Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

[MoreNiceCereal]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Menora that doesn’t sound good at all! Especially not feeling trapped on dates. Actually any of it, the gaming and the potential money issues. And the drink driving! Probably a good idea to step away?

My swiping last night resulted in mr pony, who asked for a date after about 3 messages. He’s reasonably local.. not many people are as I’m in the sticks, and does look quite nice. Country type guy. Lovely shaggy hair, my type. I said yes, see what happens. He hasn’t unmatched overnight so that’s a start!

@Menora eek! Violent tendencies as well? Time to send a message?

I’m sure generally he is a nice person but he world is your oyster do you want to settle 🤷🏼‍♀️. Do you want to come second to swords . And if he likes you he could arrange a longer more involved date rather than you watch him sip a pint

Talking of shaggy hair, have you seen the grey haired guy on the 50+ dating site advertisement? Mr Wobbly Head he'd be called in this thread

The woman on it is all excited about what lies ahead - um ghosting, breadcrumbing, benching and dick pics love. Get real. 😂

So Mr.Gray of the Thursday car park snog has been messaging. He’s quite sexually intense I think is the best way to describe it. Not sexting and not asking me to agree to anything just putting some information out there. It’s hard to explain but I must have made an impression in that hour and a half . He does seem lovely and genuine but I’ll have to keep an eye he’s not going overboard 😬

@Azzizam 😂 I haven’t!

@Jane1978xx ooh interesting.. when’s the next date?

Wednesday but might meet for an hour sunday depending on times we have our children

menora regardless of everything else you’re obviously not feeling it. I feel raged about him sipping his pint, stopping to say he likes you and you want to gooooo

I have a new iron. Shall call him Mr Tredgy. He is perfection so far. Ticks all my boxes. Only matched and messaged last night do really hoping he doesn’t unmatched me 😬

3 messages ginger speedy work!

I ended up putting my coat on and saying I need to go now, he still tried to long it out! 😡

And another one bites the dust.

Mr IT has ditched me before meeting me.

Honestly- all the ones I actually connect with just leg it. I'm starting to get a real complex. Am i only attracted to the broken ones?

My fwb/FB from a couple of months ago has just messaged me this morning. I was pretty sure he wasn't that into me, it's weird he's gotten in touch. I haven't replied yet.

@Menora if he’s making you angry I wouldn’t carry on

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking as the title says it’s a funny time Of year 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@MoreNiceCereal. What did he say ? That’s odd months on

He's just asking how I'm doing. I have just replied with a bland "busier than ever!" type message. I want to bat him off but I don't want to tell him reasons why. My life isn't his business.

Sounds like a good answer x

NMWAW Nope!!

I went on Badoo for a few days. I must admit I hate when my phone goes really quiet and accept the compliments with a realistic ego check. So if I get a "your 😉sexy" I reply "thanks for noticing". This then produces a flurry of messages which I ignore.
Eventually I get tired and sickened by it all and delete the app.
They're right though. I am one fine sexy woman. . They have zero chance though. The whole thing feels like a waste of time mostly.
I feel very repulsed by the porn addicts and their pathetic dick pics.
The fact they are wanking at 7 am and think you'd want to sext them to a happy ending is . Also sending messages when most people are at work is so indicative of their world of dick and quite frankly lack of intelligence!
Bitter - moi?

Tattoos. I have a couple of small ones - arm and shoulder.
I have a new iron and we've arranged to meet next week. But I've just realised his profile says 'no large visible tattoos'

Should I mention mine before meeting him? He could possibly see the one on my arm. But he won't see the other til at least date 3!

@echo, no don't mention it!

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking sorry these men are being so odd - I really do believe it's them, I am just the same though, the ones I actually think it would go somewhere with don't seem to want it, and the ones that do I don't want!

Me and Mr Straight are still chatting, just on a friendly basis! I'm not pushing to meet, I'm getting on with messaging other men, but can't let him go ( just yet).

@menora, I really would stop this now, he is telling you what he is potentially like with the frying pan incident, and sounds like if you drag it on he will just get worse x

@menora, he also sounds quite clingy if he is going overboard now...

NoMoreWeepingAndWanking try not to take it personally. It's them, not you.
There's probably loads of different reasons why people change their minds and you'll tie yourself in knots trying to understand.

bangheadhere40 that's what I thought. If he likes me then a little tattoo shouldn't make any difference.
After all my ex-husband said he'd divorce me if I ever got one - took him 20 years to get round to doing it.

Azzizam Badoo is bonkers. But I like your attitude, especially your reply to the 'you're sexy' texts. I usually just send the sleeping emoji.

Ok so. What do I do now. What do I say

Ex-fwb was definitely sniffing around for action. I think I successfully ended the conversation without revealing any personal information. I deleted his number! Didn't even know who he was at first! Even if I'm single in the future, he's not an option. I'm not a fwb sort of person, I've decided.

@Menora "it's been nice getting to know you, but this isn't working for me."

Or skip with first part, if you want. I'm too nice for my own good a lot of the time. (See above - I obviously wasn't clear enough with that guy when I broke it off, that I don't want to meet up with him ever again. My bad)

@Menora I think you have to be very direct if you are not interested, as he sounds persistent.

can you send a text? Hi Mr Polite, I have been thinking and I don't think we are suitable, so I don't want to have any more dates. I have enjoyed getting to know you, but I don't see a definite match. I wish you well in the future, Menora x

p.s you are fuckin weird with the sword comment you absolute freak! ( maybe don't add that bit)