Break up support thread 3

[herbsmokedchicken]

We’re all still here...

Not doing well (can't even write tonight because it's every night). I go between feeling empty and being utterly bereft.

DP of 4 years cheated and OW is pregnant for newcomers. Only known a few days but no idea how long it went on for. He won't give details. I have posted my thread a few pages back - be warned, it's a deeply unhappy place!

Still so fresh. How do I get past the fact that I still love him so much :(
The pain feels physical.

I hope you are all well as can be tonight

It comes and goes in waves. It gets better though - stops being as 'strong' if you like. So sorry we are all in this position

Tonight I'm feeling okay but not fab, could be better. He's strangely not active on social media so I'm thinking he's speaking to these two girls I've got a feeling I'm never normally wrong. I have something to give him but I don't want to reach out first but then I also want to give it to him and be done with. Might leave it on his car anonymously he'd know it was me but don't care. Wouldn't have to speak to him that way.

Yeah I get you on the OK not fab. Like I’m not feeling too bad but I also keep checking his statuses so....yeah. I just hate it. Doesn’t help that everyone was like “OMG you guys were so destined!” and got all excited, I’m gonna try to keep stuff more private next time for sure coz everyone else got way too excited.

What do you think? Wait for him to text? Or just drop it off and be done! I don't want him to think he can have me whenever he wants. But I also want him to know we're going to be in the same club next weekend, because if I see him with another girl I'll probably lose my marbles.

Yeah it doesn't help when people hype you up. Thankfully my friends are firmly in the "fuck him, he's a prick" camp

Can you do it through mutual friends, get the thing to him and let him know about the club that way?

Yeah everyone got terribly excited, as I’d been single so long and we were so well suited! When I told people we’d broken up they were like now they are just coming out with the usual break up cliches which is all you can say really.

Still feeling ok today but definitely don’t trust it as I’m still thinking about him constantly so prob headed for a crash but I guess then after that I’ll feel ok and hopefully feel ok for longer this time until the next crash and so on until I’m just feeling ok all the time. I hope.
Dragged myself out of bed this morning and thought oh well at least this time tomorrow I’ll still be snuggled up in bed, then I instantly started remembering how I used to wake up cuddled up in his bed on a Saturday

Nope, no mutual friends will see him

Oh, awks!

That was very unhelpful sorry, I was walking down the stairs and didn’t want to die

Maybe text him but keep it really matter of fact? Not formal as such but not all friendly either

Crashing a little now. Fridays are hard still, thinking about how I would be going to his to spent the weekend

I haven’t been kissed in 11 weeks. Ok before that my record was 16 years so I can cope but I’d gotten rather used to kisses and cuddles.

Been feeling mostly ok and then just now been sat in the car with DM holding back tears because I’m not with him

I bloody miss the stupid annoying horrible bastard

Miss the bastard so much :( miss my weekends with him....now he's with her...:(

Oh we’re all doing well then! I’m back to not feeling too bad BUT also thinking about him constantly so can’t exactly be said to be ok.

Yep back to thinking about him constantly and stalking! One day I'll get over it :(

I'm stalking with no success - wonder what he's doing, if he's with her, if he's even met her? God sake

Aw we are all so unhappy today! I know hes gone for good now, hes told me so and he has moved a long way away so I doubt I'll ever see him again.

I have been sleeping terribly, I really hope for a decent sleep to improve my wellbeing. I think in some ways that now I know he has properly gone then I can start to move on. He did say he loves me in a text this morning 🙄 so either I'm being lined up as a fall back/casual shag/he feels guilty or things arent so rosy in his new set up but I dont want to be messed around.

@TinselAndKnickers hope something emerges from the stalking soon 😉

God I feel sick

@PuffinSock yes I’m hoping once A actually leaves I’ll finally accept it, I def have accepted it more now but there’s still a little part of me hoping he’ll come back around. But he will go, he will he in a totally different part of the country so nothing will remind him of me, and his time here will just be some distant memory. Sigh.

@TinselAndKnickers sorry you’re not feeling great life is a pile of plop sometimes innit

I’m sat watching master chef with mum instead of being cuddled up with A and bah.

He's on and off Facebook messenger but not regular intervals for god sake what a head fuck

I’ve not been too bad with the WhatsApp stalking, bit pointless on a Friday evening when I know full well he’s just playing video games and watching tv. Without me.

Oooo he's speaking to someone on Facebook I just know it.

I've made my mind up - going to email him on Monday evening. If I come back to the office on Tuesday, if he's not replied then I'll be just leaving the thing I have for him on his car one day and be done with him. Cba.