Hi all, have just spent my lunch break catching up on the thread.
Ernest, I was in Munich on Sunday - great city - but really hard to find a good, cheap restaurant that didn't just do kebabs or sausages ! But if you come back to the UK, what about Crawley? I have a friend with 4 children there, and she has a great social life - and so do her dcs.
As for your boys - yes, people are impossible about sexes. When I was pregnant, people asked what I wanted, a boy or a girl. I said, a puppy. That pretty well stopped them in their tracks!
When dd was born, they started saying, 'so you'll be trying for a boy next?' I said, no, a puppy. Actually, as h had given up sex forever after seeing the birth (not that he was ever very active in that area anyway , we never tried for anything at all!
Baffy, what an idiot h is! He's not helping his case, is he? Could you get your friends to come round to your place for the girls' night out & get a takeaway? Set times for ds sounds a good way forward. You can always become more flexible as ds gets older. Exh and I started with him having dd every weekend, then every two out of three. Now she and he decide it between themselves as she often has her own plans.
And don't worry about NM not having the same link with you that H had. If it's meant to be, you and he will gradually build your own special bond - just take your time and enjoy him. He sounds such a gem!
PC and Ginnedup - really sorry you're both feeling down.
Dior, how is H shaping up so far?