Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Congratulations @WooMaWang

Oh. I know I'm lucky. Stupidly so. Especially when people (of all ages) struggle.

Actually I'm really lucky in loads of ways.

Omg a dating thread baby 😍 Now I'm 100% invested in this thread!! Congrats @WooMaWang

@WooMaWang I was an ‘elderly primagravida’ with my first child at 32. Insults aside he’s still gorgeous

Congrats on making a new human

Awww Woo congratulations !

Many congratulations woomawang 😁

Oh my goodness a thread baby! What wonderful news @WooMaWang...congratulations to you and MrSG!

WooMaWang congratulations!! That's so exciting.

saltysally that doesn't sound great if you had to block him. Hope you're ok

Lovemusic33 sorry to hear it didn't work out. From your past posts, you haven't sounded happy about the relationship.
I know what you mean about finding someone who 'gets' you. It's so difficult.

I think Mr Dog is someone I could imagine having a relationship with. But I'm still not sure about dating someone who is very overweight and has health issues. The two things are connected. And he is trying to sort them out. Date 2 tomorrow

I was a geriatric mother at 36 when pregnant with my youngest. So a little update from me with regards to MrM...I've been away with girlfriends this weekend and he's been very sweet sending me voice messages. He called me his future wife yesterday and I had to agree with him and can see us getting married. I've found my soulmate and want to shout it from the rooftops!

Have been reading the thread but not posting much - @shitwithsugaron if a guy made me feel like that then I would have left and told him exactly why - that's really shitty behaviour on MrB's behalf. I'm not surprised yours annoyed.

WooMaWang congratulations - cant believe we've got a thread baby coming

(Note the use of the word 'we' - we're all aunties and uncles)

shitwithsugaron is his lifestyle choice smoking cannabis?

I think anything which excludes you is harmful to your relationship. When you take new partners to meet friends I think you make more of an effort to integrate them whereas he seems to have alienated you instead.

Remind us of his good points as just lately it seems lots of bad points are coming out

Many congrats woomawang, it sounds exhausting but truly exhilarating, your journey with MrSG. All my three DDs were accidents, honestly I wouldn’t have had kids if it had been a decision made with my non-lust hat on - but my god I’m so glad I did!

Elderly primagravida at 32. Such bollocks.

I'm having an emotionally turbulent week already, issues with my DD are ongoing and I've had some serious problems with my friend. Mr G has been an emotional rock, he called me during his lunch break to check up on me, and says all the things I need to hear. I feel myself instinctively wanting to shut him out and deal with it alone, because I had to do that with my emotionally abusive ex. So now I'm also emotional because he's so great for me and I am already relying on him for support and that's scary to be vulnerable in that way but also such a relief. I've become everyone's support suddenly and it's an amazing feeling to have someone who I can genuinely rely on. I keep thinking "so this is what it feels like...."

Wow @WooMaWang that's amazing news. Congratulations!!

What does one wear for 3rd date Sat night drinks?! I'm normally very casual, jeans and jumpers and chunky flat boots is my day to day wear. I only ever wear heels to weddings but then I'm never out on a Sat night! Help!

Wear what you feel like you in @Peanutbuttermouth You but extra you. If that makes sense! Jeans if that's how you feel comfortable.

@MoreNiceCereal that's so lovely. I have no concept of support, emotional or other. I got nothing from exH. I rely on myself and friends for everything. Must be scary though. I cannot imagine it. With mr U I did all the supporting. No one has had my back in years and years. I hope I'm able to let someone in one day

Omg I finally matched with mr so bloody suitable. Unambiguous beard. Loads of tattoos. Seems to be witty and clever. Over 50, no apparent gut. Returns to LA tomorrow. Ffs. Ah well at least I found someone I liked finally!

Amazing news woo - so exciting!not doing any Th inf for my broodiness mind!but good to know I have (hopefully) a few years left of my biological clock.
more that sounds lovely to have him supporting you, hope your daughter is ok.

unambiguous I know exactly what you mean about being used to not having someone who has your back. I’ve been having counselling and we keep coming back to this - no-one has ever had my back snd I push away anyone who tries. The source of my block and emotional unavailability apparently. So I’m experimenting with being more vulnerable and being more demanding at the same time. I feel it may be working.

I created a fake profile to see what Mr Camera would write on fab. I'm not envy. Not only has he lied about his age but his minimum age to date is younger than his youngest dc. And let's not talk about the photos. Bullet dodged.

Deleted my profile straight away. The only cuffs that'll be happening in this house are on my new cuddly jumpers 😅

Ooh third date @Peanutbuttermouth - I've got my third date this weekend too!

(First for 15yrs date I say- so feeling a bit out of my depth)

I've been trying to make more effort than usual this time round- with trying to look sexy if I can!

That said I've used up my good outfits on dates 1 and 2, so not sure about date 3 either.

Life admin is hard!!

MoreNiceCereal aw that sounds lovely that he is so supportive but I totally understand where you, UnambiguousBeard and Tiger are coming from. I had an emotionally abusive marriage for years and am so used to carrying everything - financially, emotionally, practically - and being made to feel like a useless, whiny piece of crap if I ever asked for help, that I now pretend to be great and on top of everything even when I am not - at work, with friends, everything. I suspect I am very emotionally unavailable. It's hard. And that utter wankbadger has been dating someone for a year now and has total autonomy to swan about taking her to all the million places he never wanted to go to with me while I have sole responsibility for our kids but get slagged off if I have a night out, hence the dating difficulty. So it is SO lovely to hear that you now have that support, and a nice relationship. I hope your daughter is OK by the way. I hear you on that front too, also having DD issues here (but too long and off topic a story for the thread.)

@eyebrowsofinstagram - second that with life admin. I am struggling for a single outfit for one date . Didn't realise how much I had let my wardrobe go downhill!

@saltysally admire your stalking cunning and PMSL at the cuffs comment. But ... younger than his DC? Gross. You dodged a bullet there!

PS Mr Everyman has appeared on WhatsApp. Am a little more pleased than I should be after one conversation, trying to give myself a stern reprimand!

And @Peanutbuttermouth I don't know how old you are but if you remember 1980s TV - well, I walk like Dick Emery in high heels. I once went to a black tie dinner for work and had to go down the stairs sideways hanging on to a wall before kicking off my shoes under the table and then taking 30 mins to find them at the end of the night. Hoping for a man who really, really loves women in trainers.