Dating thread 173 - Winter is coming - 'cuffing' is optional

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

I consider it on the same level as flashing. Horrible.

Really not attractive!

I have my second date with Mr Surgery tomorrow. Going round to his and he is going to cook me dinner

If you wear that dress dancer you'll knock his socks off!

Good evening
That’s a gorgeous dress dancer I’d love to be able to wear something like that
I’ve had two not good dates in the last week..one man was nice but v v v dull, the other was amazing over text and not so a yin real life (I’ve learned a lesson there- he seemed perfect when messaging)
This eve I went out with a really lovely guy, Mr Yorkshire, had a really good evening-drinks & dinner, about 4 hours long.
This may sound a bit naive, but what happens next? I’d happily see him again; do I wait to hear from him? (I’m 46 ffs...and clueless!)

undecided whether I want to see them again or not, I always text them to say I’ve got home safely and to thank them for a lovely evening. It’s only polite.

Then wait for a response and take it from there to judge whether to proceed

Yep, echo what tiger says...when I got home from my first date with MrM he'd beaten me to it though lol

Thank you tiger, I have done as you suggested...I had been advised by a friend to wait but it felt a bit rude to.

Ok, so I sent a ‘thank you for a lovely evening ‘ text and got one at about 7.15 saying his train had been delayed home, but’ thank you for a lovely evening x’
Not v helpful...
Urgh.
I feel like a teenager again

He replied a good start

Ball is in your court as he texted last undecided. Either:
-don’t respond and wait to see if he asks for a second date
-ask him for a second date
-continue the chat and see if the subject of a second date comes up naturally

I would go for the third option usually but it does depend on how the chat has been up until that point.

If you like him undecided I'd suggest another date. I like to know where I stand. If he doesn't want to at least you know and can move on to next or your second date may be arranged 😁

I dont know what is wrong with me 🤦‍♀️ after deciding to take a break from apps as wasnt feeling it I've gone back on 🤷‍♀️ think I got a little bit lonely and sad too at thought of xmas approaching and knowing I'll have some child free time.

Having said that I've only gone back on tinder and havent really swiped on anyone. The one I did swipe on was a match and he messaged straight away. Seems keen. I'm cautious. Had an unexpected phone interview last night - and after I stopped looking down at my ringing phone in horror - it went ok and last over 40 mins. I seem to have passed it (despite my accent - which is why I think most want to check out how bad it is 😉) as he was still messaging after. We're supposed to be meeting tuesday evening. I will call him MrBats 😁

Sounds promising never. And I’m very intrigued about your accent!

I had a really emotional night last night, my DD is experiencing some serious struggles with life due to her dad's behaviour (anxiety, depression) and I was just upset. I wasn't sure if I wanted to share this info with Mr G, how would he react, would he just dispense advice and solutions rather than just let me talk it out? Etc.

Turns out my concerns were unfounded; he let me talk, he was sympathetic but didn't try to fix things, he expressed sympathy without turning the conversation into his own issues. In short, he's an incredibly emotionally responsive man who cares a lot about me, and by extension my dc. He helped me calm down and sort through my feelings a bit more, and I guess this is what having a loving, stable partner must feel like. He's a friend as well.

🤣 tigerdater unfortunately it's less hugh grant and more peaky blinder 🤣

The prejudices people have about both those accents are pretty wearing I find - I have one, my XH has the other, people we met sometimes thought we we were joking when we said we were married. A long time ago mind.

I'm ok with my accent. Doesn't bother me but I find when people find out where I'm from they're want to know how strong it is 🤷‍♀️ MrBats is very well spoken and not at all what I expected either

Ah @Peanuthedz hope you are OK this morning xxx Have the messages stopped? (also commiserations about the car. Mine failed MOT on brake pads and discs also but paid up as need it daily)

@Neverexpected2 I love most accents, it would be boring if we all spoke the same

@Undecidedsofa - any updates?

@MoreNiceCereal lovely that MrG is supportive. I am struggling with ExH and DD issues right now and don't feel I have anyone to confide in. DD especially is being typical awful moody 16 year old (exH has been an arse for years but this is a departure!) and has some issues of her own. It isn't easy is it? So lovely that you have someone who understands and is empathetic

So, Hinge is going well... Got called 'socialist scum who wants to stop Brexit' by someone this morning. As I put my preferences as someone with similar political views to my own (partly to stop this sort of discourse). I didn't go on to abuse anyone. Blocked and reported.

'Sweetie/Hun' man has not messaged again. Am somewhat relieved. Also moaning man has gone away - I kept trying to turn the conversation to something more positive and just kept getting 'everyone's the same', 'I must be stupid to be on here' from him so I gave up and stopped replying .

Chatting to a few more but not enough to name anyone yet. I am very busy at work (must get off MN) ... A lot of bearded men who like travelling on Hinge I find

Quick date update: had the most amazing time with the lovely Mr Smile last night. He totally blew me away on our second date . I knew he was a nice guy, and I felt relaxed and comfortable around him, but I thought that was about it.

I did not see the sexy side of him- and wow it was amazing. It was just kissing - but the best kissing of my life!!

Felt so grateful to OLD this morning. My life was such a drag and a stress, and now I feel completely lifted out of it, with so many possibilities before me.

Very early days with Mr Smile, and loads of issues on both sides. But right now I'm feeling really positive about my life

Nothing else yet @Ndotto
I’m not sure whether to message or not & leave it to him.
If anyone called me hun I’d run a mile

That’s fantastic eyebrows

I'm ok @Ndotto it'll take a while. It's just a bit dull. Bearded travelling men on hinge.... mmmmmmm bet they aren't in my area or age group though.

@eyebrowsofinstagram that's a lovely update MrSmile sounds fabulous!

I'm still get used to the idea of being someone's girlfriend again. He's coming to mine tonight and I'm cooking 😁