Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Same here. I don’t want someone else’s DC having to sleep in the lounge on weekends, totally not fair

I definitely don't want to live with another man, maybe ever. Which is one of the reasons why Mr G is such a convenient and pleasant prospect for me. We miss each other of course, but we both very much appreciate our own independent lives as well. (13 more days....)

Well @tigerdater I was introduced to a couple of those by Mr Unsuitable and I must confess to rather enjoying them. I'm not sure about exclusive either. But I'm not sure how jealous I am. Not very I suspect...

Mr Moving is being needy. Argh
Either I am with an asshole or a needy man baby 😂

He is very lovely to me but at the same time he seems to need reassurance. He wanted to know if I wanted him to delete his dating profile in front of me I said well if you say you aren’t using it then you aren’t using it why wouldn’t I believe you? You could just reactivate it when I left I would never know 😂 I think this means he wants me to delete mine but I am not going to

Oh I do enjoy them when these things happen naturally, I don’t really like making a big deal out of it in anticipation, that’s all. Too porn-led. As for men suggesting a strapon. Fuck off!

No disapproval here @shitwithsugaron just hope that it works out for you. Sometimes these things do sort stuff out. Counselling will help you see clearly too. How are the anti-ds settling down?

@shitwithsugaron No judgement from me. I hope it works out. I think so many of us struggle to find someone they like who they have chemistry with it's hard to give it up without that feeling that maybe you could've just given it one more try. You have this thread and counselling and hopefully you'll resolve your problems he'll get his act together.

I'm a big fan of second chances @shitwithsugaron, in fact I usually give people at least half a dozen, just to be really sure its them, not me 🤦‍♀️...no judging from me lovely - do what's right for you, you only get one crack at this wonderful journey called life and you need to make sure you've got no regrets. 👍🏻

I hope he gets his act together @shitwithsugaron and that you manage to work things out. You deserve to be happy, just remember x

@shitwithsugaron

Bless you shitwith you are the one on the ground who knows all the facts, not us. People in relationships are given second, third, hundredth chances all the time. Some of them are worth it, some of them are not. The important thing is that you learn to value yourself and your judgement. Wishing you all the best therefore. Keep posting please!

Honestly, we only give snapshots of.our lives here, you know best for yourself. And especially since you're in counselling, I definitely won't pass judgement. Life is hard, don't let a chance at happiness pass you by, and if you're working on it together, that sounds good!

The dreariness of winter coupled with the heavy responsibilities of my life have put me in a funk today. I need a hug from my man.

My first post on this thread. OLD since Aug and I'm declaring an Xmas truce! Its time consuming, emotionally exhausting and ultimately fruitless. Loads of matches, chats, dates, bit my overwhelming feeling is of a sweatshop where everything looks appealing at first glance but on closer inspection turns out to be half chewed or covered in fluff.

I've just told the iron I've been seeing on and off since Aug as a kind of FWB that I want to call it quits after he bought me lunch and promised an afternoon of making love but then fucked off home for a questionable domestic emergency.

I dont even fancy him ffs. But he was taking my mind off the car crash that was the short term relationship I had in Sept and the failure to launches I had with other people I actually liked.

Fingers x'd 2020 will be less shit.

Sweatshop!

I give up. You know what I mean!

@shitwithsugaron if you know your worth and you know what needs to change and improve and he’s onboard with that then it’s worth another shot.

@shitwithsugaron if you know your worth and you know what needs to change and improve and he’s onboard with that then it’s worth another shot.

shitwith absolutely no judgement from me. Sometimes we need second chances to get things right. Working on your self esteem through counselling is a long old road (ask me how I know !) but talking things through with someone is always helpful

shitwith no judgement from me either lovely, hope you’re ok and that counselling helps. I think most of us here have been through the ringer and needed some support

@cheerup welcome! 2020 will be our year!

Good analogy 😆