He won't accept we're separated

[cece]

We split nearly three months ago after I found out about an inappropriate relationship with another woman. It's not the first time and I said if it happened again we'd split. So we have.

However, he's still messaging me daily to ask me to talk about saving our marriage. I've told him repeatedly I don't want to talk about this as it's over. I feel trapped. He's just not listening to me.

He never tried to discuss in front of the kids. It's mostly messages on our WhatsApp, which I need to keep open due to the kids. He's blocked on everything else.

Solicitor letter has been sent with dates for completion of financial disclosure and court hearing. Such a shame I have had to resort to this.

It is but it's not your fault if he didn't want to divorce he should have stopped trying to hook up with other women

You sound so strong op.

Well I've had several WhatsApp messages. Basically asking me to call off the solicitor. Apparently he hasn't refused to participate in anything. He was unable to because of his poor mental health. Apparently I'm being deliberately cruel. 🙄

FFS he is so full of bollocks!!!

I may have replied. It's all about you isn't it?

Ha, good! Bet he doesn't take any bloody notice though .....

😂😂😂😂

Yep because looking after the DC with zero help from him is a walk in the park isn't it...

Aww, poor men not getting what they want. Breaks your heart doesn't it.

God he doesn’t change does he- and this is why you’ve left him!!

It must be nice on his planet @cece. He’s like a toddler who thinks if he keeps going on and on he’ll eventually get his own way.

How are the kids when they see him?

oh OP, ive read the whole thread. You have the patience of a saint!!

he would have driven me insaine by now.

how are you doing?

oh OP, ive read the whole thread. You have the patience of a saint!!

he would have driven me insaine by now.

how are you doing?

They're all trying to minimise contact with him tbh. It's all very sad for him. I think our kids are amazing. 😍

CeCe Hang in there. Your story is very similar to my experience ending my marriage. You are absolutely fabulous and it will eventually be resolved whether he likes it or not.
My exH sadly decided that he was going to just walk away and had nothing to do with our dc (2 with ASD) after the divorce.
That was 14 years ago and it is definitely his loss.
We are all happy and healthier for him leaving.
You are a warrior and you and your family deserve every happiness

Thank you cats x

Great stuff OP.. you are doing the right thing

Well, if you're being 'deliberately cruel'🙄 then he should be glad to complete the paperwork so he can be rid of you, right?

I think you and your DC are very wise. When someone is not good for your peace of mind, then the best thing to do is NOT be around them.

It might be sad for him but it’s of his own making. Good luck for your future

How are you doing, is it any better now school holidays have officially started?

I'm downing visiting in 10 days in your need to start the patio

He seems less moany at the moment. He's shaved off his lockdown beard and seems to be cooperating with the paperwork required now. 🤞🏽

I'm ok. Feel like we might be moving forward now. I'm off on holiday this week so busy packing. I've actually been on a couple of dates recently. Starting to feel like I am getting my mojo back.

Yeah!!

Perhaps he has someone woman so now he doesn't want to be married 🤷🏽‍♀️

@RandomMess

Yeah!!

Perhaps he has someone woman so now he doesn't want to be married 🤷🏽‍♀️

This is SOOOO common. They'll moan and beg you to come back because they're missing their 'home comforts' (or whatever). But the minute they have a new one on the hook, they're more than happy to throw the 'old one' back into the sea.