Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

@Ndotto just call him the same back again, see what happens

You look amazing @Dancerinthemoonlight! Most normal men would love your figure. Also - snazzy cast!

My car has just failed its MOT so even if I had a date lined up would not be going anywhere

And @MoreNiceCereal I don't want to respond in kind just in case he likes being called 'hun' (and have never called anyone 'sweetie' in my life!)

Haha, it is a risky experiment!

Mr G calls me hun but it's part of his lexicon as a man from the American south. I like it.

Dancer you have an incredible figure. I'm jealous! Those curves!

Thank you, I couldn't got just for white so snazzed it up with bright purple. Nothing worse than an MOT, I know my car needs new break disks and pads for when I can drive it again.

Not read thread but I'm assuming that's you @Dancerinthemoonlight

Wit woo! All woman. Too much woman for him to cope with clearly.

I need a dress like that, Dancer!

Thank you all, now i feel a little silly for letting him get to me. I think it was the shock that anyone could be so brazen to say that, although he was hiding behind a computer/phone. It is a Collectif dress, I don't know if they still stock as I bought it in their outlet sale but all of their dresses are amazing and incredibly figure flattering

Dancerinthemoonlight that dress looks fabulous on you!

I've had dick pics from men in their 40s and 50s. I don't think it's just a young man thing.

Peanutbuttermouth good point about my photos. They are all daytime photos. Nothing glamorous.
I need a dress like Dancer. And the figure to go with it!

Whit woo @Dancerinthemoonlight that dress looks lovely - some blokes are just asshats.

Popped to see MrM for lunch today and he showed me off to all his colleagues - it was nice to step foot in a garage but was wearing my work dress and heels! We went for a very romantic KFC 😁 to be honest any time spent with him is wonderful. It felt like I was 16 again going on a first date - everything is so very easy and is flowing beautifully.

Sounds promising @Peanutbuttermouth! Sometimes it takes a couple of dates to see what's what

I have the dresses now I just need some hot dates. Or I will be changing 5 times at my friends wedding so I get a chance to wear them all

@Ndotto i I scrapped my car yesterday as it failed it's MOT. I quite like dealing with that stuff as was so undermined by ex that I thought I couldn't so it always feels like an achievement. I'm rubbish at it but I still do it.

I'm struggling tonight. It's the first weds since we've split that I've been at home due to half term and stuff. Weds is my child free week night. He's messaged a few times. Once to tell me he had a horrible dream about me publicising someone else's business. Another time to ask me to do some admin which I did. He then told me how shit his life is. I don't really know why he's telling me this. Apparently I was the only good thing in his life.

I can see how totally ridiculous he's being and how ridiculous our relationship was but I can't stop hurting over it. Ffs. I feel old and stupid.

peanuthedz I know this sounds harsh but you probably should go no contact with Mr U...

@TigerDater (oh I hope you are)

Thanks retro music device. I know I should. I don't know why he's telling me this stuff. And instead of being relieved it's not my problem anymore and I don't have to listen to it it just upsets me.

I'm not contacting him at all. That's as much as I can manage at the moment.

I have a new iron! And a date!
I added a new photo of me looking glam in a dress, got a message from someone who seemed normal.
Few messages later & we've exchanged phone numbers, had a chat on the phone and agreed to meet at the weekend.

Plenty of time for things to go wrong, but so far so good

Bloody hell @Peanuthedz hope you're ok! What is MrU trying to achieve by messaging you? It's making you both feel shit by the sounds of it. You're not old and stupid!

@EchoElephant ooooh does he have a name?

@KermitRulesOK well he thinks we will stay in touch. I have no idea why I would stay in touch with him. I've only stayed in touch with exes if I had to due to friendship groups/work/kids. He always moaned about his shit his life is and how shit London is. Which I'm offended by as actually it's my home and I'm from here. I think he's seriously depressed or he's lost it. Or he's attention seeking.

Ha @EchoElephant frock power! 👊

In that case I would block as he's having such a negative affect on you. I know it's hard but sometimes NC is the best way

Just popping on to echo others dancer you look stunning in that dress - ignore the knobhead's comments and for what it's worth I'm a little bit jealous of your cleavage lol!

Err are photos of bodily parts normal when chatting g

Unsolicited? Block him.

Yes unsolicited!

I threaten to report them - drives me nuts! Pardon the pun 🙈