C and the (non-existent) FB messages

[JaysusWept]

Morning all.
Can't believe the last thread filled up!
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your responses and your support. It really was invaluable to me.

According to K, M and D, they've had no response from C to their messages asking her to explain what has gone on and why she's been lying. She's seen the messages, but hasn't replied to any of them. I ended up muting my WA chat last night because it was buzzing constantly Did make me wonder if the chat I was exluded from was as busy...

L has told M that she'd believed C, can't believe she would lie about something as serious as this (nothing about not believing I would do such a thing!) and that she needs to hear what C has to say about it. She hasn't attempted to contact me, and I don't want her to. That friendship is over.

I'm wondering what C will come back with now. Part of me thinks she'll just freeze K, M and D out and not even bother to give an explanation, because how could she explain it?
I'm just so relieved that that's it now - they know I wasn't lying. Although I intend to stay friends with K, M and D, I think my friendship with them will cool slightly. They didn't support me when I needed it, and from their responses/reactions, I'm guessing that they were similarly as gossipy and 'excited' with C and L when this was all going on. I'd hoped they were trying not to take sides, etc - but the way they seem to be almost revelling in this now, with the amount of messaging and speculation - I'm guessing they were speculating about me this way?
It's left a bad taste in my mouth.

C’s husband probably has no idea he’s been “kicked out”. He’ll come home whistling

This.

I think C was, for whatever reason, threatened by OP. Plus, OP is a single woman, so naturally, she will be honing in on any man in her vicinity (sarcasm). So, she complained to L. Had the original text not been sent to the wrong person, C would have continued to be friendly to OP to her face, and bitched about OP to L - how OP was "flirting" with C's husband.

I doubt the husband's done anything. I doubt they've split. I would be tempted to say (but not write) "Oh, they've split the same way I sent messages?" The mother is there not because they've split, but because C's world of lies is unraveling, and she can't show her face for a period.

I can't fault K, M and D for continuing to communicate with C. I probably would have as well. They could not know, as a fact, that OP wasn't having an affair, even if they didn't believe it. I probably would have stayed in the new WhatsApp group as well. It wouldn't mean I believed C, just that I'm still at a fact gathering stage. I probably wouldn't cut C off in the future, either, as a third party. I'd just be wary of her and distance myself somewhat, because I'd know she is a liar and a drama queen.

I still hold to my advice on the previous thread, OP. You need to broaden your social circle. But, I think you do need to retain these women as "friends" on a superficial level, if only for your daughter's sake. When you do have lunch with them, you may want to tell them you believe you were singled out by C precisely because you are the only single woman in the group, and that you resented having your character impugned, although you can understand how third parties would wish to remain neutral.

The only thing anyone knows for sure is that C has form for lying she lied about the message to the 'wrong person' she lied to the group about the op sending messages almost everything she has said is a lie why would this be any different!

I would put money in the fact her dh is still at home and if asked next time he is around he will know nothing of being kicked out!

She threw the op under the bus to save her social standing now she is doing the same with her husband! They will have 'worked' it out in a day or so and she's so sorry for any misunderstandings but surely you can see what a stressful time she is having with it all! Especially the OP who has been there (for real) what better way to get yourself back in with someone than a shared experience!

It's all bullshit! But the best thing is that op can now see everyone's true colours! K, M and D may have been innocent bystanders to it all originally but op can see them messaging about C's issues now she can judge for herself if the are the kind of people she wants to be friends with or not!

I agree with pp's though they weren't good to the op when it started and they don't seem like they are being good to C now if worst case scenario and somewhere in the lies it is true her marriage is over.

Hi, op.

Please can you link to last thread?

If u scroll up a bit someone has linked.

Thanks!

@oabiti
There is a link on the first page of this thread.

I was inclined to say C was lying about the husband. Maybe husband confronted her and he has left cause she is batshit.

Intriguing

What a drama...

This thread is longer and even more twisted then that Caroline Calloway essay

What if the husband DID lie about OP to cover up other misdeeds?

Surely that's a rational explanation as well?
He gets caught texting, he lies and says its OP....

@Savingforarainyday Were that the case, he would not have been surprised and, more importantly, confused, when called out.

C is a massive projector. I would say he has walked out because he is sick of her lying.
Keep at arms length.

Maybe the suspicion on her DH having an affair sent C completely batshit-we’ve seen on here how gaslighting etc can drive even a sane person bonkers. And yes, she’s dealt with it badly but if her DH has been fooling around and lying to her, you can see how it might spiral. Not saying she dealt with it well as obviously she didn’t but there may be some cause no one is privy to. I might be tempted to reach out...

Drama llama! I reckon she's kicked him out for lying when he told her about the imaginary messages you'd not sent!

Also agree maybe he has someone else with same name as you.

Maybe C has got problems with her marriage.

But she said she had seen the messages the op sent! She chose to not confront the op or ask questions or anything but spread that story behind the ops back! All coincidently after she was caught slagging the op off!

What's that saying when you hear hoof beats it's probably horses not zebras?

Staying silent again on the WA only makes you look like you're hiding

Good work @JaysusWept, you've managed all the crazy so well

Oh my ACTUAL gawd OP.. this is so so bizarre.. so glad you're out the loop of blame too btw

I would say he has walked out because he is sick of her lying.

^This seems most likely

I would say he has walked out because he is sick of her lying.

I have to agree this sounds more likely.

What if he was cheating before .
Then she see you laughing with him and thinks your messaging him.

C sounds like she has issues. I hope you are ok op, so much drama that you certainly did not deserve

What if he was cheating before .Then she see you laughing with him and thinks your messaging him

If you have RTFT you will know Caroline was lying, because she denied the initial text was meant for op and then changed her mind after op called her up on it. The messages were a fabrication made up to distract from getting caught out bitching.

Imo it sounds like the husband is as confused as the op about all this.

What if he was cheating before.
Then she see you laughing with him and thinks your messaging him.

even if this were the case, C still lied about seeing 'fb messages' from OP, which simply wasn't true. I kinda hoping her DH has had his fill of C's bullshit lies, and that's why he's not there.