Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

That's a great sign @Echo wanting to invite your friends to join you and not just be alone....I've missed your post about health and work though...has he told you things that concern you or is it you filling in gaps where he has evaded questions?

Worried about my date with Mr Beard today, he seems to stop messaging me in the evening (2 nights in a row) and I’m wondering if he’s married? Seems odd that he messages all day when he’s at work but not in the evening.

I have another iron asking me for a date but was holding back until I had met Mr beard today as I’m rubbish at multiple dating but Mr beard hasn’t messaged since 6pm yesterday so I’m unsure if I’m even meeting him. Do I agree to the date with the other guy?

@lovemusic does he go to the gym maybe ? Or Maybe he just winds down on an evening without his phone

We have a couch @KhaleesiTargaryen with special pain relieving properties. Plenty of room.

Khaleesi Mr Fireman obviously felt he had to get the 'last word', probably because his male pride had been hurt. Him saying, basically, 'I didn't care that much anyway' probably means the opposite! Draw a line under it

I loved a daytime coffee date - jeans, jumper, boots, faux (or real) leather jacket and warm snuggly scarf. My outfit when I met Mr BC for the first time 😍

Jane no gym as far as I know, the night before he disappeared for a while and said he was in the shower (for 3 hours 🤔) but last night he didn’t say anything, just vanished so I won’t be surprised if I don’t hear from him today I should have asked him more questions, he asked me loads about how long I’ve been single for and asked me about my kids etc... but I didn’t really return the questions as I’m not nosey and would rather save those questions for when we meet.

@KhaleesiTargaryen for some reason Mr Fireman's reaction makes think of when I was at 6th form and would get asked to dance to the 'slowies' by lads at the rugby club on a Saturday (basically snogging on the dancefloor). If I refused however nicely would get told 'fine, I only asked you for a bet/didn't fancy you anyway/felt sorry for you' .... yeah, right! Male pride is an odd thing sometimes.

Getting ready for work now but also after work drink with Mr Smooth (1st date in a long time!) It is raining and my hair will look like frizzy shit by 5.30pm no matter how i go at it now with straighteners. This was such a bad idea, logistically

@Lovemusic33 it's possible he was on other dates rather than being married - not sure if that helps you. Mr R vanished a few times in the early days and I correctly guessed it was other dates.

He could be on other dates if you are at the point of going on other days he could well be too 🤷🏼‍♀️

He has messaged and said he didn’t receive my last message so assumed I was busy, the message I sent is showing up on Tinder so not sure why he hasn’t seen it or if he is lying? He has told me that he hasn’t been in any dates yet and has only chatted to a couple people so I don’t think he was out on a date.

Have had some weirdo messaging me all morning asking me if I want to see videos of him receiving himself 🤢, have un matched.

Had my first date with MrBats last night. Odd one. I didn't get impression he was that interested, especially as he asked to end date early saying he was tired. So when I got home I sent a "nice to meet you, hope you find what you're looking for" type message for closure but got lots of "what?" "Why are you saying this?" Type messages back 🤷‍♀️ he claims that he did like me, wanted to kiss me (but wasnt sure whether I'd be up for that and didn't want to embarrass either of us), was genuinely tired from a long few days at work.

I woke to his usual morning message today and hes messaged as normal. I've been doing this a year now and am still no nearer to understanding men at all 🤦‍♀️

I liked him, not in that rip his clothes off way (but then I've only had that twice so far in my dating exploits), but would have agreed to a second date to see if anything there if first had been good. I'm leaving ball in his court now. Hes knows I'm free Friday so if he wants to ask to see me again he can but I dont want to chase someone that whilst indicates in messages he is interested that isnt how it came across on our short date

Never, I have been in over 50 dates (bad, I know) but still can’t read men. I do believe that if someone’s interested they will make the effort, I have sat through many dates whilst I have been tired and not gone home early. I did have one guy go home early as he had flu but he was obviously ill and not making up excuses. Maybe give him a 2nd date and see how it goes, also to judge if he’s always going to be tired from work because that could get a bit annoying.

I’m meeting Mr Beard in a hour or so, will give him a chance only because I need to get out the house for a coffee 🤣

Good luck !

Enjoy your date @Lovemusic ... I am already nervous about tonight

lovemusic33 that was my thinking too. I want someone that wants me - someone that will put in as much effort as I do. I'm willing to give a second chance but only if he shows hes keen - I will not be asking him.

Bit late but congratulations @WooMaWang !

@UtterSocks glad he eventually turned on WA

I’m nervous, he seems lovely when messaging but could be totally different in real life 😐.

Good luck!

simon am sending you a pm re some travel advice if that's ok.hope you don't mind.good luck to all on dates today

Lovemusic33 good luck. Hope the date goes well. Re Tinder messaging, I've missed messages because I haven't had a notification. Bumble is even worse for this.

BackInAtLast Mr Dog has had some serious health problems this year. He's on the road to recovery but isn't quite there. I also think it has affected his mental heaĺth as he was a bit off with me during a phone call the other day.
He's also taken a lot of time of wotk and as he's self employed, this means no income. He said it was just a week but this seems to actually be more like a month.

But he was lovely last night to me and my friends. I'm definitely seeing him again. He's the first person in a long time who's made me laugh so much I couldn't speak. And we've only met twice.

Loo update on Mr Smooth. Nice looking and pleasant but has talked about himself for 90 mins without asking me one question. I'm off after this drink.

My date didn’t happen , not really anyones fault as he was going to try and fit it in between working but he was in call so always a risk he would get a call out. Hopefully meeting him Friday instead.

Aw sorry to hear that Lovemusic
I'm home now. He asked me out again and I said 'text me' as rubbish at letting people down. So he texted me and said 'I really enjoyed that but am guessing you didn't?' And now I feel guilty. But also feel I would have enjoyed myself more if I'd been the one talking about myself and my interests and how horrible my ex was for 2 hours non stop with a polite audience. My Uber driver asked me more about myself in my 10 minute cab ride home than he did in the whole date. How can I word a kind let down please??? He wasn't a horrible person - just not for me.

@UtterSocks I'd have to be honest and say 'look, mate...you spent the whole time talking about yourself. That's not how dates work!' I've had one of those and I told him at the end