Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

nomore hang in there!

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking that's being a single parent sometime. Ride it...

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. Hang on there you don’t mean it. This is a bad time of year for new things all round just make the best of it it for the children.

Deleted but not blocked. We'll see.

I hear you nomore.

Sorry @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I didn't mean that to sound harsh. I meant something more like, this too shall pass...

Aww @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I hope I didn't upset you. I really hope things starting getting better for you. Please try and talk to someone tho.

Thank you @Eesha

@lifegoes great news and fingers crossed things continue to go well with new guy. Does he have a (nick) name..?

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I have felt a bit like you today and it's horrible but I know it will pass and it will for you too. This time of year is had enough when you have kids, let one being a single mum and, in my case having my wedding anniversary and anniversary of me finding out about the affair within 10 days of each other over Xmas.

I used to love this time and now I just want to shut myself away from everyone and everything and wake up in the new year.

Am I right in thinking it's still early days for you? Give yourself time xx

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I've had moments where I feel like that too. But your children do care. And you are loved.

Thank you @Sunshineandflipflops that's lovely of you to say. I think I'll call him Mr Action ha

Not so much upset me as point out the bleeding obvious.
I am worth more than being ignored

And I've joined a gay dating site because: fuck men

NoMore I don’t blame you, I’m pretty much done with men too.

Mr Beard reappeared after vanishing for 3 days. Apparently he’s living off grid (in a caravan) but didn’t want to tell me, he had a power cut at the weekend and was unable to charge his phone which is why he vanished.

My mate spotted me on POF the other day, we have been friends since we were kids and we have slept with each other several times, he has started messaging me looking for a Christmas shag I think. I really don’t want to go there 😐.

Pickings are slim at the moment.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking dont let the actions of one man knock you into orbit. They come and they go. And the ones that dont...well fair enough. You'll get to a point where you recognise the time wasters early doors. Initiating most of the contact has ime meant they are flakes. It gets flushed out in the end but if someone doesnt do equal or more to me I drop it. No hard feelings. Hold on with a light hand. Theres no point going to women if you dont fancy them. The answer really isnt there

NoMore have a hug - it's a difficult time of year and a crap time for OLD.

lifegoes exciting! I hope it all continues to go well.

Sunshine don't cut your nose off to spite your face! You want to see him!! Sometimes I see Mr BC from 8 pm until we both have to get up at 5 am the following day to go to work, it's still worth it 😍

I think it's a full moon today - maybe that's why we're all in a grump!

Supercali.
I am technically bi but I've been straight so long I don't know what to do.

And it's not just one bloody man is it?

no more I felt like you do today too
Both DC have been ill and need lifts everywhere and I have no help at all. This weekend I want to go out but there is no one to do any of the Stuff that needs doing. One of my DC is very resistant to change (she’s 17) and can play me up. If ex knows I want to go out he is even more unhelpful than normal. And DD15 doesn’t even visit him so if I go out this weekend I have the guilt of leaving her alone by herself indoors for hours. Or having a man round who she doesn’t know in her house which is not safe obviously!

I am worried that I am settling for Mr Moving because he’s keen and not messing me about. I have fallen into this trap before - it’s such a relief to not play games that I have to convince myself I actually like them. I’m going to have to shag him to find out what I think. So I bought some new underwear. But I can’t wear underwire in a bra so the underwear is either fugly or sporty.

No more- if you're bi you might as well. Increase your options heh. No it's not. Believe me I've been there. I multi dated in the end. Was honest. Didnt exactly improve outcomes but it stopped me from being fixated on one person. In the beginning it's hard but the reality is....the people that ghost, are rude, weird etc....its on them. Theres a ton of reasons why they do it that I've discovered. Gfs, weird relationships with their exes, attachment differences, blah blah. So I tend not to take it personally. It took 2 years to get to this point tho

Btw. Christmas brings all the Christmas ghosts to the whatsapp eh? Haha

Right I’m messaging all my matches. Wish me luck 😂

Glad al is good lifegoes

God speed marlbs!

@Menora Primark has some pretty, lacy, non-underwired bra and underwear sets. I've worn them in dates and they were appreciated.

@Menora. Also m n s bralette

I'm so sexually frustrated...I just want to shag mr straight when I meet him. That's not me though and don't want to give the wrong impression.