Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Mr Local has just told me he’s been single for 3 years - which is the same age as his child. Wary hat on...

@menura have you met him in Person?

No not yet, just chatting so far. I’ve been chatting to loads but these 2 seem to be the main ones who have stuck around

I think I will leave it with MrStraight, so tempted to message him but no,I will keep myself busy on here instead.

So I have a new iron. Mr Italian. He seems more keen than me but tbh I'm ok with that. He's nice and funny. Lots in common. No idea if I'll find him attractive in person but I'll find out soon. Thr conversation got a bit heated which I wasn't comfortable with (unlike me but hey) I said so and he apologised and changed subject straight away. Positive sign. We'll see. I need distracting from Mr Beard who is, frankly, seeming very withdrawn and i cannot cope with withdrawn after my ex. It makes me act desperate so I'm trying to run in the opposite direction.

I'm failing miserably on rule number 3..

I deleted Mr Beard off my phone. I was smitten and now im sad but if i have too much self respect to stay married to a man i love because he had an EA then i definitely have too much to mope around after some random who doesn't know which way is up. I am better than this and i definitely deserve better.

Repeat until i believe it.

You and me both bang.

Chin up. Tits out. You do not need another person to complete you.

Evening
I love that phrase @NoMoreWeepingandWanking
Just home from date with Mr Mooch who was wonderful on text (yep, rule no3) but v shy and quiet this evening. I’m not really shy, or quiet.
He messaged me to apologise for being quiet. He also messaged me to say it’d be lovely to see me again & hopefully he’d loosen up a bit more.
I’m not sure whether this is him just being v nervous or an ominous sign. I have forgotten how to ‘read’ people since ex (mind game central with him...)

@bangheadhere40 Good idea about sticking to facts with insecurities, need to tattoo that somewhere. I need to get a grip.

Still following everyones stories here, though on a break myself.

Loving chin up tits out not loving so much the tinder murder story!

Got date 4 booked in for Thurs with Mr Environment. We've had 3 lovely fun dates so far (and one very amateur kiss) and he's asked me out 3 of the 4 times so I'm assuming he's keen. I just don't understand his lack of texting! Quite often he's online but doesn't read my message. He only texts a couple of times a day, hours in between texts. I'm trying to tell myself to look at how he is when we're actually together (very attentive and engaged) rather than how he is over text. But I do think that texting style can tell you quite a lot - and he's only in his 20s, they're hardly ever off their phones are they!! I've presumed he's dating others and trying not to get invested.

In other news, in the offline dating world, I was asked out by a man I know through one of the places I work! Or at least I think he asked me out. He asked if I'd like to go to a Christmas market with him and get some food. That's asking out, right?

MrStraight has said he thinks I would look lovely asleep, this is a weird thing to say?

Yes bang a weird thing to say!- a bit different to the instance where someone might wake up with you next to them still asleep and then later say 'you looked so cute/peaceful when you were asleep'

I find it a bit odd 😐 and a bit creepy to be honest, but not in a sexual way, just weird

How did the mock go @shitwithsugaron

@Undecidedsofa Mr Ad was very shy on our first date but loosened up each time after that. He says he was just a bit overwhelmed by me (in a good way I assume as we're going strong 3 months later...)!

We are also going to a Christmas market tomorrow night in the city Mr Ad lives in and then out for dinner.

So my ex can’t have dd tonight so no going out for me 😔

@Jane1978xx Is it a day he's supposed to have her? Why can't he have her? I hate it when they do this - like we can just decide one day that we can't have our kids!

@shitwithsugaron How was your exam and did Mr B wish you luck?

@shitwithsugaron cross post! Well done!

@shitwithsugaron Great news, well done!

Congratulations @shitwithsugaron!