He won't accept we're separated

[cece]

We split nearly three months ago after I found out about an inappropriate relationship with another woman. It's not the first time and I said if it happened again we'd split. So we have.

However, he's still messaging me daily to ask me to talk about saving our marriage. I've told him repeatedly I don't want to talk about this as it's over. I feel trapped. He's just not listening to me.

Oh no

Oh dear!

It may mean something or nothing to you, but I'll keep you and her in my prayers.

Been following your thread. Hope your mum is ok 💐

Hope all turns out ok

🤞🏽

How are things

My self isolation has finished.
My mum is home now but waiting for liver biopsy results
DS mediation meeting about his secondary school place has been cancelled
Ex has not seen the kids for at least 2 weeks because of cv fears
Waiting for email to say he hasn't signed divorce papers so I can move forward with that. Should be this week sometime.

He's still sending the odd message about missing us all and how the current crisis make people realise what's truly important...

Hope everyone is keeping well x

Ha like living our lives being truly loved and happy rather than accepting poor treatment...

Yep, what's truly important is not being locked in with a complete tosser.

Well, what's truly important to him is very different to what is truly important to you, isn't it? What a wanker.

How are you all doing, I hope it's going ok

Hello everyone,
All ok here. No illness yet.
Mum on the mend and safely self isolating at her own house.

Ex popped around yesterday to collect some stuff. He ended up shouting at the two older dc and upset them both. It was like a flashback of the old days and made me realise how much happier we all are without him.

He then sent me a message last night asking if we could try again as he loves me and misses me and the kids🙄

Oh and he hasn't signed the second divorce petition so I've applied for it to go through with deemed service.

What a prick!!!!

Glad your Mum is on the mend.

Saw the photos circulating of Virginia Water at the weekend. 🙄 I forget how congested everywhere and everything is down there...

Glad to hear about your mum!

Your Ex's behaviour actually made me laugh. It's really not funny, but honestly how blind and tone-deaf can one person be?

I'm sure it was infuriating, but at least it's another proof of why you don't want him near you anymore.

Indeed actions speak louder than words in my opinion.

@RandomMess the canal path is crazily busy!!

The day I started to focus on actions instead of words was a massive step in my escape strategy. I can't believe it took me so long to realise this but I am thankful every day.

I've been trying to speak to him for a few days now. His phone is ringing and then going to answerphone. Does that mean he's rejecting my call. So annoying as I need to discuss our son with him.

It either means he's declining the call or just letting it ring until it goes to voicemail.

Voicemail is usually set to kick in after 6 or 12 rings (usually).

Just means he is ignoring you.

Email him and put a time limit on his response that if you don't have is input by X you will
make the decision on Y?

He is an ARSE

Ok so after no response to phone calls from me or dc and he'd not checked his WhatsApp since Thursday I drove over to his flat to check on him. The dc were clearly worried and I half expected to find him dead.

No reply to buzzer so I got into the block and hammered on his door. He finally came to the door and told me to leave him alone as he doesn't want to talk to anyone. I pointed out he could at least reply to his dc messages of concern. He then shut his door. He looks very down.

About hour and half later I've had a WhatsApp message about how much he loves and misses me.

I really don't know what to do.

I suspect he's had deed of service paperwork about divorce. Plus it was our wedding anniversary this week.

You need to detach.

I suspect it's a tactic to get you engaging and give him a 2nd chance...

It's a case of he made his bed and now he has to lay in it.