He won't accept we're separated

[cece]

We split nearly three months ago after I found out about an inappropriate relationship with another woman. It's not the first time and I said if it happened again we'd split. So we have.

However, he's still messaging me daily to ask me to talk about saving our marriage. I've told him repeatedly I don't want to talk about this as it's over. I feel trapped. He's just not listening to me.

I like the idea of New Year - new life 😀

Well done 💐☕️

🎉💐 onwards and upwards xx

Good for you... you deserve him to bugger off.

Fingers crossed it goes well

As others have said, be prepared for the anger

Your ex sounds very much like mine

It took 2.5 years from me telling his it’s over to us actually getting divorced. Most of that time was spent with us “sharing” the house. It was the worst 2.5 years of my life

I’ve been in my own home now for 2 years and he is still trying to tell me how to live my life. He’s still very angry and very bitter

I hope things are easier for you

Good luck

Stay safe xx

Well done! Good start to the year!

These types continue to blame you forever but you will totally detach from caring about that!

Keep going op!

Last night I got a long email asking if we could talk. I asked him what about.

This was his reply.

A way forward what do you think?

That doesn't sound good does it?

I haven't replied yet. Not sure what to say.

Has he received the divorce papers?

If so, the reply.
"Going forward:?
Expedite divorce rapidly, accept you are responsible for this & behave in an appropriate manner.
contact EOW, plus one weekday evening starting X day.
pay proportion of CB as per CMS
House sold, equity 50/50.(or other offer that suits you)
here are my Solicitors details.
I will not be getting to responding by telephone, you have my email."

"getting to" responding, is a mystery !

Utter contempt from him 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

"what do you think?"

I agree I wouldn't be having discussions with him.

I would include "stop commenting and interfering in my parenting"

I have never once given him even a hint that we would get back together. I'm so frustrated.

He's just hoping to wear you down, make it difficult so it's easier for you to not divorce...

Include in your email

"Move our as the current living arrangements are unfair on the DC"

I've just seen the postman. I wonder if the letter will be in today's post.

If so, his answer has been provided.
Be on guard of his reaction

Nope. No post today

Good luck. Once you get universal credit, start looking at finding a place for you and your kids, this is not an atmosphere to live in.

You may be able to get an occupation order to get him out of the house but this may mean you need to pay for all costs alone (the court may disagree but.. try to get the bastard to do as asked could take years)

Op... not to scare you off, but dealing with someone determined to drag his feet through divorce can take easily more than 2-3 years. So crack on and start planing, that morning bastard is not going away any time soon.

Not morning, moaning bastard

You don't need to reply. Just sit tight and wait for him to get the divorce papers. After that, broken record: Divorce is the way forward.

And settle down for the long haul, he isn't going to be decent about this.

Is your 18 year old still living at home or at uni?

I replied that I was surprised in wanted to move forward as he had refused to go to mediation in December. No reply yet.

My 18 year old still lives at home and works part time.

Just thinking how expensive it would be to rent 🙈

The rent on 3 bedroom property is more than I earn 🙈

I would investigate how to get an occupation order, also speak to council and ask what happens if you need to move out due to emotional abuse before the house sells.

Unfortunately your 18 year old is likely to have to contribute.