Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Oh no I am going out with a Paul tonight 😂

@menora, I feel sorry for you ( joking)....

Watch out for him being overly charming, love bombing, and the usual women normally get from Pauls.

I dated a Paul for a while - lovely bloke, but a bit weak.

Due to exh, avoid all Irish names 😂 I had to report a Dave to the police for harassment ... Andrew/Andy - absolutely amazing 😉

Oh god Daves. Or Matthews. I have a big problem with Matthews. Really good sense of humour, intellectual, intelligent, good kissers. Finally get naked have a humongous beer gut which I am prepared to overlook. By date 4-5 realise the fun and humour is actually alcoholism.

Simons all a bit too sporty middle class but I realise others may like that.

I like a Paul. Sensitive and complicated and always tall. In fact I'd like a Paul now!

Mr U has the most ridiculous hilarious name ever, wish I could say it here. I used to like using it just to watch people's faces

My dream man is Mediterranean. No class signifiers, probably not a boozer, unlikely to be that particular doughy Englishness you get with a Dave, Mark, Mike.

What about Steve? Bit too manly for me I think. @HairyArsedMan has one of my favourite names. I've crushed in a couple of those but never dated

So. I was multidating when I met Mr G. In the beginning, we briefly discussed how neither of us were interested in anything serious, which in my experience implied multidating. He saw me still active on tinder after our first date and I told him I dated other men when he was back home in September (first date was right before he went back home for two weeks).

We had arranged for me to meet him at the airport while I was multidating, because I didn't consider him a realistic prospect, living across the ocean and all, but I still liked him. Something a bit more serious developed with one man, but that fell apart really quickly (he googled me, didn't like what he found, it's complicated) - before it fell apart I broke it off with all other irons including Mr G.

He came back to me later that day saying he wanted something serious with me. I was still in the middle of the mild drama of the other guy deciding if I was date-able. I came to my senses and broke it off with that guy and turned my attention to Mr G wholly. By the time I met him at the airport I had decided to try things with him, though I was still unsure.

So we had a first date, I dated several other ppl after that, and two-ish weeks later finished with all other irons to be exclusive with him. He doesn't know all the gory details, but in his mind we were an item from the first date. This slightly baffles me and I feel a bit duplicitous. I don't want to lay out the gory details (I had a FB before and after our first date, too) but I can't really pinpoint when I fully committed to a relationship...it feels like a gradual decision for me.

Is this a big deal? Is it something that you would want to clarify, if you were me? Or just leave it and move forward with the exclusive LDR we now have?

I'm laughing at all the overgeneralised names talk. To continue the spirit, I agree that Pauls are bad news. I was ghosted by a Paul, ending a relationship that can be counted in years not months. James is also a total dick. Daves need to grow up. But Robs are great. 😁

@unambiguousbeard I'm curious about his name...is it something silly like Rufus?

The Paul that ghosted mr was neither sensitive nor tall. Maybe he was just a defective Paul.

The system must go wrong sometimes, defective, broken Pauls....

@MoreNiceCereal no don't even go there. Don't even think about going there. You are in a committed relationship now, you weren't then. Leave it at that. Don't tie yourself up with what you did with who and when. It's something which hasn't happened to me but has occurred as a possibility. We're OLD it's a bit murky at the start. Just don't!!!!

Johns are terrible, and quite scary....

Marks are more complicated- but generally self obsessed as the PP thread, much more clever and manipulative than the John's and the Dave's

@WooMaWang yeah I like a Rob. But not a Bob. Bob is way too old.

@bangheadhere40 I'll pm you. You'll never guess it.

Oh John. Yeah. Love a Johnny though. Twinkle in the eye.

@unambiguousbeard Steve's tend to be boring quite frankly, they won't keep your interest for long.

@unambiguousbeard jeez, I don't think anyone could give you advice on that name.....

Is he foreign?

Hahahahaha yeah just a bit foreign.

I'm imagining a greek god!

Mr Ad's name is one of the above and he is lovely

I also met a lovely David but we weren't right for each other. He's still looking though and we are in touch if anyone is on the lookout for a 6ft 4 child-free, decent job holding guy!

Hahaha so funny with the names. The only one I actively avoid is my ex husbands name which is really common. I seem to match with loads of men who share Mr Bigs lovely first name 🙈

I think I have missed a lot of name changes on here maybe? Feel free to clue me in.

Hi batshit 👋

Still messaging Mr Foot. The issue is I have a problem with my foot which means it’s really not pretty looking at all so not keen to meet someone with a foot fetish as I feel I would need to tell him? Mind you he is boring me as well so probs won’t meet him.

I am now on tinder, Okc and Bumble. Come on you hot, tall, kind, funny sex pirate where are you!

Mr Straight is just going on about his problems, I don't mind listening and trying to help him out, I understand how it feels and have empathy.

He asks nothing about me though!

Swoon @Sunshineandflipflops

Mr Artist? Sadly you're too far. Or he is 

A bit like that @bangheadhere40 But without the god bit. Really no looker. But I like(d) him 😢

@Marlboroandmalbec34 hello, it's me Peanuthedz. I name changed as A sort of joke referring to something @UtterSocks said. And also as a new start. And also because I'm after a man with an unambiguous beard.

Thanks thread ladeez. You are just what I need today to retain my sanity.

@unambiguousbeard Yes, Mr Art - well remembered!

My ex had a name you don't come across all that often but you can bet your bottom dollar I saw loads of them while OLD and as lovely as some of them looked, I just couldn't swipe right!