My husband has celebrated my anniversary with his friends

[Alakazam89]

Hi this is my first time posting. I am foaming I live in Spain and my husband has had to go to the uk for work so I am in Spain with my 3 year old son who is ill with bad flu and my 9 month old daughter also ill with flu and I am ill too. Today is my 3 year wedding anniversary and my husband who went to visit his cousin today got offered to go to the restaurant we used for our wedding day and he said yes so whilst I was talking to him he casually drops in noname offers me to go out for dinner on him so I sed yes and told me where they where. He knew it was our anniversary and I am foaming how can he possibly think that I would be fine with him going to our wedding restaurant for dinner on our anniversary with his cousin and her bf whilst I am hear and when I complained he said what do you want me to do sit at my mam's and look at the wall to be honest I thought yes compared to that that's exactly what you should be doing I am soooo angry am I in the wrong?

I’d think it was sweet if my husband was at our wedding venue on our wedding anniversary. If he’s there he’s clearly thinking of you! I mean I have 2 small children so I guess I’d sort of get being annoyed at him having a lovely relaxing time when I’m struggling, but I’d not be annoyed at the actual venue.

You sound like a nutter

Do people remember there is a person behind this? It’s starting to get unkind now. Of course op is bu but she’s feeling rubbish.

And really? Is no one going to tell her she means fuming, not foaming?

Could have...

Is no one going to tell her she means fuming, not foaming?
That would be unkind, surely.

YABU

Is there something in the water today?

Blimey, it's not often I'm stuck for something to say but there really aren't any words

Not entirely sure why you're foaming.

Just go out to dinner when he's home and you're feeling better

@Lweji
I suppose it must feel better to luxuriate in bubbles rather than having smoke coming out of your ears.

Totally irrelevant but I live in Newcastle and am wondering which restaurant he is in? 🤣

You both can’t really do much together if you are in two different countries.

Let him go and enjoy the evening but I’m pretty sure he will be missing you like mad and will wish you was there all evening!

YABU. This wouldn’t bother me at all. To be honest you’ve got bigger problems to be worrying about. Your kids have flu and you’re stuck in Spain with no family support. Think about it. You’re going nuts over somewhere that serves chicken and chips 😕 bit crazy. My guess is that if you had back up. Friends/family who were with you right now for a cuppa and helping out with sick kids, you wouldn’t even care where he was stuffing his face. Are you projecting? Are you happy living so far away from everyone?

@catwithflowers I was going to ask the same thing!

Also in Newcastle ‘foaming’ = ‘fuming’

I suppose it must feel better to luxuriate in bubbles rather than having smoke coming out of your ears.

Yeah, but I have a vision of a rabid dog or something like this.

Urban Dictionary:
Foaming
To go beyond fuming, to be so angry that your foaming at the mouth.

That's how I'm taking it.

I'm going to disagree slightly with everyone. I can understand why the OP is slightly deflated. She's at home in Spain with two poorly DC. Her DH is about to go out and have dinner in "their" restaurant on their wedding anniversary, but she won't be there to celebrate with her husband.

My DH and I have celebrated 26 wedding anniversaries and have not always been together for them, for one reason or another. If I'm being really honest though, I think if I was at home with the DC while he was out celebrating, I might be a tad miffed.

Urban Dictionary:
Foaming
To go beyond fuming, to be so angry that your foaming at the mouth.

You're

@Honeythekittycat he's not celebrating though, is he? He's just out for tea

Everyone in Newcastle would understand ‘foaming’ as being ‘really, really pissed off’ 😅

Foaming - as in foaming at the mouth.....l did think this but didn’t think op could mean she’s positively rabid!

Admittedly I only scanned the posts as they’re difficult to read and concluded op was foreign.

I'm going to disagree slightly with everyone. I can understand why the OP is slightly deflated.

Well if she was actually 'slightly deflated', I'm sure we could all understand that.

It's the sheer anger that most people can't get their heads around...

Admittedly I only scanned the posts as they’re difficult to read and concluded op was foreign.

She's made 4 fairly small posts.

Why did you find them difficult to read? Are you also foreign?

Yabu. I understand you are ill as are the children, but what do you expect your husband to do to help you? He’s also gone away on your anniversary, so you should have planned something to do either before or after he went. As regards going to the restaurant you had a reception at, so what, he was invited do you really think he should say no?

Go to bed and get better. In the great scheme of things you are being ridiculous.

This has to be a wind-up surely...