Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Kermit, Haha...can you actually imagine

@uncorect if you give us the name we could advise? I'm sure one of us would have come across them.

Might be outing... I'll DM.

I can't get pms on my phone, but will check tomorrow. I don't have shed loads of experience though,but you never know.

Love the thread! Just had a 10m coffee date with first online date.
I now see why the rules must be applied! .
It was ok.but he was dull. I thought you know what..I've not the time or emotional energy to invest in this.
Glad I did it though...to find this out!

I'm still very surprised that I did like the second person I met up with IRL. I did have quite a few irons I chatted to that went nowhere, and a very bad first date, plus being stood up before that though.

It still seems unusually lucky though.

Has anyone on here tried Hinge? Heard it mentioned it but not sure if it's any good or just pretty much another version of Tinder

@Uptheshard. 10 mins 😂

I think MrTall was a defective Rob, @KermitRulesOK.

You're definitely not the dregs @unambiguousbeard. I think you've just been dreadfully unlucky.

I think lots of women do similarly awful things on their profiles. I'm pretty sure women's profiles round here are awash with 'mammy to a princess' etc. And snap chat photos with rabbit noses. Presumably they're each others' market. 😂

@WooMaWang. My Male work friend let me look on his Pof at women and wow. Some is just pics of their cleavage Or lying on a bed seductively 😂

10 mins?! How can a date last 10 mins!

There was one I went on where literally from the first sentence he said I wanted to run away. Probably the worst date I've been on. Well one of the worst. I don't know how it lasted more than 10 mins tbh.

I'm also curious about Hinge but just don't know if I cba. Tinder is dead 😩

@WooMaWang I'm sure it's the women too. Lots of duckface pouting, Snapchat filters, fake tan and tin man highlighter and boobs taking up half the screen. Yuck, they're all welcome to the Disney dads and mirror ab shot losers.

Ahh maybe that's where I'm going wrong. I've edited one of my profile pics where I'm in a bikini so you can't see my boobs... maybe I should have the full cleavage shot. 😁 . I'm so turned off by any man who shows any hint of taking off his top I couldn't bear to show any of my own body!

I could do lying on a bed with old lady glasses and squinting at the camera with bed hair. Is that seductive?

I think just a few nice head shots and maybe one of you doing something fun is fine 😂.

@TimeTravellingDiamond have you tried Pof ? I just trawl thru the nearby and say hi to people I like the look of 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@unambiguousbeard if you do those pics you also need to put that you are not looking for one nite standz (spelt like that) 😂

My pics are really dull selfies but totally normal and not seductive 😂 @unambiguousbeard I'd be rocking the bed hair look too I reckon.

What makes good profile pics for a guy then? Because I equally loathe all the wedding pics, you know when they're in some ridiculous suit and the photographer has taken a pic of them laughing when they're unaware. Or when they're making a speech. Bleeeeurgh those ones really irritate me for some reason.

And all the dog pictures. No I do not want to date you because you have a dog. I was in a mood the other day and had swiped right on this guy because he really was fit despite the dog pic. He messaged me saying 'Time it was because of the dog wasn't it'. I replied 'I fucking hate dogs'- I don't but I'm just sick of them on tinder! 'Just want someone to get a dog with' yuck! God I'm so jaded with it tonight.

I shouldn't mention him but FWB had good tinder pics. Close up selfie with the slightest smile, not looking at the camera, one of him walking along doing his hobby and a slightly amusing one with his mates. Not meant to be funny but it was and they all summed him up really. Not pretentious or attention seeking. Or wet like all the bloody dog pics!

@Jane1978xx I did POF first a year ago, was the first OLD app I used and it seemed shit then but when I tried again the other day it seemed even worse 😂 potato heads and grubby looking people.

I don't think I can do POF again 😂

Been on my date with Mr Polite
I don’t know what it is, he’s older and not wildly hot, but he is lovely. And funny. And sweet. And seems kind. We really got on, and didn’t want the date to end, whereas last night I kind of did.

Mr Polite says that many dates are like interviews. His favourite most scary one was when someone asked if you could be an animal what one, and why, and what animal you actually thought you were, and why. He had been caught on the hop and said he was a hedgehog. I don’t know why I thought this was so funny and said ‘is it cos you like cat food?’ And we laughed like children for 7 mins

@Menora sounds like you had a real connection, glad you had a good evening

I can’t work out why I fancy him! Not my type physically 😂
He is 48, I think he looks good for his age though

@Menora aw that's really nice.

I just somehow matched with someone who has a photo where he appears to be looking down his trousers to see if there's anything down there. With a bare chest. Clearly I didn't notice that one when I swiped him. I messaged first to say, have you lost something down there? I wonder how long til he unmatches 😁

I've got into rather wistful messaging with Mr Lake District. No idea how we've matched as he hasn't been to London in years and I haven't been further than North London in months.
He's gorgeous though.

I'm trying really hard not to get sad about mr U. It's completely bloody pointless.

I found POF put me off the entire idea of men altogether. I lasted 24 hours.

Maybe it’s my area but Pof is ok 😂 or maybe I’ve got low standards

Mr Polite slightly reminds me of that scene in IT crowd when she meets someone who looks like a magician who says he is not a magician but it’s all she can see. Mr Polite’s photos have an air of magician. But I suppose that’s why it’s important to look at whether you fancy their personality not just their looks

*disclaimer - I do not mean Angry potato Phil Mitchell’s