Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@tigerdater look up cleaning Dyson on YouTube they work amazing after.

I’ve managed to smash my phone, I pad and a tv in the space of 2 weeks 😂😂

I had an appt last week. A referral from the GP to look at getting a mole removed. It's in a .... delicate... area. Not one that has ever seen the sun and I've had the mole a long time so the GP was not concerned about it. I was bothered because it is a delicate area and sometimes gets caught.

Yesterday i received a letter offering me an apptbfor a biopsy. Something about that word freaked me the fuck out and i spent all evening sobbing and just wishing I wasn't on my own. I so badly needed someone to come give me a hug.

Not helped by attending my children's nativity on my own for the first time.

Today i look like I've been punched in the eyes. Im trying not to think about the procedure until it's upon me. (Feb. Right around valentines day. Super)

jane for me it’s been washing machine, dryer, Dyson, car and 😥dog😥. Plus work on house that’s been poor quality. I’m furious all the time.

nomore massive hug from me. That’s a lot to deal with. Are your parents, friends etc supportive? It’s ok to ask for help. 💐

Hugs to you. It broke me Getting out the xmas decs and all the memories . I am sure the procedure will be fine if they were concerned you be in ASAP

Friends and parents are amazing. Right there on end of phone.

Not the same thing at all.

Restrained myself from throwing myself on the mercy of stbx or Mr Fast Work. I inahine either of them would have been supportive but with one I need to establish new boundaries and the other I just haven't known long enough or well enough. Especially as he is really not a phone user. I think the only time he goes on WhatsApp is when i message him. He's pretty good at replying but never initiates. He's happy to talk on the phone/call me but it's my suggestion. I think he's keen abd I'm trying to remember that in years gone by you would have total radio silence between dates and as long as he makes and keeps dates and those go well then I shouldn't think he's not interested. However i suspect this weekend will see a bit of a 'wtf is this?' kind of discussion. I don't need mega commitment but I'd like to know what he thinks...

And I'd like to he able to ring him if i need a hug.

In other news i got an ioening msg last night saying 'Fancy a spoon? Xx'

I replied saying i was just about to close down for the night and got:

'Haha xx'
'Don't be shy xx'
'I’m not an asshole xx'

What can you even say to that?

*opening

Only assholes need to tell you they aren't one!

Mr BC and I have had some lovely conversations about how much we mean to each other - he's so open with me and like TooOld says, we don't play games and freely admit we miss each other.

Haha I’ve had messages like that. Desparate!! How many times have you met mr fast work now ? Are you seeing him weekend

Had two dates. Seeing him Saturday evening/ Night and then again Sunday afternoon.

Second date was quite... i don't want to say intense, but the conversational topics were much more of the 'establishing a relationship' type than the FWB type. Ie- discussing whether the othet wanted children etc

I would imagine that will end up all running into one ! Hope you were on the same page with those discussions.

No more I am sure this is just routine try not to worry xx

I just had an impromptu second date with Mr Moving 😳
He came over and we walked the dog then had a cup of tea. It was very well behaved! I can’t believe I invited him in to my actual house! I am so anxious about things like that. We just chatted, it was really nice

Little update; myself and Mr Friends Only are now officially dating.

This is the bloke that has backed away twice saying he could only be friends with me.

Long story and I can't tell it all on here, but he asked to meet so he could explain himself. And he told me his story. Something that happened in his recent past.
He has been pushing me away in an attempt to protect me. But saw me in a pub one evening and realised how stupid he'd been.

I know it sounds like red flag central but now I know what's been going on, his actions make more sense.

I've met a lot of his friends, he's met some of mine. I am still being cautious but at the moment it all looks good. I'm sidling up to the smitten bench

NoMore I had a mole removed a few years ago, had biopsy first and was then rushed through for surgery the following week, mine was in a place that had seen a lot of sun and it turned out to be something nasty (though it was at pre cancerous stage). Removal wasn’t too bad. Sending a big hug.

I just wanted to update you all on Mr Straight ( the one I have been messaging for over 3 weeks now). Turns out he was hesitant more as there is a bit of backstory with his ex and his kids, along with the distance.

Anyway he has now asked to meet me, and seems extremely keen. I don't know when this will be, probably in a couple of weeks, but he seems open to the idea now of an LTR ( if we get on as well as we do in person).

I am happy, and hope we get on when we meet.....so fingers crossed.

Completely understand he may be nothing like I imagine in person though!

@Menora sounds good and you might have a new friend if nothing else

@EchoElephant is that the one who got angry and had to go home ? Glad it’s working out and you’ve found a way around his issues

@bangheadhere40 glad you are happy and will get to meet him. But I’d still exercise some caution as he did act a little oddly. Also you really can’t say how you’ll feel until you meet

Seems like these men often have baggage or issues 🤷🏼‍♀️. Maybe we women do as well but men are more likely to share early on. Mr Gray has a bit of a crazy past and also current issues but I’m just playing it casual for now and see what happens.

I’ve just gone back on his Facebook, I don’t know why 😂. I’m trying to reassure myself he’s not a weirdo

I actually think he might have told a fib about how recent his last break up was. I think it was much more recent than just 3 months ago 🤔 which is annoying. His ex changed her profile picture to one of them both on 11th November!

I’m feeling really torn over whether to jump in like he seems to want to or keep looking. He has made it really clear he wants to jump in

They all seem to have 'baggage'. Mr Straight is basically a single dad, the mum only wants to see the kids for 2 hours a fortnight, so it is obviously very difficult for him.

So even if we do get on I'm not sure how it would work being 2 hours away and him not getting any time free from his kids. We have discussed it ( stopping talking) but we can't really stop talking to each other and really like each other, thus far.

It can't Jane. I have to do child duty Sun morning

@nomorewheepingandwanking that will be a struggle if you don’t sleep ;-)

@Menora that’s his ex thou so it depends on the situation 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@bangheadhere40. That’s very unusual for a parent to do that , hopefully that not a barrier to meeting

Jane1978xx no, not that one.
He was someone I dated in between Mr Friends Only.

You know how someone mentions an iron & the whole thread says "Run!!". Well, Mr FO got involved with someone like that and is still dealing with the consequences.

He told me a little of it when we first met. But it's only recently that he's told me the whole story. Knowing what he's been through & how he's dealt with it, makes me like him more. He could've walked away from her but tried to help & it back fired badly for him.

Great update @TooOldForThis67 very pleased for you!

Same to you @BatshitCrazyWoman good to hear you and MrBC still going strong (although sorry to hear about the circumstances with your dad) and good news on house sales for both you and @unambiguousbeard

I've been thinking about selling my house, but that will have to wait as in other news I also resigned yesterday so I will finish 2019 divorced and unemployed, which sounds bloody awful but I couldn't be happier!