Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@EchoElephant I see ! He sounds like a good guy x

@EchoElephant Are you absolutely sure of his story?

supercali77 as sure as I can be.
I had heard her side of the story via a friend of a friend. Mr FO didn't know this when he told me his side.
What he said matches up but he filled in the details. And it wasn't so much what he said but how he described what happened.

He's clearly still struggling to understand what happened and why she turned against him. She also turned many of his friends against him. So for him to introduce me to the few he has left, is a big deal.

I can't say any more as it would be too outing.

Just catching up...

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking saw your update about your mole. 💐 for you, I'm sure it will all be fine.

I'm shitting myself atm tbh. Had a smear 3 weeks ago and got the results today, there are abnormal cells and I need a colposcopy. I'm gutted. I had to have this several years ago- abnormal cells, colposcopy confirmed CIN2 changes and I had to have LLETZ to treat it.

It was horrible, I really don't want to go through it all again. They told me back then the chances of me ever needing treatment were minuscule. I know that doesn't mean impossible but even so I'm gutted. I'm on yearly recall anyway and it was fine a year ago so surely it can't be that serious?

Ugh. This is the sort of thing FWB would have helped me with.

Thedevilspedicure - i hear you. Having to deal with shit like this alone is so much harder than when you have support x

So when do you stop "dating" and become a couple then? OLD has been successful (hopefully). Is meeting the kids (adults before anyone says too soon) a sign you are a couple, meeting the family? Seems so fast but so right . Don't know how you play do it with small kids, it was hard enough with a 19 year old at home (thankfully happy to oblige and stay at her boyfriends)

@TheDevilsPedicure

Me too, at first I wasn't bothered with rushing to sort at my divorce but now I don't want to wait 2 years (well 15 months now) wonder if I'll persuade him to let me cite unreasonable behaviour or adultery.

@lifeisgoodagain my ex h is prob going to put constructive abandonment ( I didn’t have sex with him) but that was due to him cheating and not admitting it or getting himself checked out. However the cheating won’t count as it was more than 6 months ago 🤷🏼‍♀️. I don’t really care what he puts

I asked my kids over dinner if they would like to meet Mr Ad after Xmas and they both very excitedly said yes and asked a few questions about him.

Just need to think about how we're going to do it but looks like it's happening!

Exciting times!

I'm trig to decide what to wear for my fate on Sat. Going out to eat but don't know where, then hopefully back here for sex.

The least controversial option is skinny jeans, black button up shirt with a couple of buttons open, black patent stilettos.

However i like wearing dresses and skirts but it's easy to look overdressed in those and i wear most of mine for work so they feel worky. I have a new green velvet one that I'm dying to wear but that would really be quite dressy which would be weird unless he was taking me somewhere really rather naice and i doubt he would...

I should just go with jeans shouldn't i?
Shame. He seemed to rather enjoy the stockings i had under my work skirt during our carpark snog...

L word exchanged for the 1st time 🤗

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking yes and good underwear, don’t look like you’ve made too much effort 🔥. I wouldn’t be able to eat 😬😬

I have lots of good underwear. Would probably just go for classic black this time though.

Ant - so excited for you!

ant 👍

@shitwithsugaron how are you doing?

Congrats @TooOldForThis67 wish you lots of happiness

Ahh lovely Ant

yay ant

great to hear from you tooold glad all is well. Another lovely update from batshit

Shitwith hope you are ok?

So Mr Tredgy has taken to sending me selfies of his bare chast with his tongue out which is pretty grim!

I really really need some good irons! think I might just take Xmas off and start again next year.

I have just been deleting old WA chats and have accidently deleted Mr Big! He actually said something to me last night that I found mildly offensive so am now thinking it might be good to start the new year with him out of my phone and my life.

16 more days until Mr G is in the countryyyyyyyy

Not that you're counting or anything...

Got a bad feeling I'm going to get cancelled on.
No specific reason. Just previous experience-related paranoia combing with the radio silence.

I hope I'm wrong

@lifeisgoodagain re: meeting adult kids. I'm arranging for mine to meet MrDr over the Christmas period and he in turn is arranging for me to meet his family (siblings - he has no kids). We met via friends and have been seeing each other for 8 weeks. If my kids were young, I'd definitely be pulling back the reins sharpish. However, they are adults. I'm late 40s, MrDr is early 50s and we've spoken about how right it feels between us.

Yay @Ant330! I'm assuming it was a 2 way thing?

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking is he not contacting you at all ? It’s a crazy busy time of year and also I think once you’ve been wooed enough to agree to a sleepover then the chatting does drop off a bit.

I’m seeing mr gray Sunday but no idea of the plan (apart from maybe the end of the plan 😂)