Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

aww how the tables have turned lol. I'm down to 1 iron and I'd like to know if hes still on dating apps - just out of interest, only been on 1 date but he did stay over. I've not been on and happy not to be if hes not but dont wanna come across as a weirdo if I ask him 😫. I'd like to tell him I'm a one guy kinda girl but dont wanna scare him off.

also I wanna ask him on another date, I need to book childcare so need some notice. I hate this 😂

those who are on the smitten bench or a few dates in, when do u usually bring these sorts of things up and like exclusivity?

I've already asked him if he thought it could work as our childcare kinda clashes and he said he 'thinks u can always make it work if they're right'. I suppose that was his opportunity for an out.

@crazy that does sound positive with his last answer....I do agree with him.

as you say he could have had a way out then and he didn't!

@Jane1978xx haha, thanks I do appreciate it...x

Thinking of you today Tiger.

Have not messaged Mr Fast Work. He has not messaged me. This is fine. We have a date set up and we're both working. There does not need to be constant comms. Repeat until I believe it

@weeping, when is your date? is it your first date?

@banghead here then buying you a big glass of wine 😂😂

@crazycatlady20 so my iron date 3 I’m going round to his if you know what I mean. We haven’t had an exclusive talk but I’ve told him I’ve only been on a few casual dates (no sex) since ex h and he has only been on a few first dates recently. So we know neither of us is seeing anyone else at the mo but there was no agreement we wouldn’t 🤷🏼‍♀️ But personally I wouldn’t sleep with more than one person .

Tiger I too am sorry about your dog. Last September I had to get my cat out to sleep amidst heartbreak of being ghosted for the second time by someone I'd really taken to.
It reminded me how much I'd been let down over and over again by a man in my time of need. for you.

@bangheadhere40 Ditch this man immediately! the reason behind why he's wasting your precious time is an unsolveable mystery. Might be catfish. Married. Have a malfunctioning penis implant. The list is endless. There are just 'penpals' on there too - you get them. They are a pain in the arse and take up time with fake text intimacy

Lots of very new people on here, haven't been on in a while.

banghead - date number 2. Mr Fast Work indeed. Matched on Sat. Met on Sun. Second date this Weds. I reckon if I message him then he'd reply but I wabt him to take the lead a bit

And yes. Stop thinking of his feelings banghead and just block and delete. You need to prioritise you.

tiger hope today goes as well as it can.
Remember however you feel is right.

@supercali - I never even considered the fact he may be married....wow! I guess it's possible.

@Jane1978xx are u talking to other guys as well as the date 3 iron?

mr builder hasnt text me since his reply this morning, which isnt long. as far as I'm aware he had no plans but I'm bored at work concentrating on it. I may or may not double text 😂

I’m
Talking to one other . I’ve been talking to him a long time but it’s more like friends. We don’t speak all the time just in bursts like ok a Sunday afternoon.

My profile is off otherwise.

@bangheadhere40 definitely ditch that one- too much hassle and weirdness already!

Tinder and bumble seem to be completely drying up atm..... is hinge any good?

I’ve found most people are on tinder and one other app so I’m not sure it will be new people.

is tinder better than POF? I have only tried POF so far

I would love to go speed dating, but they don't have anything like that round here....they don't have much of anything round here

I like Pof , I just message people near me 😂😂 if we have matched or not 🤷🏼‍♀️. The thing is for matches you may see someone you like but they very rarely go on. I just trawl for nearby people or search for who I want 😂😂.

I didnt like hinge. I'm not sure if I hadn't set it up correctly but no close matches or anyone in the right age bracket I swear someone still in school messaged me haha.

You get that everywhere or the profile says 32 and they are actually 26

Oh god I don't want kids messaging me! Yikes!

I just can't stand POF though so I think I'm gonna have to wait for tinder to liven up again.

Matched with a fit guy (he super liked me), messaged me last night and i replied this morning so just waiting to see if he comes back...