He kissed and slept with someone else ...

[hattybattyscatty]

But we aren't official so apparently it's ok?
I was introduced to a guy through our mutual friend.
We have been dating /having sex and I assumed he had feelings for me.
We speak daily and get on like a house on fire.
Saturday night we went to said friends house and I walked in on him kissing a girl???
I was upset and the next day he said
"Well we are both single and can do what we want"
I said yes but I haven't been getting with anyone else because I like you..
He said "well we aren't official you know"
I asked him if he had sex with anyone else since me and him and he said he had.
Now I know we aren't official and a couple but I just think it screams no respect.
Do I keep going at this and see if we become official or what ?

Dump. He was very disrespectful. You can say you are 100% sure he isnt the man for you.

Go no contact. He’s a wanker.

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Sorry pressed enter too soon..

Was going to say..........

GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

From someone who's been through this and seen this happen NUMEROUS TIMES!!!! over the years myself and to girl friends - TRUST ME.... - if a guy likes you enough he WILL WANT TO IMPRESS YOU AND WILL NOT WANT ANYTHING TO MESS THAT UP. He will be on his BEST behaviour!

You need to realise your own worth and HOW SPECIAL and DESERVING YOU ARE.

The book "He's just not that into you" helped me a lot one time. After that I changed and never made the same mistake again and never went through pain like that again either. It's one example of what might help to add to the other users' great examples and advice... It's easily available on Amazon. Read it and I promise you will get clarity.

He text me and told me he is going over mutual friends for a couple of drinks then the pub with a few people who we know...
I said oh that sounds fun,enjoy
I'm home alone just having a gin (thinking oh he might say come over )
He didn't obviously ..I know he's a arsehole but I actually feel like I'm not worth anything.

Youre not worth anything to him. Remember that feeling when you block his number.

I know,he just seems to have this ability to make me feel like total shit about myself.

If you are going to be with someone they should make you feel great, not shit.

If he had wanted to spend time with me he would have invited me tonight but then I guess maybe he thinks I would get in the way of him pulling.
Anyway whatever it is I need to get rid of him.
I do deserve more than this.

I hate to be brutal, but you're convenient for him. If he liked you he wouldn't be treating you like this. I agree with others. Cut contact, block him and ignore any drivel he might come back with. It shouldn't be this hard so soon.

And you most certainly do deserve more.

You do deserve so much more OP. And you will find someone who makes you feel amazing. But sadly it's not this prick. Just block and try to forget him. He doesn't deserve you.

I've had this done to me too (though not in the same building !!) I saw a video on Facebook of them dancing closely then found out the rest, and when I found out and confronted him his reply was "this has happened. I'm not exactly accountable to you."

As PP have said, if he really liked you that much, why would he even want to get with other girls ?!

True he hasn't cheated as you arent 'official' (which I imagine is very convenient for him) but it's going to be hurtful to anyone.

It does sound like he wants to play the field. I think you can do better, you will meet someone who wants only YOU, and will commit to you with no excuses. I'm sorry you had to go through this, i know it's a shock.