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Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

999 replies

JaysusWept · 21/09/2019 21:59

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

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wheresthehope · 21/09/2019 23:14

Someone should start a givealittle page! I’d donate just to see this silly bitch C go down in a blaze of glory!
Do you have a friend or know someone who knows a cop who would maybe just pay her a little visit ? Might just scare her enough to sort her shit out

Nutellalovesme · 21/09/2019 23:15

I am sorry you are dealing with this shit but I think now is the time to confront C and her DH both together and get to the bottom of it once and for all.
If your ex has said he would speak to her DH I would take him up on that.
It will effect your mental health if this continues on.

Sundancer77 · 21/09/2019 23:18

I’d want to confront C..with witnesses..all of them-the so called ‘Friends’ and her hubby..and put her completely on the spot, call her out.
All just v odd..the only other thing I did wonder (if she wasn’t completely batshit and lying) is if someone had copied your Fb profile and she saw messages from that.maybe L...🤷‍♀️Crazy theories..! But doesn’t explain husband having supposedly no idea about any messages..it’s all just very odd, but I’d def need to get to the bottom of wtf she’s playing at.

SirVixofVixHall · 21/09/2019 23:23

I probably would go round with a friend and calmly state how upsetting this is for you, and why is she saying this stuff about you ?
The only thing to think about that is that she may not give in unless she has a get out. If she had a way of getting out, that makes her look good still, but allows her to apologise to you, she may take it. So if she could somehow “find” these non existent messages, and they had been “mixed up “ with joke messages from someone else, or “someone with a similar name to you had in fact written the messages and due to distress she misread” etc it could be something pretty unbelievable, but if you and others are seen to believe it she may accept that.
So you could go round and calmly say that you have heard there were messages, but you know they are not from you, and you have never had any facebook contact with her DH so who sent them? Someone with a near identical name ! Or someone playing a trick ! ?
She may then grasp that as a way out, go away and indeed “find out the truth” .
Or , if that is just too much effort, then ask her what the hell is going on, with her husband there too.

CalmdownJanet · 21/09/2019 23:29

I bet the husband is away on a lads weekend or away on some planned weekend, he hasn't left, she hasn't kicked him out, she gave the dd a few days off school to make her story more plausible. He'll be home tomorrow as planned and if someone at the gate mentions the separation he will be just as shocked as he was about the messages.

This is a simple as C being a thundering cunt and getting herself caught with the message, she was trying to slyly out you from the group but the message outted her and she had to either make herself the villain or the victim, one got her out of the group and the other got you out.

Sadly I think this one of those cases where she will get away with it now but she will trip herself up in time, probably after she does it to someone else, you'll be long past caring at that stage though. Fuck Caroline and her gaggle of witches, you deserve better than the lot of them

ThatCurlyGirl · 21/09/2019 23:31

Oh my fucking god I can't believe how LIVID I am on your behalf.

2000 posts and counting all agreeing they are absolute, utter cunts.

I don't even know you but I feel so angry and said "what?!" out loud when I read your message saying she's maintaining this ridiculous story.

Fuck rising above this I would fight fire with fire now I just could not bear to let her get away with this. I'd have to gatecrash a gathering they were having and dare her to repeat her "story" to your face.

Fuck I can't even think of how to confront this head on but we are all here for you and if any of them read this - you have stirred the vipers nest and I hope karma bites you in the arse.

BumbleBeee69 · 21/09/2019 23:36

I'm so bloomin angry on your behalf OP, so angry. Flowers

incognitomum · 21/09/2019 23:37

What if the text wasn't sent accidentally. Maybe Cunt knew she'd cause a shitstorm?

Opaljewel · 21/09/2019 23:38

Delurking to say Op if I was you and I saw her at the school gates, I would just have to confront her in front of everyone and ask why she spreading lies about me? Oh and as for your husband, I wouldn't shag it even if my crotch was on fire to put it out!

ThatCurlyGirl · 21/09/2019 23:40

I agree with @Opaljewel

Delurking to say Op if I was you and I saw her at the school gates, I would just have to confront her in front of everyone and ask why she spreading lies about me?

She is relying on everyone being too scared to make things even more awkward.

I'm usually an advocate for taking the high road but she's been such a cunt and stuck to her HUGE lies that I really think she needs to be called out.

Ugh I hate C so much!!!

MargotMoon · 21/09/2019 23:43

But nobody wants to be that mum at the school gates. It's just going to kick off/fuel the drama.

PanamaPattie · 21/09/2019 23:44

incognitomum - I'm beginning to think the same thing.

ladyme · 21/09/2019 23:52

The messages definitely don't exist. Otherwise she wouldn't have done the whole backtracking thing initially.

housingladder · 21/09/2019 23:52

I think you should take your ex up on his offer of a blokes chat with the DH. Not sexist but true that men communicate differently and you are likely to get more out of that I reckon.

VanGoghsDog · 22/09/2019 00:01

@MercyBookoo

Don’t stop now! I’m following these threads more avidly than I ever followed any soap

This is someone's real life you know!

OP - personally I'd just ignore them all from now on. My ex told people all sorts of shit about me when I broke up with him and not one had the decency to ask me about any of it. So, all dumped as friends now. Move on, find new people, ignore people who are happy to believe bad things about you.

PanamaPattie · 22/09/2019 00:06

K is a massive shit stirrer. I wouldn't necessarily believe everything she's saying.

justilou1 · 22/09/2019 00:13

I like the idea of getting EX to talk to her DH and trying to get her to apologise.

Wonderland18 · 22/09/2019 00:23

I can’t get over how far C is taking this and the fact her husband is now just going to accept her account of it. Honestly let your ex talk to the husband what can make it worse at this point

Winterlife · 22/09/2019 00:29

OP, you need to have a solicitor write a letter and threaten legal action. You can file on your own, but I’d send the threat by mail. Ask your ex to pay for the letter, as the rumors are affecting your daughter.

Troglod · 22/09/2019 00:31

This is brinkmanship OP. Typical behaviour for narcissists. You can hardly believe people behave like this, until you’ve had dealings with one yourself. Try not to worry too much about convincing them of the truth, they aren’t worth having back anyway. Everyone on these threads sees the reality of the situation.

familyissue · 22/09/2019 00:47

Please please please don't let her away with this. I would take the help of your ex, I would go around there with instructions on how to get the supposed messages back and demand she get them.

How fucking dare she! I'm livid for you

123space · 22/09/2019 00:48

Confront her and her husband with a witness. All this 'be quiet with dignity' shit has got you nowhere.

familyissue · 22/09/2019 00:49

I think I would actually stay away from C and go directly to the husband. Apparently he is the one that got these messages. I would also tape the conversation. What an absolute tool of a woman. I'm so so angry for you so can't even imagine how you are feeling

familyissue · 22/09/2019 00:51

You being dignified in this is allowing her to win. I know t is not in your nature but you need to fight this crazy bitch

StartupRepair · 22/09/2019 00:55

If you or ex confront her it will be turned into you bullying and intimidating her and she may get in first with a solicitor's letter to you. This woman will stop at nothing. Sadly I think all the friendships are beyond repair.there is no good outcome. She is constitutionally incapable of admitting she is wrong and will continue to escalate.