NEW FAB AND GLAM

[Dior]

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Thanks, finding it quite hard after he and I had a meeting this morning and he didn't even try to make conversation. We talked purely about work stuff. I don't feel as bad as I did the other week. I ordered his present last night, saw something I thought he'd really like. Even if he doesn't make contact this week, I'm still going to give it to him then he will realise what a good thing he missed out on. If he doesn't contact me this week he's absolutely on his bike. (watch my mood (and resolve) sink as the week progresses now)

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Do you not think? I thought it would be quite like rubbing his nose in it.. Esp. as he was so upset when he dumped me the other week.

I don't know what I'll do with it if I can't give it to him lol.. it's an acquired taste.

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Am torn on that one MoH...

When H and I were back together after first finding out about his affair, it was an important birthday for him and I spoilt him rotten. Got him some really beautiful gifts (that I couldn't really afford).

My thinking at the time was exactly like you MoH - make him see the sort of things he'd be missing if he wasn't with me, make him appreciate the things I do for him and the thought that had gone into it etc...

And I do think it had that effect. For about 10 seconds. I think it made him feel guilty, appreciate me, and love what I'd got...

However, it didn't stop him for one second! I popped to the hairdressers (in anticipation of our night out with surprise limo that I'd planned...) he left ds with his parents and sneaked off to see OW while I was safely out of the way

So I tend to agree with Dior now on this one.

(Although I fully see where you're coming from and you should most definitely do what feels right for you.)

I'm starting to look at him and look at me and our lifestyles and I'm starting to think he's the lucky one to have me interested and I think he might actually know that. Hence the upset and deciding he wanted to be with me and make more effort.

He knows I'm a good catch and if he doesn't make an effort he won't get another chance (we have discussed this). I think he would be gutted if he's f'cked it and then he sees what I got him because he'll know I had to go a searching for it. He's been on his own so long I'm not sure anybody has ever made too much effort to get him something he'd really like.

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Oo crossed posts Baffy. Ouch. Poor you! that's sounds awful!

Not sure what to do now.. will be stuck with something I'll have no use for.

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I don't know will see how the next week pans out.

Don't listen to me - I'm bitter and twisted anyway!

It sounds like you've gone to a lot of effort - if you give him the gift and he truly appreciates that, then it may have an impact and make him think twice (if deep down he really is a good bloke - which he could be).

If it doesn't have an impact and he continues to be selfish, then it's not as if it's something you would have used yourself anyway... so put it all down to experience

I think he is a good guy.. just very insular. Can't help wondering if he's carrying some baggage around that he hasn't told me about. He spends a lot of time on his own and he only seems to see his few friends if they instigate it (from what I've seen)

Now I've said what I was thinking on here I suddenly feel really weak, not sure why.

Hadn't checked my phone all morning then I posted that I wasn't going to text him and I've checked it about 3 times since.

I think I feel committed to following it through now I've posted about it.

Good that you are getting strength from here to keep committed to not texting him whenever you feel you want to text him, just post here instead!

You're not weak at all - posting sometimes just gets you thinking a bit too much, which then makes you over-analyse things. You're so much stronger than you give yourself credit for xx

lol, I'll be posting a lot over the next few days I imagine

I just keep reminding myself that I am young and attractive and he's a potato headed grey haired grump.

Think the A/Ds have definitely kicked in am feeling much more like myself again. Although I sway from thinking "bollocks to him, he can sod off until he says something nice to me" to feeling like I really want to be with him no matter what.

The one time we've actually been out (for my birthday) he made me feel so special, after I got ready I walked into the room he was in and his jaw dropped and he just said "wow", stood up, walked over to me with his arms out to grab me and kiss me.. I want someone to make me feel like that again and he doesn't at the minute.

see now I've thought about that I want it back lol I'm a first class idiot. Remind myself I'm in love with the dream not the reality.

i'm taking a break from dating, tho having said that i just got the number of a rather attractive spaniard, so i obviously dont have much willpower, but i havent set a date to meet him

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lol plenty of fish dior

he is actually better looking than his online pics, which wasa nice surprise

still im not that fussed about meeting anyone right now, tho wouldnt mind an escort for saturday

do you think you will do it?

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