Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Good luck to everyone with dates. I'd shave my legs too...

I'm 39 and MrSG is 40. He has little kids (and next year will have an even littler one 😂). I set my age range 35-45 (at 37) and then increased to 47. But I managed to match with someone great who's pretty much the same age as me. He is short though (he says 5'6 but if he's standing normal he's a little bit shorter than me and I definitely am 5'6).

In retrospect I think he would have really struggled in OLD (despite being good looking and lovely): he's got young kids, he's short, and at the time he was still having to live with his ex. At least some (of not all) of that would be on many people's no way list. He also had snowboarding photos. 😂 So I guess he's lucky he matched with me quickly.

Jeans and a nice top is always a reasonable choice @Jane1978xx.

marvellous, backin, right down to the goats and the little girl with glasses! Thank you.

I’m going for the leg shave people!

I’m 45 and match with 42-52 y o. My exes have been the same age as me except one who was 2 years younger.

Current match/Me Flowers is same age.

@bangheadhere40 mr flowers asked me out during our first conversation and we knew very little about each other. I figured if we had just met in a bar (rather than OLD) that’s how it would be so just went for it!

I was getting bored of the “messagers” by this point.

@Jane1978xx my date with Mr Flowers was coffee. We were out til 1am 🥳

@UtterSocks and @EchoElephant I’m similar to both of you - my exH had little time for my friends/family and could actually be quite rude but he was the darling of his social circle. And yes, I find men over 50 in real life very attractive, but online they seem to be grumpy, critical or think they are shopping with a list of dos and don’ts.

Careful with the razor 😂

I will be sitting on my own tonight, kids at their dads, hoping everyone has fun.

I might message Mr BadBack but I'm sick of always being the one to start conversations

PS @bangheadhere40 “can you widen your radius?” Had me sniggering 😂🤭

TigerDater good luck! Date 3 is definitely leg shaving time.
I've shaved mine for Date 3 with Mr Dog. But there's no chance of anything happening as my daughter is with me this weekend.

@Khalees..it sound rather rude now I think about it 😆

Mr flowers sounds nice, I may be up for meeting soon with someone but got angry vibes from this guy, not a good feeling.

I'm just soaking in a bath before I head off on the hours drive to spend the weekend with Mr Ad. Razor at the ready 😉

A guy who I was dating for a few weeks earlier in the year whatsapped me today. He has done a few times as we said we'd like to stay friends. Just chatty "how are you doing" type messages so I always reply in kind but never send him a message first.
Would you say this is ok? Mr Ad knows I'm in touch every now and again and seems ok with it and I would happily let him see our conversations if he wanted to...

@sunshine have fun, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

sunshine there’s nothing wrong with that so long as, hand on heart, you’d be ok with him doing the same.

I'm not going to bother with Mr BadBack...

Having a nice chat with Mr Solvent ( a word he uses to describe himself)but he lives about 100 miles away.

@TigerDater He sees someone he went on a date with who wanted to take things further fairly regularly and I am fine with it as he chose me. It's funny...despite my husband having an affair, I am not generally a jealous person.

😬😬😬😬

I'm 42, tended to mainly use Bumble in the past but gave irons 2 weeks in my head as to whether worth meeting. Had 8 dates in 15 months! Age range 38 to 47....

@Jane1978xx Is that a grimace?

I’lll back !! Went well , wasn’t 100% like I expected but really nice. And we said we’d meet up again.

How's it going Jane?????

Still taking to Mr Solvent...

I’m back ! Was good ! A little different to what I pictured but maybes that’s always the case 🤷🏼‍♀️. Said we’d meet up again and I’ve messaged nice to meet you

@SimonJT. No more of a scared 😂 I messaged that before but there was no WiFi. It was fine x

Was he as good as you imagined Jane? I just think I've spent all night now messaging a man who lives 100 miles away, is this worth it 😂

Very lovely yes. He lives practically across the road 😂. Depend on where I guess like could you meet by train in the middle 🤷🏼‍♀️

Depends how much you like driving @bangheadhere40

I seem to have accidentally got a date tomorrow night. With someone who asked on the second message. I'm child free, so why the hell not. I'm not into hook ups so hopefully this won't be one, unless I decide that's what I need to get me over mr U. Although if we carry on messaging this evening I may piss him off as I'm not very amenable currently. We'll see. He looks like fun and not someone I'd normally go for which makes it stress free as I have no expectations beyond an evening in a frock and lipstick

Good on you @ambiguous, what happened with Mr U? I'm new sorry..

Oh @bangheadhere40 don't start me, for the sake of the other posters! We had an 8 month relationship. He ended it a month ago. I'm still heartbroken or possibly just thyroidy, hard to tell. He was 15 years my junior, very Mediterranean and very unsuitable. I fell quite hard for him and vice versa. Anyway I need to move on and I'm swiping in a rather half hearted fashion. What I actually need is a night out with someone where I feel really wanted. Some flirting and a bit of snogging. And a cocktail or two! Not another relationship