hubby dating another woman

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Hello

I really need advice, I just don't know what to do

My DH became close friends with a woman from his office about two years ago. About six months ago I found out that he had been lying to me about working over time, he was actually going out with her after work, to places like cinemas and restaurants etc, they were also messaging each other everyday at all hours. I don't mind him being friends with other women but the secrets worry me.

I was very upset abouts the secrets and lies and I have asked him to stop, he told me that it wasn't dating, just two friends having a night out together and that I had nothing to worry about. Maybe I feel worse because we have young DC, no babysitters and are not able to go out in the evening together anymore.

He promised to stop seeing her behind my back and he told her that they had got carried away with their messages. When he carried on going out with her behind my back, I asked him to at least be honest and stop lying to me.

Unfortunately he has gone out to a restaurant and cinema with her tonight behind my back, I don't know what else to do, I have tried talking nicely, I've tried theatening to contact her. I don't think that they have done anything sexual yet. they still seem to be at the dating stage.
I need help, what can I do to stop this going further without making things worse
we have 3 DC and have been together over twenty years.

Your husband is cheating on you.

Friends go out yes, but not that regular especially when he knows you would like to go out.

I can't believe he's so brazen and being so open about it.

Tell him if she's such a good friend then she can babysit while he takes his wife out, the person in more need to be wined and dined !

I’m seething for you OP. Take it from someone who once had a very similar situation- trust your gut. If it walks like a duck and quacks like one it usually is a duck and his calling it a cat doesn’t make it one. You now need to decide whether you can trust him to end it and come clean or you need to walk away. good luck

He's having an affair. Wake up. He's walking all over you.

Also he’s a bastard- if you split he’d have to have the children alone and you’d have a bit of time to socialise and presumably alimony and maintenance. How bloody dare he leave you stuck with the kids and no respite while he carries on and think there isn’t going to be any consequences!!

Do what the women on here are saying OP. Organise your finances and paperwork, see a solicitor, understand that you will cope very well without him then kick the lying, smug, unfaithful toad out on his entitled arse.

I don't think that they have done anything sexual yet. they still seem to be at the dating stage.

Your husband is having an affair he has a girlfriend he is dating. And quite frankly after all this time I would be very surprised if it wasn't sexual.
You need to throw him out