Ex dp, ds, fake name, extra kids, second thread

[Fedupofitnow123]

Thank you for your continued support, I'm starting this thread regarding the impending court hearing tomorrow, if someone could link my previous thread that would ne highly appreciated!

@thetiaramanager at least 3 weeks after my due date! So hope that will be ok

A bit of a break for you. No judge is going to like being talked over. He sounds hideous, you are well shot 💜

And that means 3 weeks of post partum that you can legit say you don't want him around

I hope they see through it, he makes a good job of talking over the judge and saying he doesnt agree with things, so we will see

God he really does sound like such an insufferable cunt. It makes me smile how many of us in the MN army are with you when you're in court (or just day to day). If he only knew how many people see through him and his bullshit! Rooting for you as always

What a bastard. If has been previously accused of domestic abuse can this be mentioned?

Hey fedupofitnow123 I've just read both threads & just wanted to say how awesome and strong you are. I really admire you for putting your son & bump first and getting out of such a horrid relationship.

You will have saved your kids from being messed up & having to go through therapy in their adult life. I wish my Mum had been as strong as you.

I saw EMDR mentioned a couple of times and have to agree with PP's, it's been life changing for me and I would 100% recommend it.

Good luck, keep on doing what you're doing & I'm sure the bastard will get his comeuppance.

(Flowers)

@BackseatCookers pmsl at insufferable cunt. I’m going to shamelessly steal that description

What's hard is remembering why we left, I've re-read the notebook back through and since doing the freedom program I can really see now why the police first suggested coercive control, It's also hard to believe we went through it, but the good times, the ones he has shown...

He attached a load of photos in his statement of the good times, me smiling, him happy, ds happy, and it looked so perfect! It's hard to shake that.

I have mentioned his other name in my statement and his previous convictions as well! We just have to wait.

He is saying I was abused as a child and told him of my psychological issues, wondering what cafcass will say about that, so my anxiety is through the roof, it's lies obviously, but it is literally my word against his!

He really is pulling all the stops out. Hopefully they will have seen plenty like him and see through it all. He's been doing this for years so is an expert. People like him make me sick.

Keep strong. You know why you've left, even your son does. Keep that in your head.

how are you OP ? are you okay

@bumblebee69 I am ok thank you, hope you are well too?

Cafcass have advised no contact atm so riding that wave, ds is happy and enjoying being homeschooled again (he had been in school since December)

We are facing eviction from my parents which has infuriated my midwife as it was issued after the lockdown was put in place.

So, the battle continues, the hardest months of my life but I'm not living in constant anxiety as I was back with ex, so, trying not to complain

Eviction? when is it proposed you leave?

Is this to make it easier for you to be housed?

30th April, no it isn't to help us find housing, it was completely out of the blue. It's caused a load of problems for us as as you can imagine we are actually trying to leave but it isn't easy, especially now! Oh and don't forget, baby is due 21st April!

Parents boss/landlord sent a very cheeky letter through to them, reducing their pay among other things and then asking us to leave as well.

Thank you for updating I have been worried and thinking about you.

So sorry to read that-how can you be evicted now? That is awful

Are they evicting all of you or just you and DS? I can't believe they're allowed to do that in light of the current situation.

Don't take my word for it but I thought all evictions were on hold for now. Im sure I read that on here.

Just because you have been given notice to leave, doesn’t mean that you’ll need to leave by the end of April.

A friend of mine was given notice of an eviction and it took six months for the landlord (going via court) to do it. Now, due to this pandemic it’s probably going to take longer than that.

Glad to read that you had enrolled your DS into school. This will give evidence in your favour, in regards to his progress and if he had disclosed anything to staff etc.

Don't take my word for it but I thought all evictions were on hold for now. Im sure I read that on here.

I think your correct... I'd look into this further OP... you cannot be moving anywhere right now... period

Yea just me and ds, thing is, I don't want to put parents tenancy in jeopardy, so that's a worry too! Though dad says not to leave in April, but his tenancy! Urgh.

I don't know, I feel that it has been one battle after another and sometimes I just feel so so tired of it all! I've filled out a homelessness application with the council now and I just have to keep bidding on houses, I just pray they are able to help us and we can avoid emergency housing! :(

christ OP... thinking of you and your parents... what a dilemma

@bumblebeee69 thank you! And thank you everyone for your continued support, it's been a massive crutch to me, especially for court appearances

It doesn't just rain, it pours doesn't it op?

Keep on plodding on. You'll get there.

Absolutely pours! It's just poured and poured, no idea how we have got this far. I keep dreaming if us in our own place, be it a flat or a house, with our own routine and our space... just waiting...