Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

No shower but a Tinder account? 🤔

@Sunshineandflipflops I’m 41 next week and I’m peri. I’m
On the pill thou as you are super fertile 🤦‍♀️

Been to see the Nurse and my bp is even higher then last time I went a few weeks ago so no combined pill for me and explains why I have had a headache for 3 days now.
Might have to start taking bp meds. I HATE getting older 😤

NotCool off grid means with no mains electric, no hot water etc.., can be in a caravan, van, bus, boat etc.., I have a few friends that live off grid already and I may do it too one day (when kids have moved on). He does have some electric and some water but no shower so he goes to his mums who lives near by to shower. I wouldn’t say he’s dirty but looks scruffy, could do with a beard trim and hair cut 🤣

And I’m peri at the young age of 37 (almost 38) 😭

Yes peri definitely can start in your 40s and it's normally noticeable by changes to your cycle. My periods got lovely and regular (they never had been before!) in my late 40s!

So I’m out (then in 😉) with Mr Gray again tomorrow I think this is 4 or 5. I’m not really sure what it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ But it’s fun. I don’t think he’s dating anyone else as he’s either with me , his kids, at work or we are texting / speaking around 8pm at night. I’ve not got him a xmas present thou 😂

I just sweat lots

Thanks @Lovemusic33 I have friends who are travellers but they tend to have lovely vans and access to a shower! I don't think I'd be ok with no shower!

NotCool I agree, a lot of travellers do have showers, he does have a outdoors shower but obviously this time of year it’s not great 🤣

Oh god is a grey jumper dress ok? With sheer black tights and knee high heeled boots? I dunno if I'll look a bit dull, it's Xmas after all...

Colourful scarf or necklace?

I've gone for a different dress, still long sleeve with a split to mid thigh but will need to be ankle boots instead....

I don't own scarves and don't have much jewellery either actually...

It's my wedding anniversary tomorrow. Would have been/is 15 years. I just had a massive cry because I have a 3 day headache, I will wake up on my wedding anniversary on my own and then spend the evening with my ex and the kids as our dd is in an xmas concert at school.

I hate what that man did to me but all I feel is sadness.

Sunshine no such exvuse here but I've just spent the last half hour crying whilst lain on the kitchen floor. I'm so tired and o feel so trapped and i wish christmas would fuck off and I hate that my kids are getting nothing from.me becaue other than the basics of food and xleanliness i just can't do any more and i just want to be held. I am hurting so much and I jist want to be held and there is nobody to hold me. I feel unloved and unloveable and so hurt.

Hugs to you both, @Sunshineandflipflops and @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. Don't even care if it's not a mumsnetty thing to do. You can steal a fag off me and drink gin with me, too.

My stbexh has decided he wants a lot mlore
Money off me as a divorce settlement than was agreed before. Decides to tell me. Also says he’s swapping every day he has dd over Xmas. I’ve been crying since 5 pm yest. I look a treat ! Don’t think I can risk a gin

Hugs to you all Sunshine NoMore and Jane* Such a difficult time of year for so many people.

Sounds like a lovely outfit Pretender.

💐 to all who are feeling low tonight. It's a grim time of year when things aren't right.

Loo update- he's good looking, friendly, I think a little shy but still chatty and really sweet. 🤞

Jane - why does he get any money off you? Have you got someone irl to support you? Think it's a shitty day for a lot od us today. Group hug.
And have some peppermint bark. It was supposed to be teacher gifts but I've been mainlining it...

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. I am
Keeping the house and earn double what he does . He wants half of all my money , he’s got nothing. He also wants dd 50:50 and me pay him maintenance

I'm so upset today, I just don't know how to deal with it except from cry

I’m more angry and don’t understand why he hates me that much to take our child’s home away

Ooh fingers crossed, @TheDevilsPedicure!

I had a low point the other night and have since been dealing with various DC troubles. They are all still processing the fact their father is such a bastard, tho I obviously don't call him that in front of them. This time of year certainly amplifies any shittiness in family life. (I, personally, look forward to a Christmas with fewer obligations and no walking on eggshells, but I recognise I stopped loving him years and years ago, just didn't let myself see it.)