Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Thank you for your suggestions, btw

Pof defo is curvy friendly you can put if you are a few extra lbs or bbw. And when people sign up you can say yes / no or only those catergories to be shown. Also a lot of men I. Their bio say looking for curvy lady Althou that can mean diff things to diff people

@TimeTravellingDiamond the problem
With colleagues isnt going out with them it’s if you break up.

I think he's leaving in January as his contract is up....

@Jane1978xx great news about the car park snogging!

I spent about an hour swiping tonight, I’m not sure it was the best use of my time, resulted in three bumble matches, one unmatched as soon as I sent a message, one replied just saying ‘hi’ and then not to my second message and one no response.

@TimeTravellingDiamond go for it then!

In a weird coincidence I've just come across a bloke with a foot fetish. Mentioned it on his profile. Then in his first message after asking how my week was and was I going to any Christmas parties would I love have my feet rubbed for hours. Wonder if it's the same one from up thread.

Fuck me these people exist in real life too

@TimeTravellingDiamond. Go for it then. If you were both there long term or it was the absolute best job you’d ever had then maybe not mess that up but this looks good

I'm unsure what to do.... the other girls at work say go for it. He really seems to like me.

I don't fancy him like FWB....

@phamny, laughing about the foot fetish! Never come across one myself.

I have nice feet too..totally wasted!

@time traveller, go for it

@Ginghampanther I hated bumble even when I paid and I could see who swiped me no one and I mean no one ever replied 😂😂😂

I want a man with a foot fetish as having someone to lick my feet every day that isn’t a Labrador is top of my wish list. Needs to make tea whenever I want it too.

How are you all getting on
I hope you are ok Bang

I have had my 3rd date with Mr Polite and I think I have the Ick
He’s still polite but I am finding him irritating he tries to long dates out and it’s really annoying. I’ve run out of soft drink and the night has come to its natural end, he’s still sipping 3/4 of his 3rd pint then driving home at the end
He keeps saying he doesn’t want the dates to end. I do I am tired!
Also re money, I pushed it a bit on this topic nothing direct and he visibly changes his whole body language when he talks about money. He seems tense and his leg jitters

I think I need to throw this one back in

@bangheadhere40 😂 those lovely feet going to waste!! Get that friend of yours and head off out!

@menora when the ick arrives it never leaves. EVERYTHING will annoy you now. Don’t waste any more of your precious time.

Driving after 3 pints isn’t great. What are you asking him about money ?

@dillite I found wooplus rubbish, there seemed to be no filter for distance. def try other sites, I just make sure my photos make my size clear and I put in my profile that I'm larger than average.

I did have quite a few contact me on POF because they were feeders tho and that wasnt my thing, made me feel a bit weird and sad at the same time.

Jane I think he’s got money problems. Just something is ‘off’

So we were bowling and he mentioned he likes gaming (another X) and I said ‘oh that can be an expensive hobby! He completely visibly flapped

I then said was he into any particular type of game, like World of Warcraft or something he said he had played it but wasn’t addicted to it. I then made a comment about games that suck you in with add on costs like ‘buy this sword for only £2.99’ and he said yes he had in the past been sucked in and before he knew it ‘spent £200 on in game purchases’

He was then talking about his divorce a little bit, and that he used to have an Audi. I said do you miss it? And this is when he had shaking legs and went a bit weird when he was discussing it

Also do not like the driving after 3 pints AT ALL

I really do not like the way he makes me feel trapped on a date. Like I can’t leave yet. I am always waiting for him to finish his food/drink as he purposefully takes extra long so we continue the date. He also likes to meet about 6.30pm

He doesn’t sound like a keeper !

@menora, sorry but he sounds very odd and a bit like an over grown school kid.

The drinking is a definite no and the money / gaming thing is just odd.

@menora....how di you feel about it?

And where you said he was taking about spending £200 on swords for a game, like it just happens to all of us!

Never happened to me....

I forgot - he also once threw a frying pan into a plasterboard wall

He thought this was a funny story
On pint 3 he kind of loosened up a bit and was blurting things

He also said 27 times how much he liked me

Can you tell I didn’t sleep well 😂