Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@undecided I fear he may woo you with an elaborate story of the ex etc, not that I'm one to talk 😐

And why he had to change the distance etc

I bought Mr S part of his Christmas present today. Hopefully not tempting fate as I really like him and on the smitten bench with him. Had the exclusive chat and he calls me his girlfriend. All signs are positive. Trying not to go overboard as he seems so easy to buy for. If only my brother was as easy to buy for.

@Dancerinthemoonlight that sounds lovely

I bought Mr G his present the other day, too! Also some chocolates for his children, although we aren't at the meeting stage yet (obviously) he has told them about me so they know I exist. It seemed a bit off to ignore them at Christmas, but I didn't want to be overly familiar. Chocolates seemed the best choice.

I haven't even told my dc I'm dating yet. Not sure when I'm ready to do so. Maybe in the new year.

Oh please can you tell me what is an appropriate present for a newish relationship? We're very early stages but I need to get him a small token b'day present and do not know what to do!!!!!

I got Mr G a nerdy t-shirt, so that's probably a bit niche. It's the pi symbol composed of the digits of pi.

So two very different conversations with irons on the apps tonight.

Let's call the first Mr Office (well I work with him after all). Matched on bumble- he's already super liked me on tinder but I swiped left thinking was a bad idea. But bored tonight and was only trying to be friendly. Seems like he really fancies me! He's nice but he's probably a bit posh for me. And I won't date colleagues.

Second iron- well not really an iron as he's Mr Fucking-Know-It-All. Started off really interesting. Intelligent conversation, I thought we'd have similar views. And we kind of do but he's so fucking woke and just... well, that really. Annoying.

Was there another thread under relationships about being attracted to intelligence/intellect ? Nah. Not me. Well I don't want a complete idiot but I just miss FWB and our conversations about getting drunk, kebabs, sex and just stupid stuff really.

Intelligence doesn't have to equal woke dudebro but yeah, it often does

@MoreNiceCereal no it definitely doesn't always mean woke but there's a lot of it about atm...

I'm actually reasonably intelligent! Books and stuff 😂 but I seem to go for humour a lot. Not the loud in your face stuff. But just the low level silly, funny without trying. And silly chat. Cuddled up with FWB chats after sex and laughing at stupid things chat 😩 ugh aching for that now

Ah, Time, you'll find it. There are nice, available men out there looking for a woman like you.

Thankyou @MoreNiceCereal

He's still messaging and sending pics of what he's up to and again it's making me laugh. I'm an idiot.

Still debating with the know it all 😂

Jane - 7 and 4. I actually ended up crashing out fully dressed on top of my bed. Possibly before they did. Woke up seems had a really good chat with a new iron. Mr IT. But he lives 90 miles away. So we'll see

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking very high maintenance ages then !

What does ‘woke’ mean?

I finally get a match on Bumble. Spent all evening chatting about everything from spiders to drinking to films. All seems great.
Get up this morning and he's gone. So I was obviously just Friday evening entertainment.

And Bumble has taken pity on me and given me a 14 day free trial. So now I can see has liked me. Not a lot of use when they're all 50+ miles away.

Good morning - great first date with Mr Cyprus, has a kiss goodbye and second date arranged for next Saturday! Meant to be meeting Mr Law for lunch but seems wrong now? Not the best at multi dating. Happy Saturday to everyone - pouring with rain here and trying to motivate myself for a run

@shitwithsugaron I was just about to post the urban dictionary definition 😂

woke
The act of being very pretentious about how much you care about a social issue

Yeah the know it all was very woke. And nowhere near as clever as he thought it was either. Could not seem to understand when I was trying to explain about women's rights being eroded. And thought it was narrow minded that only biological women, you know, with ovaries and stuff, can be defined as women 🤔🙄

He wasn't that much younger than me, 26 to my 31. But definitely one of the brainwashed.

Quick update from me...just woke up with MrM after our first sleep over. 6 weeks in and still very smitten with each other. He's just left for work and we're having our second sleep over tonight! I really believe I've found my soulmate and forever partner...

I know this sounds absolutely bonkers but we're both thinking and feeling the same. I think he's absolutely gorgeous both inside and out...and the sex! Well, it's, quite possibly, the best I've ever had!

Anyway enough of the soppy bollocks 🤣 am reading the thread but it goes so quickly! Good luck to all who have dates this evening

@KermitRulesOK. That sounds amazing , how did you meet ?

@Jane1978xx tinder...was going to unmatch him after 4 days because he hadn't messaged me but something told me to drop him a quick 'good morning, how's your weekend?'

Aw that’s a nice story and also a reminder not to give up on people 😂.