Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I’ve never ever had anyone message back on bumble 😂

@CocoKoko123. I thought he was patronising at first but a lot does make sense

I met Mr Ad on Bumble 😊

I met Mr S on bumble. I only really used bumble and had 5 dates from there before I met Mr S

A couple of my friends have seen my pics on tinder and just said I looked really hot but I don't know 😂

I'm obviously talking to work colleague on bumble too and he has seen me in the flesh and seems to fancy me. Although seems to spend most of the time looking at my arse from what he has said...

One fit guy I went on a date with actually said I look better in person but who knows

And I bumped into an old friend on Badoo and he said I look way better than I did at school 😂 we met up as friends a couple of times but I think he's distanced himself from me as he said he was catching the feels

Thing is I have such low self esteem about my looks and I know the things that are wrong with me. I always thought FWB was way too good looking for me

I’ve been told I was cute a few times I’m unsure what that means

shit everyone else has said what I think. Mr B seemed self-obsessed and not at all supportive of you, and that was before what happened last night. Be very kind to yourself and don't talk to him x

Yuck

Matched with a 30 yr old guy on tinder. He messaged me first, bit dull, how was your day bla bla.. He's looking for 'spontaneous fun' apparently, he's decided it's 'hard work' looking for the one and why not enjoy himself along the way.

So basically this is the entire conversation and then he says

'So how about it then spontaneously meet up and see if we work sexually together'

Just the way he worded it made me cringe 😂 this was my reply

'When you cba to even ask if someone wants a drink- not very appealing- HTH'

I'm just fed up with it tonight. The guy I'm hopefully meeting at the weekend is open minded, I think more inclined for fun which is actually ok right now. Bur he was nice in his chat and funny and not cringe!

@TheDevilsPedicure yuck ! I’m surprised he didn’t send a dick pic so you could see the goods.

@Jane1978xx honestly he just seemed so dull as well.

The other guy I went on a few dates with before still seems keen though I've made it clear I can't be doing anything serious atm. Do I meet up with him tomorrow? Literally sex....

@TheDevilsPedicure If that’s what you want 🤷🏼‍♀️ And he wants. As I said before I don’t understand all this fb, fwb etc etc stuff. I don’t even know what I’m doing myself with my own iron 😂🤷🏼‍♀️😂

@Jane1978xx I don't know wtf I'm doing right now tbh 😂 I'm feeling better about things today. I just don't allow myself to think about FWB really.

I think 'open minded' is my approach right now. Would be foolish to be looking for a relationship- the truth is so few guys seem to be looking for it and it'd be easy to become even more disappointed right now.

Maybe casual with someone nice is fine. Just no catching the feels!

I think I got the feels with FWB because when we began in Feb it was very much a 'see what happens' thing- it was never just casual and an arrangement for fun. Because of this I suppose I did allow myself to like him, and enjoy the feeling of it I guess. Because he was so fit and lovely too it just grew 😂

If I know from the start it's FWB maybe it'll be different

It's entirely possible. Just only do what feel right for you.

@TheDevilsPedicure my whole life runs on wtf am I doing 😂. So I’ll apply the same here see what happens. We have a laugh in person and keep in touch most days and the sex was good 🤷🏼‍♀️. What more do you need 😂. I only have one or two days a week spare and that won’t change

@Jane1978xx same here 😂 every moment is wtf. I'm rubbish at adulting- I was actually great before but since my separation it's like I've reverted to being a teenager 😂

Well I'm scared to give this new iron a nickname cos each time I've done it lately it jinxes it. We've moved it to snapchat now. He's friendly and chats well- seems to hold a conversation. I think it's clear upfront that it's not going to be anything serious but that's fine. He actually wants to take me for a drink it seems!!! Woohooo 😂

A drink sounds good ! Hope you get that arranged soon. I just don’t have time to get organised working full time and dd having so many activities. My mum and dad came at the weekend to stage some kind of intervention and clean
The house and food shop for me 😂😂.

I have two new irons I'm keeping warm. One is Mr Kids - he seems to have a bizarrely similar approach to life as me and 2 kids the same ages. Lots of chat. Keen to meet quickly. Downsides - not very tall, not a very deep voice (i have a thing for deeper voices) and he used the wrong 'thete' and wrote spag bowl.... he must be bright thoughas he runs his own consultancy. I also don't like his real name. Think 1970s/80s classic. Associated with a grunting teenager...

The other one is Mr Emoji. Fun chat. Sparky. I like him but he lives over where i used to live, near my parents. So that would be a holiday fling or if i decided to move back....

I'm still disappointed about Mr Fast Work but keeping fingers crossed he'll be more s in person.... though i do find his slowness to respond to messages frustrating. I'm not paranoid about it since our chat. I just want to talk to him and he's not available

*be more persuadable

@shitwithsugaron how are you doing this morning?

Apologies for being late to the thread.

Did you talk to him @shitwithsugaron?

Hope you get through today ok x

@shitwithsugaron will you not get it as sick pay or can you use holidays from next year ?your work should support you

@shitwithsugaron sorry to hear it's ended and hope you're doing ok.
It's been clear from your posts for a while that the support given was a very one way street and I think you'd already recognised that, but it's a horrid way for it to end.
Hope work goes ok today
Oh and if I tried to wrestle my GFs bag off her I'd expect a smack round the head so don't give yourself a hard time about that

Ah @Ant330 two lovely things in that post, one of them being the use of "my girlfriend@ 😊