Update 3. I’ve sent the text

[Coronade]

Hi all
Well it’s been a hard week. He was out with her all day Thursday but I was set on my plan to text him tonight when he was supposed to be away with her.
Found some nice dick pics he’d sent her and some of her in lingerie (he deleted them but forgot about the recently deleted file - thanks iPhone).
So I’ve take some of his stuff round to our new doer upper house with his quilt, pillow, camp bed and toiletries. I text him my message at 3.15pm basically saying I know about the affair ( I included her full nam) , that I don’t want him in our home again and that his stuff is round the other house. Also said I wanted to keep things as civil as possible for the children and that i didn’t want to see him again but hoped he would maintain a good relationship with them. No names, no swearing. It was very to the point. He read the message at 3.32 and was straight on WhatsApp (to her I assume).
No phone all begging for forgiveness (not that I want it) no response at all.
He is out today due back soon so I’m sitting in my friends drive with the dog waiting for her to get home. Telling DD when I collect her from work in a bit and DS will have to wait till tomorrow as he’s out drinking with his friends. So I’ve done it. It was so bloody hard to press the send key but I just kept visualising the pic he sent her if his hairy balls 🤮 really!!!!
Will keep you posted. Keep your fingers crossed for me. I’m dreading telling his mum too - I know he won’t - she will be devastated.

Good luck and well done for pressing the send button you’ve definitely done the right thing 💐

Sending you a handhold OP, you have been so strong through all this. On to better things now

I've been following your story without commenting, and I tip my hat to you!

It's a masterclass in how to deal with a cheating scumbag.

Go you!! I really, really I'd done this rather than snivel and grovel. I lost every bit of dignity I ever had by doing that. I was so scared of what came next. I'm SO much happier now! All the cliches about starting again, getting a new chance at life, feeling re-born, discovering yourself etc etc - they ALL make sense after doing something like this... takes a while but it'll come your way too, and it feels so good!

Love to you. You're awesome! xx

Well done. You're a thousand times more dignified and wise than I was in this situation! You're a hell of a woman! Well done you

You can do this

Bloody hell well done, you must be feeling very shaky from the adrenaline of it all, hope you can have a good evening with your friend. Keep us posted! xx

Well done, you are handling this so well. You're an inspiration!

Well done.

It’s telling & very hurtful that he hasn’t even been on the phone declaring she’s just a friend and that you are over reacting.

Have you had the locks changed on the house? If not, aren’t you worried he’ll go in & lock you out while you’re at your friends?

You’ve been very dignified & self controllled - much admiration!

(((Big hug))) because it hurts like fuck doesn’t it x

Don’t know the back story but well done, you strong woman!

No matter how much you didn’t want his begging, I can only imagine what an extra sting it was to not get it. What a vile man. You’re well rid, not that it will be any comfort. Stay strong op you’re doing amazing x

I don't know back story but bloody well done !!

Huge congrats!! Very hard but very brave. You deserve soooo much better. It pisses me off when people cheat. No consideration for the other person feelings at all, and no respect :(

I haven't read the backstory, I don't think I need to given what you've said i your latest post, but I just want to say YOU ARE AMAZING! Keep your head held high and be proud of who you are x

I think you are a-maz-ing!

Wow! Hope things stay amicable .. you are one brave lady! 🌷

Well done OP. Keep the moral high ground and rise above any shit he may give you, just without being a doormat

You are frigging amazing, don't know how you kept your cool but you have handle it so well.

He is clearly a cockwomble who didn't deserve you.

You just sound like the most amazing woman!!!!

I have an awful funny feeling it won't be long before he realises he's made a huge mistake, by which point you'll be strong and independent and living the life you deserve

Op , you've done it. What a disgusting man I'm glad he doesn't think he is getting away with it anymore. Your so brave. Hope your dc are ok when you tell them xxx

I don't know the back story either but I love your style.

OP, you've handled this brilliantly!!! Best of luck to you for a happy future without him in it.

Well done op. I don't know the full story but just wanted to tell you that you are so brave and strong. Hold your head high

Wow - you are amazing.

You are definitely worth so much more - but I'm sure you know that already.

Keep on keeping on. It will be shit for a while, but a wonderful future awaits you, I'm sure.

Coronade I've been following your threads. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are so amazing and the way you've been handling this has totally impressed me. Really look after yourself, you deserve it.

What a dick. Bravo op you deserve so much better than that