He kissed and slept with someone else ...

[hattybattyscatty]

But we aren't official so apparently it's ok?
I was introduced to a guy through our mutual friend.
We have been dating /having sex and I assumed he had feelings for me.
We speak daily and get on like a house on fire.
Saturday night we went to said friends house and I walked in on him kissing a girl???
I was upset and the next day he said
"Well we are both single and can do what we want"
I said yes but I haven't been getting with anyone else because I like you..
He said "well we aren't official you know"
I asked him if he had sex with anyone else since me and him and he said he had.
Now I know we aren't official and a couple but I just think it screams no respect.
Do I keep going at this and see if we become official or what ?

*said friends house party

How long have you been dating? He's technically right but its still shit

I wouldn't bother with him anymore

No, of course not. This man has no respect for you.
I’d run a mile if I were you.

Move on. Immediately.

Oh and I’d also get an STI check!

Absolutely no way! He went to a party with you and kissed someone else. He has slept with someone else, if he thought of you in that way he would have done neither

How long have you being dating?

It's only been 7 ish weeks but I thought although we aren't boyfriend /girlfriend he liked me and wanted to see where went.
I just think I've been home all gooey eyed and he has been in bed with another girl.

He did that knowing you were there? Very disrespectful.

In front of you (or in a situation where you could easily walk in and see) is just bloody rude OP. Decent people with good boundaries and healthy respect for others do not behave like this. Get out now.

Yes he is right but I wouldn’t carry on seeing him.

The we aren't official is he's get our card.
He said he doesn't start a relationship till he is 100% sure ...clearly he isn't

That's sad, hatty; technically he is right but it's a blow to you because you were so keen. Well, just cool off a bit now, be pleasant and courteous if your paths cross but don't rush to meet him if he calls, have
other commitments.

I'd also move on, it may not have been official but doing it in front of you is a bit much, also if you have a sexual relationship with someone its decent to at least let them know they aren't your only one.

He is telling you that he doesn’t want to be exclusive. Now it’s up to you to decide if you want a FWB situation or walk away.

It's really sad because he knew I had feelings for him.
Yet he was happy to kiss/sleep with other girls rather than me.
I kind of feel like I've been punched in the stomach

He sounds like an absolute rotter. Def get rid. How you react to this will set the scene for your entire "relationship" if it gets that far. I would walk away and find someone who respects you.

Blimey - is this how dating works these days - how does one know when it becomes "official" - do you get signed paperwork or something. Sounds like he's been giving out misleading signals and is now being pretty disingenous. Chalk it down to a lucky mistake and move on.

Get rid, OP.

Regardless of whether or not you were exclusive, taking you to a party and copping off with someone else is really freaking rude.

He has no respect for you.

I know it feels horrible now, but I would trade a suckerpunch like that for five years married to a dickhead every time.

Lucky mistake? Lucky ESCAPE!

To echo pp I'd move on. He's obviously not as serious as you'd hoped and I honestly think you've been lucky getting out early he sounds disrespectful to say the least

This is tricky OP because technically he’s right, you’re not official so he has no loyalties to you and is free to do who and what he pleases. You’re hurt by it though as you have feelings for him and hoped this would become something more.
If he had wanted more of a relationship with you he wouldn’t have done anything to jeopardise that so would have behaved as if he was already exclusive to you. He wants his cake and to eat it too.
I’d move in and find someone who wants to be exclusive with you

Run a mile girl

To go somewhere together and him to kiss someone else while you're there??? Wow... dump him

move on

He’s done nothing wrong IMO.

However you’re not unreasonable to be unhappy with the situation.

You sound like you’re not on the same page in terms of what you’re looking for so best to end it now.