Update 3. I’ve sent the text

[Coronade]

Hi all
Well it’s been a hard week. He was out with her all day Thursday but I was set on my plan to text him tonight when he was supposed to be away with her.
Found some nice dick pics he’d sent her and some of her in lingerie (he deleted them but forgot about the recently deleted file - thanks iPhone).
So I’ve take some of his stuff round to our new doer upper house with his quilt, pillow, camp bed and toiletries. I text him my message at 3.15pm basically saying I know about the affair ( I included her full nam) , that I don’t want him in our home again and that his stuff is round the other house. Also said I wanted to keep things as civil as possible for the children and that i didn’t want to see him again but hoped he would maintain a good relationship with them. No names, no swearing. It was very to the point. He read the message at 3.32 and was straight on WhatsApp (to her I assume).
No phone all begging for forgiveness (not that I want it) no response at all.
He is out today due back soon so I’m sitting in my friends drive with the dog waiting for her to get home. Telling DD when I collect her from work in a bit and DS will have to wait till tomorrow as he’s out drinking with his friends. So I’ve done it. It was so bloody hard to press the send key but I just kept visualising the pic he sent her if his hairy balls 🤮 really!!!!
Will keep you posted. Keep your fingers crossed for me. I’m dreading telling his mum too - I know he won’t - she will be devastated.

You’re amazing op! Honestly amazing. Stay strong 💐

Links to previous threads??

Well done op. Hard times ahead but you can walk away with your head held high x

It's on the first page on here, update 2.

Bless you, I feel for you. Crack open some wine x

Well done OP. This sad sack excuse of a man won’t know what’s hit him!

Any update from him?

The first thread was removed by OP as it may have been too identifying for OW. The second one is linked above as Update 2.

OP, I think you are amazing, you have done this with dignity which I am not sure I could have done. I really hope you and the children are okay after you tell them. Very, very difficult situation. I wish nothing but the best for you.

Been following all your threads and just want to add another ‘you’re awesome’. You really are. He’s not only a cheating scumbag but an abusive cheating scumbag, your life will improve so much with him out of it. I really hope he mans up and behaves with as much dignity as you have over the next few weeks.

Good luck telling your dc, I hope that goes well. What are your next steps after that? Please try to stay a few steps ahead of him, he’s probably quiet as he had no idea you knew, the loser. He’s probably frantically trying to figure out if ow would actually want him full time or if it’ll all fall apart now he’s free. I know you got good advice from solicitor, now start putting everything into action. At least with your dc being older they can arrange any contact directly and you don’t need to deal with him once the property is sorted

I don't know your prior threads, but you are a super with solid steel ovaries.

Bloody hell! You're one tough cookie! I've lurked on all the threads, including the deleted one.

You are amazing and strong and powerful! You will get through this!!

Are you going to tell her husband?

What a woman 💥

OH! I now remember!

Well done YOU!!!

Fabulous well done!! Keep strong you are amazing.

👏👏👏

Well done, OP. Very brave.

Brave, dignified, resolute. I don't know the backstory, but you're a formidable person of great personal strength, OP.

Good luck with the future.

You are so brave. Tonight I am going out drinking and I intend to quietly raise a glass to you. Cheers

I am so sorry that you are going through this OP. Well done for sending the txt and remaining so calm and collected

Well done for getting it done with dignity and grace 👏.

I am going to have a stiff G&T in your honour.

Well done. Hope your daughter and son are ok. I get the sense you are all going to be a lot happier from now on x

Well done OP. Hope he doesn't make things difficult for all of you.

Awesome Coronade! So dignified too. Stay strong

Good Luck OP. I haven't read the original thread but it sounds like an awful situation. Remember what they say about revenge, coldness and all that - it sounds as if you have got a very clear view of what you need to be doing. Hats off to you .