Break up support thread 4

[herbsmokedchicken]

Sigh.!

Ohhh jonsnow I’m sorry to see that, must have hurt. This sucks balls doesn’t it! Was going to make a crude joke but I shan’t. But I can imagine how it hurts, same as when I saw A had got a house, just that proof that they are moving on

I just feel so stupid, reading into things like instagram likes so much and thinking it means something but it doesn't. Having the tiniest bit of hope and it being put out again. Seeing what @puffinsock says about him contacting and knowing he absolutely won't (and being a bit jealous of @PuffinSock that your ex came back to you!) I've been doing so well then I see stuff like this and I feel like I'm back to square one, I miss him so much but I feel like I can't admit it to anyone as they've seen how much I've improved, I just want to be back with him. Now I'm sitting in my car in a supermarket carpark crying my eyes out and putting off going in!

@GP17 I didnt say much earlier but now I am. This is what cheating does to you, I am broken, i spent my 45 minute drive home crying and now dont want to get out of the car. You are an awful person for cheating and I'm not even sorry to say it, it ruins lives.

@jonsnowsghost oh that's horrible, I'm so sorry that you've had to see their picture it is so heartbreaking, I really feel for you, you deserve someone wonderful.

@Jonsnowsghosti know it is the worst and i am ashamed of myself for doing it. I hope you feel better, you need to keep yourself busy to keep mind of it. Its hard i know but i am genuinely sorry

It wasn't an actual picture, just a comment on a picture (I still avoid his instagram) but it was obviously referencing something and she replied laughing etc. So shouldn't even bother me that much but it did, I guess cos i haven't seen him writing anything for ages.
Oh I'm so sad :( I miss my life

Oh jonsnow I really feel for you, obviously our situations are different in some ways but the base of it is the same and I could have written some parts of your post. It’s fucking horrible. I’m starting to feel worse the closer it gets to him leaving. I don’t want him to go. I miss my life too!

@GP17 I do believe that you’re in pain but really, I don’t think this is the place for you. We are trying to heal from various betrayals. We’re not here to make you feel better/worse for what you’ve done.

I'm so upset, I don't even know why, I haven't been this bad for ages. If I hadnt been so awful he wouldn't have left, it's all my fault :(

You read so many dating horror stories on here and I let a good person go because I couldn't sort my shit out

No it is not your fault! I’m not saying you were perfect or didn’t have issues but he didn’t tell you, he never bothered to sit down and try and work on it. He couldn’t be bothered and that’s on him. Please don’t let this set you back (easier said that done I know, I think it’s my fault most of the time too)

@GP17 I'm not going to tell you I hate you, but you played with fire and you got burnt, you are playing the victim so much in your posts and making it all about you, if you had of thought of your ex dp with your head and heart and not your dick then you wouldn't be in this situation. For one minute think of how she is feeling, stop the begging and give her space. The hurt you have caused her is so much worse than what you are feeling! You need to concentrate on being a dad, when your ds finds out that you cheated on his mum, I doubt I will have any respect for you.

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@Jonsnowsghost it's definitely not your fault. No one is perfect and what he did was cruel and brutal, it's one thing for a relationship to naturally end, which is horrible enough, but for him to be with you one day and her the next is so painful. I dont have a solution to feeling better, I hope you get some good things coming your way though.

@herbsmokedchicken when mine moved it gave me a horrible shock but in some ways it helped after the initial panic as I no longer felt there was anything I could do, he was just gone

Just feel so bad, I miss him so much and it's worse knowing he's so much happier now. Even though I'm just guessing. If I had been better we would still have been together. What an awful day :(

@PuffinSock yes I’m getting a bit panicky as it gets closer but I’m hoping come Saturday I’ll feel better. And we will be puppy sitting! I’m not saying God planned various events including the birth of a child in order to ensure I had something nice to occupy me during an otherwise distressing weekend, that would be ridiculous! I’m just saying, I think he might have factored it in to his calculations. and that was very nice of Him.

jonsnow I know it’s so horrible, constantly thinking “what if?”
What if he’d known I would have moved away with him? What if we’d gotten together earlier? What if we’d done this or that? But we didn’t and you didn’t and we have to try to accept it.

Waaaaaaaah

@Jonsnowsghost I know it's so painful. I try not to think too much about why he chose her over me it really knocks your confidence. When I saw him last week he would have known I wanted him back from my words and behaviour, not that I begged but he would have known I loved him I do think about whether I could have done something differently and he would have stayed. How could we have known they would just go like that though?

@herbsmokedchicken any distraction for you will be a good thing. If it helps at all I think he will have known you would be willing to move too, I think all these men knew we loved them but they made other plans I hope you feel better soon.

Survived the meal! Floated the idea of whipping round the corner to knock the wing mirrors off his car, but no takers.

I'm going to console myself with the fact that he now likes loads of posts of half naked surfers whilst he's with her, plus the liking of the posts from the place we went to on holiday (which have also increased), it's very little and means nothing but it helps ha

At this point I think it’s ok to think things like that if it helps!

I did a brave thing last night and deleted the ex of my social media accounts - he probably hasn't even noticed! but i was becoming to obsessed in checking things, and getting upset over pics he liked of women way before we were even together!

He made it clear it was over and as I haven't heard from him since he doesn't want me in his life - so that means virtually too. I don't want to see what hes up to or who with. Need to avoid the pain!

Oh well done, you’re braver than me! I just can’t do it! Heart stopping mad moment of thinking his car was outside my work today but only one more day and then I know he’s gone. Fuck. Ugh. Waaaah

Well done! I haven't done that still, although he is muted so I dont see his actual posts, doesn't stop me having a meltdown over a tagged comment 🙄🙄

In other news my new celebrity crush (and distraction) has been outed as an abusive piece of shit so I'm sad now, he is an awful person and I have no distractions!!

Oh that’s just typical! I hate when celebs get outed as awful people.

Morning

I had the dreaded dream, we got back together, then I discovered he was cheating again. I woke up in tizzy and feelings of hurt all over again. I've been doing so well the last few weeks, but now I cant stop thinking about the dream.....

Happy Friday everyone how we all doing? I feel odd. Sad and also just very, very odd. This is it. He’s not going to pitch up at my door. I’m not going to run into him. I’m really never going to see him again.
I’m very sad. But at least I get puppy kisses later

Oh @Mumcomehere I’ve just seen your post! Dreams like that are horrible aren’t they, they just linger! I vaguely remember a dream I had about us last night. Just dredges it all up doesn’t it!