Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

You need to know if he’s active. He might just have lazily deleted the app and not gone to all the hassle of deleting the actual account.

Hi all - this isn't dating related particularly (well, I guess it is in a way) but wondering if any of you have any experience with the mini pill, particularly Norgeston?

I have been on it on and off for about a year now (some breaks when not dating) but the last few months I have been having some issues and am wondering whether it's this pill? Spotting in between periods, which I've never had before, regular headaches and my last period was really heavy for me and I even took a day off work as it made me feel ill.

Has anyone else had anything similar? I wanted to go back on the combined pill as I don't remember having issues with it when i took it before having kids but I am older now and my bp was too high for them to let me have it a few weeks ago. I am going to see a nurse later about the symptoms and to have my bp checked again in the hope that's it's come down with some changes to my lifestyle.

Sitting here at work with a headache I've had for 3 days now

@sunshineandflipflops have you thought about the implant? Less hassle than the mini pill and no issues about blood pressure to worry about.

@UncorrectedDoormat I don't like the idea of the implant and really, I don't want anything hormonal at all but I had the copper coil after having my kids and the trauma of having it put in is still with me over 10 years later!

Mr Ad has offered to have the snip but that will take a while from going to the doc's to being able to reply on it so if I can't go back on the combined pill, we may have to resort back to condoms, which I hate the idea of but not as much as another pregnancy!

*rely

I get it. I'm totally against another pregnancy... And the implant it the most effective contraceptive. I'd still use condoms too though.

The mirena coil wasn't too bad going in or coming out. But it is hormonal.

supercali77 yes, I'm putting off looking because if I find him on Tinder then I have to do something about it.
And I want to get my head in the right place before I do that. Because I've been thinking about it and I'm fairly certain that if he is on there he will be actively using it.

I'd prefer to speak to him face to face and to do that I have to wait until the end of the week.
F* I've just bought him a Christmas present that I can't return and is no use to anyone else I know.

@UncorrectedDoormat did the Mirena mess with your periods though? I have heard very mixed reviews.

echo have to echo what everyone else has said, you need to ask him. Face to face would be better if you can manage it. Maybe he just hasn't deleted.

Eesha at one point I hoped me and Mr. Big would become more but he messed me about through the summer, he suggested we become and item and then got cold feet. We are connected, he offers great emotional support but I know (hope) I can do better than someone who is not 100% sure. I honestly feel like I am working him out of my system and will keep swiping. He is exactly what I was looking for when I started OLD but I am definitely looking for something more now and he is not that.

@Sunshineandflipflops it might be to do with you coming on and off it your body will be confused. I take the mini pill and I’ve not had a period in years

@Jane1978xx I have been on it solidly now for at least 4 months. My periods haven't stopped at all sadly but I think it's only the lucky few this happens with!

Curious.

Don't know if anyone remembers Mr Beard. I was rather keen but he wasn't up for long distance and got shirty with me when I was trying to talk to him one time so i deleted. Apparently he viewed my LinkedIn profile 17 hours ago...
Interesting to know he's thinking about me. I love modern technology sometimes

Follower of the thread though I’d pop in with question about Christmas gifts.
Meet online and been going out for about a month (5 dates) was thinking of getting small gift, just a book I think she would like.
Does that seem to soon? We have not mentioned Christmas gifts so would it be bad to get one as she might not have got me one?
Thanks.

@Everydayzero I don't think it matters whether she has got you one - if you have seen something you would like to get her then do it. My bf bought me a book on our second date - something he knew I would like and it was lovely

sunshine I had the same on mini pill, spotting almost constantly, very heavy and painful periods and the headaches were something else, you have my sympathy. Hoping your BP has come down enough for combined, that's what I'm on now and no complaints!
I'd have to be sure before I confronted re tinder activity so I'd set up another account and find him..

I don't have periods with the implant or with the mirena, but I've only had erratic periods since having children. Also had chemo last year and early this year, so probably that's contributing to the erratic cycle.

About gifts, I was also dithering but I'll get the book that I was thinking of now :)

@Sunshineandflipflops my daughter has a terrible time in the implant. Nearly always in her period. I have the mirena and I get some mild spotting once a month. The first mirena stopped my periods entirely.

How old are you? Could they be peri menopause symptoms? Also not sure on Mr AD's age and situation. Would be consider the snip?

@Notcoolmum I am 41 so hopefully not perimenopausal yet!
Mr Ad has offered to have the snip but in reality we're looking at at around 9 months until that would be done and we have the all clear and I don't want to feel like this for another 9 months 😩

Just had a coffee date with Mr Beard (finally), last minute thing as he was working near by. A bit of a weird one, I know he was in his work cloths and his job is quite dirty as he fixes thing outside but my first impressions were that he looked like a homeless person, being unable to run or hide I thought I would stick it out and we went to costa for a drink, looks aside, he was lovely, easy to talk too, kind and very down to earth. He is a bit of a hippy, very left wing an a vegetarian. I can’t imagine taking him to meet my parents 🤣🤣 due to the homeless look but maybe he scrubs up a bit better when not at work. He wants to meet up at the weekend so do I give him a chance and see if he looks tidier at the weekend?

I have other irons that are very different to Mr Beard but Mr Beard seems the most genuine.

Give him a chance!

Thanks wandering, I really wanted to brush his hair 🤣, he has been out in the rain most of the day. I will see him Sunday and see how things go.

@Lovemusic33 was he just dirty/scruffy from work or was he properly 'unclean'? My FWB dug holes for a living and used to turn up to see me in his work clothes covered in mud. I used to find it sexy tbf 😂 I used to quite like it if he couldn't get a shower before seeing me.

Ok so date seems to be going ahead with the unnamed iron tonight. I will give him a name if we get on tonight. I'm really nervous! I can't decide what to wear and I'd really like this one to go well. Need a boost atm

TheDevils I think he’s probably scruffy most of the time, not sure if I would describe him as being dirty, his teeth looked clean 🤣. He does live off grid but goes to his mums to shower. I don’t mind a bit of scruffiness as long as he can scrub up ok when needed. I’m a bit of a hippy type myself but keep myself tidy and clean 🤣

@Lovemusic33 scruffy but clean is fine in my book 😂 I'm also a bit hippyish in ways although don't always dress it.

I think definitely see him again. If he was attractive and nice but just a scruff I'd be happy with that!

FWB literally had mud on his face when I'd see him, in his hair. I liked him all grubby. I remember once in the pub doing that awful mum thing of wiping it off with spit 😂 Tbf he just laughed and let me carry on, bless him.

What does living off grid mean @Lovemusic33 if he hasn't got access to a shower?