he lives about 15 miles from me and works locally), I’m not sure if he’s deleted a Tinder as he was having issues with it, if he has lost his phone or if he’s ignoring me. He gave me his phone number last week incase he had to delete Tinder so I have sent him a message and not heard anything back. Not going to chase anymore, haven’t got the time or the energy.

Mr Mountain (a iron from over a year ago) wants to meet up this weekend. He’s only really FWB material and tbh he’s not that great in bed so I’m not sure if I will take him up on his offer though I would like sex before the end of the year 🤣.

POF seems dead, same old faces and weirdos. Tinder isn’t much better. Tempted to just pack it in until the new year in hope their will be some new faces.

@Lovemusic33 I think the same at times, give up til the new year. I will hate it between Xmas and new year if I've got no one to have fun with though. Kids will be with their dad and I'll be miserable and want cheering up sex.

I'm really hoping the date goes ahead with the new iron on Saturday. Do I still sleep with the other one before that?

I miss FWB when I think of him. The raw pain of last week has faded a lot luckily. I really miss his messages and sharing little things with eachother. I'm not dwelling on it though.

@Lovemusic33 I think it's a busy time of year for most people with parties, family, etc so maybe not as many people are 'active' on the apps at the moment. I bet there will be a spike in the new year!

I’m not sure I could deal with dating someone over Christmas anyway, I’m not sure I want to give anyone the head space when I need to be concentrating on the dc’s and family rather than getting my leg over (although sex would be nice). I could go and have sex with Mr Mountain at the weekend, I know it won’t lead to anything as he lives too far away and is a bit boring 🤣 so no emotional stuff involved.

I’ve just got the one iron left and date no 4 / sex sesh planned for tomorrow. I the others when my acc was hacked or whatever happened and it won’t even let me rejoin

@Jane1978xx is that just POF? I'd go on tinder. Well definitely Tinder in the new year.

Aargh dont know whether to meet up with shag this other iron tonight. Might be fun? If the other one pulls out on Saturday then I'll be really fed up and bored

Yes just Pof I went on tinder but ex h is on there and loads of his mates and half our estate 😂.

You could go and meet him you done need to shag 🤷🏼‍♀️

Lol well I'm making matches on tinder atm but usually comes to nothing.

I think really I'd only be meeting him for sex 😂

On off sex or a regular thing ?

I don't think a regular thing.

I think I'd really like to see Saturdays date sooner tbh...

I wouldn’t go then if you aren’t feeling it, did you meet him at all in person yet ?

Yeah I've met him about three times, been back to his (not had sex though)

So after that you think if you had sex you wouldn’t see him again ? I would just do what you want to do really 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@Jane1978xx I don't think I'm going to bother- we've just been having a discussion about feminism and he's yet another that just doesn't seem to fucking get it 🙄

anyone ever been in the position where their iron is a soon to be dad?

I seem to pick them, this is my 2nd 😂

how did u deal with it? I would always buy someone a card and little gift etc and would feel funny not doing that for someone who's at the very least a new friend.

also hes not sure the mum will allow him to see him at first but dont think its something that should pass without acknowledgement.

That has red flags plastered all over it crazycat

@crazycatlady20 I didn't know how to phrase it tactfully but I'd run for the hills tbh. I'm with @TigerDater- red flags all over the place

Yeah defo red flags unless there is maybe a story like he slept with a friend and there was an accident and she kept the baby. But even then it’s a lot of baggage

@TheDevilsPedicure. He sounds charming , unless you are super keen I’d leave it . Don’t do it for the sake of it

No I'm not going to, I'm not super keen 😂

I can see kinda why you'd say it was a red flag but also relationships break down all the time.

They do but it sounds quite extreme- I wouldn't want the hassle if it were me

It depends on the back story 🤷🏼‍♀️ Also if he has a baby due anytime why is he spending time on dating sites instead of preparing to support the mother regardless of their relationship

they dont have a relationship, bad break up. it's all getting done through courts for his current dc.

Sorry I mean how they get on and if he will be involved rather than them being in a relationship