ok here's my update... feel free to come on and throw mouldy fruit at me if i've got any of this wrong or missed anyone out...
In no particular order...
paddlechick
Is being really strong, is now ignoring her H's texts and messages as he pretty much only gets in contact when it is for himself, and pc finds that she is much more relaxed and a much better mummy when she doesn't have him around and making her feel on edge all the time. She's always waiting for the next time he lets dd down, or doesn't turn up when he says he will, so she is trying to now focus only on herself and dd and ignore him until he starts to realise that he needs to be the one making the effort and taking the steps to start putting things right.
(It's obviously very difficult for her though as she still loves him so much. He just keeps hurting her and letting her down.)
We?re all hoping and praying he comes to his senses soon.
macdoodle
has got her lovely bump growing and is doing amazingly well.
she has bumped into her H's ow and baby and seen their car when out in town etc, and that is really difficult to cope with.
she's not sure where H is coming from sometimes, he's sometimes saying all the right things, but then sometimes she doesn't know what is going on between him and OW.
she is considering breaking the ties (financially in particular) but it's all so difficult and complicated and made much worse by the fact that no matter what, she still loves him and he's the father of her girls.
sounds like she is getting stronger and more positive by the day though - that can only be good
lilybubble
is back after a while away. she has moved back to london, has settled back into her old job and things are going ok (as far as i know).
difficult time for her and she didn't post for a while as it was all too difficult, but she seems to be really strong now and doing really well.
ernest
after a long battle, sadly ernest's MIL passed away this week so she has been in England and helping to sort out the funeral.
her dh has started his job in Milan.
things all seem to be going well.
and ernest is pregnant!!!!
best news we've had on here in ages.
lilyloo
also has bump growing by the day and is doing really well. pops on to keep up to date and give us all great advice. as far as i know she's doing really well.
timeforme
is as wise and sensible as ever. she's really settled and happy at the moment and and is still the main source of humour on the thread!!
(need some juicy gossip for your section for next time TFM! )
osj/sunshine
haven't heard much from osj in a while - hopefully she'll be along soon to update us.
her nan died and she had to face seeing her dad who she hadn't seen in a long while which was a difficult time for her.
last I heard I think she is moving house in November, so she's probably busy with that.
also i think she said she was meeting H in amsterdam or something like that - but not too sure how that went.
Dior
is doing amazingly well with the weight loss. she has a crush on her son's barber which is great and keeping her smiling
she thinks she is mentally at a stage of ending things with H but is not quite ready to make that final step. continues to give us all excellent support on here despite the things she is going through herself.
ginnedup
well... you can see the latest
things had been doing well until dp came home in a bad way after drinking the other night so ginnedup made the difficult decision to stand up to him and say he really needs to get help as she's not prepared to accept this anymore. hopefully it will have sunk in and he'll start to get the help he needs.
doctors visit tomorrow is a good start.
(and agree that you shouldn't let him come back until you can see some definite improvements)
happywoman
is doing amazingly well in the circumstances. it's one year on now from when it all happened and even though it is difficult at times, with the memories and now certain dates reminding her of certain things, she is doing great.
her dh continues to make an effort and it sounds like things between them are good.
still difficult at times regarding OW, and like me, the anger and frustration sometimes builds up a bit, but day by day things are looking better.
she is an absolute star and role model for me.
tanee
had few problems with dp just before he went off to Germany - he tends to get quite insular just before going off on tour and was sleeping in the spare room a bit. but they managed to sort everything out just before he went and now tanee is looking forward to visiting him over there at the end of the month.
sugar
is doing great and everything seems to be going really well. the time apart from dh really helped him come to his senses and see what he was losing and it sounds like things are all good there at the moment. sugar definitely deserves lots of with what she went through.
(also sugar's ds had an operation while her H was having his meltdown, and paddlechick went along to support her and be with her. the power of MN is brilliant at times.)
fubsy
i'm rubbish - we haven't caught up properly yet but i think everything is going ok?
DTM
is quite new on here so we haven't heard too much from her but i think she is doing ok? hopefully we'll hear from her soon.
baffy
has finally started to realise that her happiness doesn't lie with H and has been on a few dates with a new man. has now spoken to H and stopped doing things socially with him, now they only contact each other about ds.
NM is lovely and giving her lots of confidence, new job is going very well, and things are starting to look much better
oh... and we're all being called teabags as TFM and myself heard a quote which was that women are like teabags... put us in hot water and we only get stronger...
phew.....
right go on everyone... correct me!!