Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

But stuck what have you got to lose? It might suck or it might be great! Is it close by? Have a confidence boosting glass of vino and go! Fake it till you make it. And if it’s your only festive night out go put your best frock on!!!

Mr RealLife can't meet til January which is fair enough. And I turned Mr U down. I said I might see him later in the week but he did dump me and I'm not going to go running.

This thread is boundary-tastic!

I'm not getting anywhere on pof.

MrStraight I just can't see happening, have a new nice iron but he's in London. He is my age, no kids, gorgeous and so it makes me think why is he messaging me as surely loads in london?

I went to the pub. Had my meal. Watched a bunch of middle aged people having a Christmas party. Paid. Got in my car and howled. Proper screams of rage and pain howled as i drove home.
Fwb is fine but i think i need to stay the fuck away from any kind of romance right now. I just can't take the rejection. It brings up all the pain of what stbx did and said. I feel unloved and unloveable and rejected and foolish.

Wow. This really is a constant rollercoaster isn't it?
Now watching strictly on catch up with my cats and a hot water bottle an d trying not to think about it

@weeping, know what you mean, I can't take it either, and am way too needy!

I think I'm better staying away too, it drives me crazy and produces feelings I don't like having.

Any suggestions for alternatives to distraction-swiping?

NoMore if you think it’s just FWB you need then maybe join some other sites? I have to say the best thing I did after my marriage ending was to just have casual sex and enjoy m6self without the comitement. Enjoy yourself and don’t get caught up in any of that ‘love’ stuff.

So, I’ve been chatting this guy who looked ok, we have a lot in common, then he asks me to look him up on Facebook which I did, he seems like a genuine nice chap but he’s 6”7 and quite chunky. I’m 5”3, he would make me look tiny.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. Glass of one and a girly film. You’ll see mr Pilates again thou ?

I think the best thing that could have happened is my pof account being hacked

The o my mistake you made @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking is that you gave him a chance. You had a great time with Mr Pilates and then he burst your bubble. Remember the great time you had and be relieved you d for read of someone who made you feel less than. This is a good thing.

I just got back from my 3rd meet up with Mr Moving and I kind of put it on him and we had sex. All the way up to it I was in a really weird place - he’s way way more invested in a RS than me it feels like, and I kept thinking ‘let’s just go home now and bang’ but he was enjoying being out and socialising way more than me. I was also in the mindset of do I really actually fancy you? Then suddenly we were having pretty good sex. It wasn’t mind blowing as we had been drinking but it was not at all rubbish as a good level of intimacy between us. My deal breaker was going to be a small dick - he doesn’t have one . He was definitely a good choice of shagging partner but I think he’s already trying to be my boyfriend and I think I will need more time for that level

I know what this is, we don’t have mad sexual chemistry, but we feel comfortable with each other. I think it could mean we have good sex but it could also mean I am susceptible to getting the ick. I don’t look at him and think ‘rip my clothes off now’ but he is very tactile and makes cuddling and sexual contact really warm and inviting. It didn’t feel at all weird or awkward or uncomfortable. But I don’t know if I need that real big surge of attraction to keep this alive. I’m really confused

Just catching up again!

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I hope you're feeling ok. I've felt like I'm in a similar rut a lot of the time.

I'm doing much better on the FWB thing. I've not been spending much time thinking of him and although I miss him I'm feeling ok really. I'm just getting on with my life. I'm even being good and ignoring his story on Snapchat 😂

Well the unnamed iron has been messaging me every day and seems a really nice guy. I really like the look of him. Hopefully seeing him tomorrow but Ive got a cough- should I call it off or still go?

@Menora I'm glad you had a good evening. Just take it slow and see what happens and enjoy the shagging!

I'm worried about that actually. That I meet this new iron and like him but what if he has a small dick? God I'm awful 😂

Haha at the small dick commebts! I'm just wondering if I have a slack fanjo after a number of not so great vaginal births! There's definitely some birth trauma that I'm not really over.

I am happy to just do the shagging but I don’t think he will be 😂
It’s like a role reversal!
I feel bad about small dick but I don’t think I have a small vagina. It’s not as tight as it once was. It needs some girth in it 😂😂

The other deal breaker is foreplay obviously. Tonight was like a hot and heavy quicky, we didn’t hang about 😂

I think he will do whatever I tell him to do so he is trainable out of any previous bad habits to be honest

I had two sections but my boobs are completely destroyed after breastfeeding so I don't really know if things are different down there but seem to feel the same for me. I'm sure you're fine @UncorrectedDoormat

FWB fitted me perfectly I have to say. And it was bendy in just the right way. Perfect for g-spot 😊

I'm listening to music and. aptly Rude Boy just came on.

Come here rude boy boy is you big enough 😂

@Menora. Sounds good with mr moving. I’m not sure anyone (or very rarely) sees someone and wants to rip their clothes off 🤷🏼‍♀️.

I’ve got my date / Netflix and chill with mr gray tomorrow let’s see if we can manage 4 times again 😂.

Lots of asserting of boundaries on the thread 👍 My ex also called me selfish if I wouldn't do what he wanted me to do ...

I knew Mr BC was a keeper the first night we DTD - 6 or 7 times in a few hours and I lost count of the orgasms lol Helps that he's also funny and nice to chat to - he's just made me tea and toast we've been having one of our middle of the night chats 😍

Hi all, I’ve just been catching up, a bit of a rollercoaster on here at the moment isn’t it? I hope you’re all ok.

I’ve got my first child free work free day for ages today, and had a brunch date lined up with an iron who I’ve been chatting to daily for 3 weeks. As the date has got closer the chatting and flirting ramped up, he’s been saying he’s really keen to meet and so am I. I was getting quite excited about it in work yesterday. Messaged him as usual when I got home from work as a reply to his message he sent at lunchtime. Nothing. No reply. He’s read it, been online, no reply.

Do I message him again to check we’re on or assume we’re not? Or just turn up anyway? Feeling pretty sad about it, I was so looking forward to a Christmas kiss.. that’s all I wanted! 😂

Either way I’m going to take myself out for the day before dc come home later and Christmas craziness begins.

In case I wasn’t clear, he always replies and has send a goodnight message and a good morning message first each day for three weeks, until now when we’re due to meet!

I’m not sure what to say , it’s odd he read it and hasn’t replied. Maybe message later to say you are leaving and see if he responds . Still go out and enjoy your day and if he doesn’t respond about meeting it’s his loss

@Ginghampanther read it and not replied - after 3 weeks of continual chat I'd delete his number and chat now. The date either isnt happening or if it is and there isnt a great reason why he didnt respond he's just rude/thoughtless. If there is one thing that chaps my ass it's not respecting a persons time.

I can't think of any good reason for that behaviour! What a jerk.

@Jane1978xx @supercali77 thanks both, I’m planning on going to town anyway so I’ll message him when I’m leaving as you suggested Jane. I can take myself for brunch! I was a bit gutted last night, especially when I saw he had been online and for the first time ever hadn’t replied to me 🤷‍♀️