Third (and final) thread - C nonsense

[JaysusWept]

Unbelievable that this is the 3rd thread and still nothing has been resolved.
I wasn’t going to start this one but if anything good comes out of this shite it will be a Glasgow/Scotland MN meet up!

I know folk laugh at all the ‘DAILY MAIL MAY NOT USE THIS’ stuff, but here’s me giving the scummy DM permission to use this 👋

If anyone asks you about it you just imply that she not well (which she clearly isn’t) and express your sympathy for her

Heh. I like that.

I'd still want to confront C and her DH though.

I've been mulling over this whilst waiting for the new thread.... And I'm now thinking in the middle of all this batfuckery is the husband...... Who has said nothing and is nowhere to be seen.

If.... And I'm not siding with C in any shape or form at all...... If her suspicions are right, this OW may just unfortunately have the same name as you.

I would be diverting my rage to him..... Tell him because of his affair, he needs to tell his batshit wife who she really is and get your name cleared.... Your not taking anymore of this shit whilst he just goes about his normal life.....or take your ex up on his offer and let him get to the bottom of it

Of course we do not know that he is having an affair but directing it sideways may be the way to end this once and for all.

C is not going to stop until she has destroyed everything around you.... You have been mature, nice, breezy... Its not working OP you NEED to do something!

I'm going against everything I have sad previously about being the better person and agreeing with your idea a few messages ago of going round and giving her a slap

Id let your husband have a chat. It can't really make things worse, and this is affecting your daughter, so I guess he does have an interest. Let him do something useful for once!

Otherwise, disengage. Don't fuel it. I still stand by deleting them and leaving Whatsapp groups. Their updates are just winding you up and leaving you fuming/upset. I'd tell the nicest one that you've done nothing wrong, they can believe what they want, that you're very thankful for how they helped you through your break up, but you're incredibly upset and disappointed in how you've been treated this week and they're not the friends you thought they were. More than anything you're upset that a little girl is being excluded/upset too, Then step back.

I like to think this is the course of action I'd take:

Make a list of the events - just the basics.

Before Monday go to their house when they are both home, with your ex

Tell them you are not a threat but you want to sort this out once and for all.

Stick to pure facts, not how you feel about things.

Keep "stuck record" asking when and what was in these messages.

Ask the husband if he is willing to do a message restore if you are. Then do it in front of him (if necessary).

If that's not enough to get them fessing up ask them to provide evidence of what you ve done.

If they do fess up, ask them what they personally are going to do to make this situation better.

Record the whole conversation on your phone - tell them if you must - keep it and play it back to these other dickheads.

Then no/low contact

He's clearly on a planned weekend away.

Let your ex talk to him. Tell him to do a recovery file of all messages and prove you've never messaged.

Send a cease and desist letter. Either your own or via solicitor.

Back away from those fake friendships

Really sorry @JaysusWept. You most def have been wronged.
I think your breezy and aloof strategy is the way to go only bc you dont want anything to get worse for your daughter.
I hope in time you find some decent friends and can distance yourself from the other lot.

This bullshit she is spewing must be a common theme in her life OP you don't just turn into a twat overnight, everyone will know what she is capable of they are just too scared to pull her on it.

I hope she has got wind of these threads, if your reading this C(unt), your a cunt.

I’ve also been following since the start.
I think I would be sending C a threatening letter from your lawyer for deformation.
It has gotten way out of hand and C is saying all this but not showing any actual proof.
I’d also defriend the others as they not on your side at all.
Wish I was in Glasgow as you sound like an awesome person but I’m n New Zealand.
Long distance friends 😬

I think I would be most disappointed in M, who was there when C's OH denied all knowledge, and should be clearly backing you as not having done anything wrong.

It would bug me forever if I didn't confront C. I would have done it way back but we're all different aren't we. You do whatever you want to and are comfortable with. You might feel much better if you did confront her.

I really don’t believe there were ever any facebook messages from anyone. I think she simply couldn’t cope with being caught out with her nasty text, as social status is clearly the most important thing to her.
Once you start lying it is gets harder and harder to back out again, and she is someone who can’t cope with losing face. It is all very, very immature.
I have known people like this though, the lies get bigger, and then almost more believable, as no-one expects someone to lie on that scale. It is like those people who claim to have some terrible illness, or to be pregnant etc, to get what they want.
Scary really. I almost feel sorry for her because it is such a mad way to behave, but she is being so cruel to you that I have no sympathy.

I do feel very sorry for her daughter, imagine having a mother who behaves like this ! Who can never admit she is wrong, and apologise.

Yes OP, get a Glasgow MN group together. It would be something positive to look forward to

I'd have to confront C and her DH as it would just eat away at me otherwise. I think you and your ex should call round, record the conversation and get C and her DH to come clean. I'd then send the recording to the others and tell them all to go F themselves!

You need to confront C and her husband, take your ex with you. Enough is enough.

I would definitely meet up with you op - you sound great - but I’m in NZ. Here’s hoping it all comes right and C gets her comeuppance.

I know it's been said before OP but you need to add us all to the group chat
I wish I knew C's husband, I would get the truth out of him!

I'm aghast at how far she's willing to carry this on. I have no advice but more people on this thread have your back than the ones you thought were your friends.

I would let your ex talk to her husband as he suggested if you don't want to confront them. Why not? What do you have to lose? The friendships have all gone to shit anyway.

C is is deranged

@PerkyPomPoms we can just start our meet up here! I am in Christchurch NZ 😬

To all of those saying solicitors and solicitor’s letters - (a) I can’t afford it. Bowling and Pizza Hut yesterday means I’m especially tightening the belt! (b) Lies are already out there. (c) I’d be even more of a laughing stock = lady doth protest too much. I’m annoyed with myself for not dealing with it properly at the start. I’ve tried to pacify and placate things too much and this is why I look like a twat.

You don't look like a twat, not at all. The only twat is C. It's just unfortunate that the rest of the group are big enough to do the right thing and support you, instead of C.

You've handled everything brilliantly especially given what a shit situation you found yourself in

Don’t stop now! I’m following these threads more avidly than I ever followed any soap 😳

Jesus christ, the absolute bare faced cheek of that woman. I am outraged for you. Justice needs to be had here aarrgh