Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Try not to worry too much, @Peanutbuttermouth. The way I see it - I'm a late 30s woman who has children, if anyone expects rock-hard abs and unblemished skin, they ought to be looking elsewhere. I'm just an ordinary person. Anyone who makes me feel bad about that can get lost.

Also I was re-ghosted after 6 dates so there's no insurance against it. Some of these guys are so confused and confusing. Yours does sound a lot nicer than mine Peanut.

I would talk to him, but try not to put it in a needy way that you are terrified of him leaving, just that you only want to have sex when you feel things are going well, and what are his thoughts? then let him speak

Yeah it is tbf , if I didn’t have to get my daugher from school yest id prob have gone back after my lunch 😂 I’m that horny 😂😂

I once saw a man about 5 times, had sex with him in my house, went to sleep and when I woke up he was gone! Just gone, poof. Prick. Some of them you just can't tell.

So try not to take anything personally, it's them - not us.

Wow leaving your house that harsh ! I understand some men want no strings but it’s easy enough to get that 🤷🏼‍♀️

It was years ago but yeah, I was shocked. He let himself out when I was asleep.

Maybe I was just a crap shag!

and it is actually me - oh fuck.

Highly doubt it! Some men will date a woman for as long as it takes to sleep with her and then leave.

Thanks everyone! It's not even the mum body thing, I'd say I'm pretty confident, it's just the potential for disappearance I'm worried about! I should talk to him shouldn't I.

yeah talk to him, that's the best bet.

Or say something cheesy like I hope we are on the same page about this being the start of something and not the end

just that you only want to have sex when you feel things are going well, and what are his thoughts? then let him speak I like this I'll say something like this I think but as you've all said there's nothing I can do to prevent it happening anyway

try and make it about the sex being an issue, not him, then you won't come across as being needy about him.

What is it with OLD the number of men 40+ who have no kids but now want them? Rules so many out for me as I am sterile 😂

Do they really want kids thou or just put that so younger women won’t exclude them

I think you are right Jane

Its unbelievable menora. so many of them still wanting kids. I have 2 of my own and will not be having more!

I think its a difficult age bracket as a lot of men seem to be freshly separated and have young kids/ potentially getting back with ex OR divorced and only looking for casual OR finally decided they want a baby of their own.

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Men just seem to be leaving it so late

Can I just ask a quick opinion...? Stockings and suspenders...yay or nay? I think Mr Ad quite likes the idea but I've always thought them a little tacky. I have some but can't quite summon the courage to wear them!

If you’d like to surprise him and he’s defo like it. But I think There’s much nicer more modern sexy underwear

You could try them once sunshine and if you dont like it you can subscribe them to the rubbish bin

I have done it before, always with a positive response but I am very coscious of my cellulite.

Yeah, I'm not the most body confident but he's seen me in less so...