He won't accept we're separated

[cece]

We split nearly three months ago after I found out about an inappropriate relationship with another woman. It's not the first time and I said if it happened again we'd split. So we have.

However, he's still messaging me daily to ask me to talk about saving our marriage. I've told him repeatedly I don't want to talk about this as it's over. I feel trapped. He's just not listening to me.

Ok so a reply to my email to him asking if he's completing his Form E.

So 😡

Christ OP he's a stubborn one. I feel for you. Mine did this for about 6 months then eventually conceded. Keep focused and know we are all behind you.

Right, like men who love their wives refuse money for their children and steal their camping equipment.

You need to block Whatsapp separately

Just take it to court.

He doesn't want to stay married enough to give you proper maintenance!!! All about the money.

Make a claim via CMS for maintenance. You can sort out the mortgage payments as part of the divorce and deduct the share he was meant to pay from his settlement.

I agree it is all about the money. As far as I know he's been chasing other women for at least 6 years. Probably more.

Good luck

Form A is being completed this week and sent to the court. Hopefully he'll then complete his financial disclosure.

What's form A?

I think you will be pushing him using the courts all the way... I fully anticipated he won't give full disclosure on he Form E, I can see you having to use a forensic accountant to check he has declared everything and you being upset/shocked to find how much he has squirrelled away!

From what I understand it is a more formal/less voluntary request to fill in your financial disclosure.

I hope to be down visiting in August, shall we get on with the patio?

Which school are wanting DS to go to? I saw HV on the TV last week, was surprised at the uniform choice, no surprise that all their IT is all singing and dancing though.

The problem with dc school is he hasn't been given one!

The problem with dc school is he hasn't been given one!

WTF how can he have not been allocated a school?

Are they claiming that there isn't one that meets his needs????

I agree: just go to court. He's never going to work with you to sort this, he's hoping that if he drags his feet long enough you'll give in. Don't. And since you'll be having the children most of the time, go for 60/40 or 70/30. And make sure you know what his pension's worth and if there are any hidden accounts. you're entitled to your share.

Good luck with the school allocation. nightmare.

There was a problem wwith the paperwork and by the time it was sorted all the suitable schools were full.

There was a problem wwith the paperwork and by the time it was sorted all the suitable schools were full.

It took my brother & sil until last week in August to settle their appeal for a specialist school for DN. He started at the new school the week after. If your soon to be exh hadn't been such an idiot you could have had your divorce over & done with by now. He doesn't understand it will cost him more in the long run.

Morning!

Looks like son has a school for September. One of the schools consulted got a space unexpectedly and we've been offered it! 🥳🥳🥳🥳

On the negative side I drove to view the school with ex. I've since had two I miss you.... messages and he also attempted to have a conversation about it in the car. 🙄

Yeah on the school 🥳

Check with your solicitor at the next legal steps that can be taken to push the divorce along.

Have you put in a claim to CMS yet?

Yeah on the school 🥳

Check with your solicitor at the next legal steps that can be taken to push the divorce along.

Have you put in a claim to CMS yet?

Solicitor is already doing paperwork for next step.

Things are gradually getting sorted.

That's good.

If he starts trying to discuss things with you in front of the DC I suggest you shut it down with

"You may be happy to discuss why you couldn't keep your penis in your pants in front of the DC but I am not"

KOKO