C and the (non-existent) FB messages

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Morning all.
Can't believe the last thread filled up!
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your responses and your support. It really was invaluable to me.

According to K, M and D, they've had no response from C to their messages asking her to explain what has gone on and why she's been lying. She's seen the messages, but hasn't replied to any of them. I ended up muting my WA chat last night because it was buzzing constantly Did make me wonder if the chat I was exluded from was as busy...

L has told M that she'd believed C, can't believe she would lie about something as serious as this (nothing about not believing I would do such a thing!) and that she needs to hear what C has to say about it. She hasn't attempted to contact me, and I don't want her to. That friendship is over.

I'm wondering what C will come back with now. Part of me thinks she'll just freeze K, M and D out and not even bother to give an explanation, because how could she explain it?
I'm just so relieved that that's it now - they know I wasn't lying. Although I intend to stay friends with K, M and D, I think my friendship with them will cool slightly. They didn't support me when I needed it, and from their responses/reactions, I'm guessing that they were similarly as gossipy and 'excited' with C and L when this was all going on. I'd hoped they were trying not to take sides, etc - but the way they seem to be almost revelling in this now, with the amount of messaging and speculation - I'm guessing they were speculating about me this way?
It's left a bad taste in my mouth.

OP. I am having a big party tomorrow night. A housewarming. It’s in London. You are invited. You can check yourself in and meet all my lovely party friends. That will throw them when you check in. Leave your DD with her dad. Invitation is there.

Well done for putting them straight, but, fuck me, I can't believe K is being so thoughtless to post a picture of them at C's. The 'unfollow' button on FB is your friend tonight, OP!

The check in is really disgusting. Sorry this has happened, I'm only glad that you don't need to waste another 5 years or so of your life with these horrible two faced cows.

Ps I have a spare room. I am so cross that they think they are so cool

What a bunch of two faced cows-telling you they have your back whilst going round to socialise with c like nothing hs happened then posting theyre evening on fb!

Glad you cancelled lunch i gather they didnt put up a fight about that

Anyone else picture C as a Regina George in Mean Girls?!

Op I didn't don't think you were on Facebook? I thought i read that further up the thread?
Either way, ignore the WhatsApp group, delete/block the Facebook and just try and get on with life.
You know the truth. You didn't have an affair with her husband, and absolutely, the truth will come out properly with time.
So don't worry too much. True friends would have your back and support you throughout. Sadly these morons have all shown their true colours, and your are worth much more than these shoddy "friends".
That's over 1700 people on Mumsnet telling you that

No, she didn't have C's H as a friend as n Facebook

*on

What a pack of cunts they are OP. I’m sorry, even though you are clearly well rid of them, it still stings. Some women just bring out the bitchy worst in each other, we’ve all got a teenage girl inside us (I know I have but I manage to sit on her most of the time!)

The stuff about C kicking her husband out stinks to high heaven, she’s trying to bury what she’s done under a fictitious break up (or he’s realised she’s batshit and done a runner and who would blame him?)

Hold your head up high, you’ve behaved with dignity and self respect.

I can't believe how you've been treated by them all. What a horrible bunch of bitches.

I really hope you're ok

Know that you are the better person. I hope that C gets a good dose of Karma. She must be a very sad, twisted individual to be able to treat someone like this while knowing your (even more innocent) DD will also be affected. Some women are just absolute c#%ts.

The others sound like a little flock of sheep. Not one ounce of integrity between them, too afraid to go against the matriarch in case she turns on them next.

I hope the wine was good x

Any woman who would check herself into a woman's house in her 30s is a few fries short of a happy meal. And clearly needs social approval (hence why she is there in the first place) What on earth is wrong with these people. You do not need that kinda crazy in your life! I think you've done a great job so far keeping your dignity. School gates are only for a few years, hold your head high. You got this!

Pity C's husband hasn't really taken a shine to the OP. This thread can't help but make me think of that old Kirsty MacColl song, 'no I don't wanna see Caroline ....'

I wouldn't bloody want to, either.

I can't get over going round to comfort C after aupposedly chucking her H out, and they are on the cocktails straight away AND checking in on FB. ( I don't have a fb account- is checking in even a thing?) It may just be me but cocktails smack of a fun event, not a precursor to a serious chat.
I wonder if they will see the DH- he may not know he has been chucked out. But then, C wouldn't be that stupid-would she?
What a nasty group of overgrown schoolgirls. .
I hope you sort the gossip who spoke to your exH next week

What utter fucks. Friendship means fuck all to them, clearly.

I hope they don’t struggle to swallow their cocktails what with all the hypocrisy in those glasses.

OP, sorry this has happened. It’s so awful to have mean bullies to deal with. No advice, as it’s all a gamble, but just wanted to say I hope you’re ok

NB. Expo, your posts are lovely. Just shows how when the chips are down you find friends who have your back in the unlikeliest of places. I thought I'd be the last person capable of finding that source of consolation and support on the internet, of all places. But it happened to me too once - on the Fertility Friends site

H will be bound to a chair and gagged in the loft.

@babbydriver i wouldnt put it past her!

What a bitch k is putting that on Facebook. Also, when this dies down, at some point C will do this again to some poor other woman, and others will remember this and start to realise. It'll be too late, but I hope they look back and feel ashamed. Mind you, it may well be one of them, and then they'll try come crawling back to you! Leave them standing alone in the playground when it happens, they are not friends. Feel so bad for you op.

You're staying strong, op. The circus will implode, given time.

They are all horrible. A nasty gaggle of bitches.

I still would be inclined to post a message on fb/class wa along the lines of Mummymummums message.
You should have the truth told, let them have to explain their shitty behavior to others. They will be the ones talked about.

Enjoy your

Check in yourself at C’s Dad’s Avon party.

I hope they find this and are ashamed at how they've behaved.