Break up support thread 4

[herbsmokedchicken]

Sigh.!

Ah that’s a bit bittersweet then! I have been there, it’s horrible. But I hope you manage to have a nice day!

I have a mildly concerning phone addiction so I’ll be on here now and then today if anyone needs to talk!

Merry Christmas

So far so good, I think what has also helped is i just dont feel christmassy at all, its sunny out, if it wasnt for my daughter, it would be just a Wednesday.

Merry Christmas!
Feeling a but sad too but trying to put on a happy face :) can't believe how different Christmas is this year compared to last but trying not to dwell on it!

I think a lot of people have said they don’t feel Christmassy this year, even ones who haven’t had their hearts broken. I wonder if it’s because it’s getting more commercialised?

Oh yeah @shitwithsugaron I remember that feeling of just so desperately wanting time to go and to be at the point where I was over it

Hello, well I've been back at the 'house' since 7.20am, ..... only a few more hours until 7.30pm.
Not biting and keeping a brave face. Going to drown myself in gin when I go to my place later

There you go! Lovely walk on the beach.
I am absolutely stuffed, I had my Indian, a glass of bubbly and about to watch the last episode of the Witcher.

@TurkeyStuffingPudding not long now, hope you’re doing ok.

@BuddhaAtSea lovely pics! I’m stuffed also, spent all morning cooking for the family, best roast ever apparently. It’s lovely but also looking forward to when they go home...

Ooooo starting to feel it a bit now actually! The family have gone and it’s just me and mum...I’ll be ok.

Chin up herb, you are doing amazing

Yeah I’m not doing too bad, just feeling a tiny bit blue. Gavin and Stacey in a bit, really looking forward to it, but I hadn’t watched it till this summer when A and I decided to watch it together so we could watch the new special, so it’s a bit bittersweet that I’m not watching it with him.

I just went on my insta, a member of twats family have posted - twat is in the photos, I had that tummy drop feeling! He looks slightly porky has certainly put on a fair bit of weight, hes laughing - which really pissed me off (I needed to share, as I know your the only ones who will understand where I'm coming from)

Ah yeah I know what you mean by tummy drop! Horrible eh, especially when you’re not expecting it.

I think what was also weird for me was that I was looking at him and he was supposed to be my future and 5 months ago he was, now looking at him he felt like a stranger, if that makes,sense?

Yeah it does make sense! I find the whole process of human connection very, very odd now. Like one minute you’re close enough with someone to wake up with them, share all your deepest secrets, put your privates in each other’s faces, then the next minute you’re split up and haven’t even spoken to each other in three months, no idea what each other is up to. It’s bizarre.

Well done everyone getting through yesterday! Luckily I had work 1-7.30 yesterday so that distracted me! The morning mum came over and we took pooch for a walk. I just wanted the day to be over as soon as I woke up! Just feel so empty and lonely at the moment 🤷🏼‍♀️ Going round family’s later this afternoon.

Yeah it does make sense! It’s horrible when it’s a day where you’d always do stuff, friday he would pick me up from work and it took weeks to stop missing that. And weeks to stop looking for his car, hoping he’d come to say he was wrong. Takes a while to get used to

Yeah we had a routine and it does make it so hard when that routine is suddenly gone! Keep trucking, it’ll get there. I’m not over it yet but oh my god the difference to how I felt even a month ago. I don’t think I realised quite how sad I still was a month ago tbh.

Mum is back to work today but I’m not till next week so been by myself today and felt a bit more blue, didn’t help that I dreamed about us again. I’m ok. Actually can’t remember when I last proper cried (I mean I think it was about a week and a half/ two weeks ago so it was recently, just can’t remember exactly when) but just feeling a bit more meh. I miss him. I miss talking to him. It’s weird, now the main grief is easing off, I’m starting to notice more how much I just miss him as a person. I genuinely hope one day we can have some kind of friendship again, but obviously only if I no longer have feelings for him so not any time soon, and if it doesn’t happen it doesn’t happen, but I would be sad to lose him entirely. But him leaving has definitely helped sooo much, I think that’s why I’ve started to really turn a corner the last few weeks.

Oh my I need this thread! Hubs called it quits this week and I'm devasted. I want him but he just can't make it work.

I'm feeling very down and have essentially been a hermit. He's still living here and it's weird. I'm fine when he's out and when he's home we watch telly and laugh like we are still together. It's so confusing.

I want him to move out but I also want him to stay.

Argh. Please tell me it gets better? How do I get over him but maintain a friendship. Is that possible?

Luckily no DC, I'm so torn. I just want him back.

I know It will be better for him to move out quicker so will have that discussion with him. I will then look into buying him out of the house.