He won't accept we're separated

[cece]

We split nearly three months ago after I found out about an inappropriate relationship with another woman. It's not the first time and I said if it happened again we'd split. So we have.

However, he's still messaging me daily to ask me to talk about saving our marriage. I've told him repeatedly I don't want to talk about this as it's over. I feel trapped. He's just not listening to me.

I've stayed home today but my friend said the shops were busy.

He only wants 50:50 of the money. Not the kids. 🙄

No surprise there then 😂 well tough, it doesn't work like that does it!

Probably why he won't discuss it 😂

Just crack on with forcing it to court...

I wrote an email a week ago with one last request to go to mediation. Tonight I got a reply not mentioning mediation but talking about getting back together. 😱

I guess I'm going to have to go through my solicitor from now on.

Everything through the solicitor. Block him on everything bar one method of contact and only reply about messages regarding the kids (necessary ones).

Temptation would be strong to be like 'we are not getting back together you absolute melt. Get it through your skull ffs'. But really it'll go in one ear and put the other. And probably best to not agrivate him more than necessary before mediation I suppose.

Delusional misogynistic prick... it's so narcissistic to believe the world revolves only around his wants.

Looks like you will have to push on via solicitor and courts. If he doesn't complete the forms the courts will force him etc.

Get legal advice, save all his messages, only respond if they're relevant to your children.
Also message him and ask that he only contacts you in regards to your children, as that way if he continues and you consider a harassment case against him he cannot argue that you only kept contact for your kids.

I'm going to email my solicitor today and get things moving. He's not going to change.

Told you that you needed a new patio...

KOKO

@cece I am happy to give you a hand with that patio, if you decide to go with that

Cafcass recommend the talking parents app when ex is blocked on everything and it saves messages if he tries to use it to get back with you or talk about anything not relevant to the children

I tried that app but he didn't sign up for it.

Email has now been sent to my solicitor.

Good luck.

Good luck

Solicitor's letter sent today. 🤞🏽

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FFS - he obviously got the email copy of the letter this afternoon.

He has emailed this evenign about trying again with our marriage and how I had upset him by sending the letter. Apparently it was a surprise for him to receive. This is despite me emailing him last week about going to mediation and if he didn't it would cost more money to go through our solictors.

KNOB

Don't answer him don't even read them. He brought this on himself. X

Just laugh at his patheticness...

Why do they think “You make me feel bad” is an appropriate response to a legal letter? It is so bloody predictable! Their actions which predate the separation and divorce proceedings showed no regard whatsoever for your feelings, so how in the hell do they think you’re going to be moved by theirs? Dicks...

Della you will want to be fair and reasonable and you will continue to doubt yourself and he will launch into nasty attacks about you and your motives. You need to give yourself a huge break from him and his headfuckery.

However hard you try to do this without and then with a mediator it will end up in court because he will not be reasonable and I doubt he will be honest about his finances and I suspect his parents will collude in that with him too.

Has your lawyer told you the minimum you should anticipate getting?

Just ignore his pathetic crap and get on with doing what needs to be done. He's not going to be reasonable, so the best you can do is not give him headspace.