Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Good luck with MrDog

Oh can't spell for toffee...that's a no.☹

@EchoElephant. This is going very well ! 3 dates in a week 😬

Aw @EchoElephant that is positive! One of my main issues with my ex was he was so antisocial and awkward and often quite rude unless with people from 'his' side, so none of my friends felt comfortable around him and it really curtailed my social opportunities. So I think that is brilliant.

@Jane1978xx you MUST do a loo update, am getting quite involved in your story now!

Ok so on age, I am 52 and most of the men I chat to are between 46 and 54. The two irons are 46 and 47 but now I can see from on here that men of that age are also mostly matching with gorgeous young things of 38 and 41 like @MoreNiceCereal and @Sunshineandflipflops I am perhaps seeing why they are happy to chat to me but not ask me out because neither has kids and so maybe they want someone who can give them that (yes, I am projecting here - I do overthink!) To be fair they look as old or older than me on their photos though so maybe they are being economical with the truth

My ex was 9 years older than me though, and tbh I am really not finding anyone in that age bracket even remotely attractive. I don't mind people being older but it's just that the ones who live in a 20 mile radius of me seem to have given up on themselves looking at their photos

There is a part of me that thinks I definitely left it too late and I'll never find anyone suitable

@uttersocks....can you widen your radius?

and as I'm a late joiner what sites are people using? I'm just on pof at the moment.

UtterSocks we seem to be similar - same age and my ex was also very anti-social. He wouldn't go out with my friends at all and then tried to stop me going out without him.

I wouldn't normally introduce a date to friends so early on but it's happened and they seem to like Mr Dog. He's very sociable, which I like.

I have had the same problem with men around my age on OLD. Most of them look at lot older than they say. Don't get me started on how bad their photos are. And the moaning profiles about how it's rude to ignore their messages and how many women are lying or fakes.

I was also on bumble but no one replied to my messages 😂maybe they were just rubbish messages 🤷🏼‍♀️

@EchoElephant

And the moaning profiles about how it's rude to ignore their messages and how many women are lying or fakes

I had a few like this and all of them after 8-10 nice messages they sent filthy messages or d pics 🤷🏼‍♀️

@bangheadhere40 welcome! I'm 49...am finding people between 47-55 and it's a tough field. I'm not desperately keen on meeting someone with very young children as I'm finally seeing a glimpse of independence again with older teens.

I'm on Bumble, Hinge and more lately Tinder. I was reluctant to Tinder but actually it's been good, except everyone wants to move to WA after like one message.

@Jane1978xx yes please to loo update, hope it goes well!

So Mr Maserati has been quiet, sigh. I'm not sure if he's just trying to sort out house move/car stuff/work. He isn't a texter so I pinged a quick brave phone call and he's had a cold which has apparently rendered him incapable of contact for 24 hours I'm away with kids this weekend at coast with no phone signal apart from wifi so will see if he calls.

In the meantime I now have a date next Sat daytime with MrHarpsichord. He's funny and looks gorgeous and phone call has gone well. But same old nightmare of being an hour away. He's happy to drive apparently but as last relationship of 6 years partly ended due to distance, I'm not sure.

Good luck to you lovelies who have dates tonight!

Not a date just coffee with a friend

I’m 31, he’s 27. My last ex is 38.

@Jane1978xx I feel nervous for you, I hope it goes well tonight.

MrNN and I don’t work Fridays, we reached new exciting heights today, we watched inside the supermarket and had a sudoku competition (he won ☹️). Currently sat in the park freezing and bored, MiniSJT needs to get bored/tired soon!

I've just had a guy ask me to meet and I said it's a bit soon and he's gone all weird....

The only one that seems ok that I've chatted to over the last few days doesn't start conversations with me...let's call him MrBadBack, do I keep starting messages or just give up? If I message he replies🤔

I thinking it will only be an hour tops so I’ll update when I’m home.

Good luck jane. Here’s to a 23 hour date!

Is there a prize for being the oldest dater in town?

I'm 43 and use age range 38 to 48.

I decided against seeing MrBats again as just couldn't shake the deflated feeling after rubbish first date so thought not worth it. Sent a nice let down message which he just ignored and unmatched on app. Oh well 🤷‍♀️😁

@TigerDater no 😂 just a coffee I’ve not shaved my legs

@bangheadhere40 here I’d keep up with it some men are just super respectful 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm 41 and MrM is 39 - cradle snatcher 😁

Debating whether to shave my legs for Date 3 tonight...

@TigerDater that makes me think of this

Shave your legs, I would, you never know....🙂

Date 3 is a leg shave

I don’t know what to wear this is all very last min 😂. Don’t want to look over dressed and not like a tramp. I also get hot when I’m nervous 😫😫

Jean's and a nice top? A dress and boots?