I won't have sex with DH, he wants to separate... What next?

[Notallitseemstobe]

Basically that, for various reasons I can't stomach the idea of having sex with him.

He made a move a few weeks ago and I said that, and he stormed off. Then sent me a message on the weekend saying how much he wants to have sex with me. I replied to say that I don't think I can ever do it again, citing menopause and emotional reasons. I've also been ignoring him I know, not knowing what to say as our relationship has changed.

He has suggested we separate as he deserves someone who will want him like that. I know that's true, and we both do need to move on.

We have kids, a house. And I don't know how to disentangle it all, and I'm worried about money.

We've been getting on so much better since we talked about ending it. And we get on well as friends, I just can't have sex with him.

Wtf do we do?

How can any poster suggest that the OP was ‘perfectly clear’ in her first post? She said: “We've been getting on so much better since we talked about ending it. And we get on well as friends, I just can't have sex with him. Wtf do we do?”
So OP was making out that she wanted to explore answers to staying in a sexless marriage - in which she had no desire for her DH.
That question is completely different if OP is actually asking - how she can maintain her marriage, deny her DH a sexual relationship, gaslight him about it and pursue an affair! It becomes clear that the reason she hasn’t tried to talk openly with her DH about improving their sex life is she has someone else for that!
I think it betrays a narcissistic trait to ask advice about keeping someone in a sexless marriage while having an affair - it’s horribly cruel and selfish beyond words.

OP - you’re only redeeming feature is that it sounds like you’ve actually wondered if what you’re doing is all that bad. The answer is yes!

Astounded people think normal hetero sex is breast fondle then penetration.
Christ you must have shit sex lives if you consider that normal.