How to spoil husbands illicit weekend - ideas please!

[WGC3]

We are still together but on verge of separating. I know where and when he is going, cant stop it happening but would like to make sure it is less than perfect - any advice??

I think some of these responses are ridiculous and spiteful to you TBH. you have been married for a long time ,and have a huge emotional investment in your marriage!.Putting itching powder in his pants is hardly going to endear him to you is it?.You say you dont want to separate .Some people do get back together again some dont !.Thats life .Why not tell him you would rather he doesnt go and lay it on the line .Maybe he will reconsider or at least you could part amicably .That will be better for you and DC than a run of practical jokes which could easily backfire in the divorce process anyway!

@WGC3 I totally get where you are coming from!! My Ex and I separated 4 years ago after 21 years together. I don't want him back but when he announced his engagement to his latest lady earlier this year (and upset our admittedly young adult kids) I wanted to let loose all kinds of hell on him!! He's getting remarried two days before what would have been our Silver Wedding anniversary. I KNOW its nothing to do with me and that he's moved on but its only been four years. He wants the kids at his wedding even though they've only met his fiancee 3-4 times and none of them really want to go but are doing.

I have all sorts of fantasies about how to make his life miserable for upsetting my 'babies' including somehow cutting off his credit cards, fixing his phone so it turns off every time he tries to use it, putting sugar in his petrol tank etc but would never act on any of them!!

Your situation is so much more raw than mine but a bit of fantasy revenge never hurt anyone.

Please ignore all the childish comments on this thread egging you on to put chilli in his pants etc.

If you can't see how that will play out I'll tell you- he will know exactly who did it and then give him free reign to tell all and sundry what a psycho you are and make himself out to be the good guy in this scenario, instead of the current reality- that he's walking out on his wife and child. Don't give him that upper hand.

Not sure if you’re still reading but don’t do any stupid pranks.
One you could get yourself into trouble
Two you will just come across as crazy and he’ll then be like “see! This is what I have to live with, this is why I want to leave”
Don’t do anything that gives him the moral high ground or room to get sympathy of others.
The best revenge really is living well. I separated from my ex in jan after he did some awful stuff but I’ve kept my head held high and kept it low key, no dramatics or making anything public. Being dignified really is the best way to be.

Walk away with dignity. Self respect and the moral high ground is a very powerful revenge. It will haunt him for years to come .....

Be a grown up.

(Or rub the chip and strip on all his bank/credit cards with a magnet.)

Ignore the idiotic suggestions on this thread, for one.

It won’t always feel as shit as it does now. Keep your dignity, self-esteem and reputation.

Imagine your husband and his OW if they discovered any attempts at revenge you may choose to make. They’d be laughing at you, of that I’m sure. You’d be labelled the psycho-ex.

Keep revenge as a fantasy and walk away with your dignity intact.

You don't have to go to extreme measures to get a little revenge. If he would normally expect you to iron clothes and help pack, or if he asks where his passport etc are, there's your opportunity to make it difficult for him.

Do not assist him in any way, shape or form. Inaction is as good as action.

I think a lot of the suggestions on here are ridiculous, but I understand you're heartbroken and fantasising about revenge is OK. It doesn't mean you have to carry it out.

There's some very good advice on this thread and some really horrible sniping - keep your beak out, don't be a fool etc. Just nasty. This woman is hurting fgs.

I do understand the drive to hurt him back. Anyone who doesn't feel either hurt or anger when cheated on must be a very cold individual. But I do agree that it's not going to do you any favours OP. It's often not the person committing the initial offence that gets the vitriol but the one that reacts. Because they're seen to be out of control.

Go and see a friend and talk this through. Or write down all the things you'd like to do but don't do them. Then plan your separation so that you get the best deal. Good luck OP.

Excellent post, FeralHogs.

Tell him it’s over, as you know what is happening at the weekend, then start telling everyone (including her husband or partner if she has one). People are usually kinder to the betrayed partner than the cheater and you need the support. Affairs lose their attraction once everyone knows.

Stop doing any washing or ironing for him because you are separated and you don’t need to put up with his skiddy pants or sweaty shirts any more. Get legal advice about divorcing the cheating scumbag rather than wait for him to tell you what is happening.

I found out mine had been cheating on me throughout my second pregnancy. He went to the shop around the corner and took an hour - wild excuses about the cash machine freezing, and fights breaking out in the shop and him having to stay as a witness. He convinced me I was being paranoid and it was my hormones. I felt like I was losing my mind. The cheating carried on after the birth as I was raising our newborn son and taking care of our 4 year old. When I found out I FORGAVE HIM for the kids. All we did was bicker. Then he cheated again with the new girl from work. Constantly on his phone to her. I found out when we were in Tenerife - queue family holiday ruined!

Then I forgave him again.

Then HE walked out and went back to the first one.

I focused on being really nice. I let him see his kids whenever he wanted, told them "Daddy is going to live somewhere else so he's closer to his work, you'll see each other all the time". I was pleasant to his family. I focused on being the best mum I could be (I had a couple of breakdowns but what do you expect).... but in the end I got full custody of the kids and no one had a bad word to say against me - which really frustrated his family who wanted HIM to have the kids! (He didn't want them by the way).

I'm so glad I behaved that way because it's made me proud of myself and it's a good example to my boys. They don't know about his cheating at all.

Sorry I missed your earlier update saying she is married. Definitely tell her husband!

4 years ago my ExH booked a hotel with OW and didn't know I knew about it til he got to the room to be greeted with flowers from me - the note read something along the lines of 'I can't believe you're still lying to me, I hope she's worth it'

He's since told me it ruined their weekend and they didn't sleep a wink because they were so worried I was going to come crashing through the door at any time

I'd find the hotel he's booked, then ask for an adjoining room or book the one next door.

Yes to ruining his bloody getaway. He's ruining your life.

@eenymeenyminyme
That is genius!

Jesus Wept - just walk away. Don't do any of these awful things, it won't make it better.

sorry your going through this OP but I think you just need to make it clear to him that if he does this then it's game over & to seriously consider the consequences of his actions - lay your cards on the table, what do you have to loose

Sign if you agree that the absent parents should be penalized if don’t declare income to CMS and refuse to support their own children.

Petition: Set stricter penalties for parents that fail to pay child support

petition.parliament.uk/petitions/261618

Oh OP being petty wont help bla bla...

Send a bottle of champagne to their room "for the happy couple love xxxx"

I would do all these things and more.

If he wants to be a cheating arse. I'll be a revengeful bitch.

Having been in your exact position, I know how you feel and why you would want to spoil his weekend with another woman.
I know what it is like to sit home with the kids (with no money to go away or take them anywhere nice while he’s spending a small fortune on a home wrecker). I felt sick, disposable and worthless. I still do. I would think scenarios through in my head, what I’d say and do etc. Everyone thought he was some fantastic bloke (and still do) but have no idea what the man has put me through and done to me. Neither did his little tramp who knew all about us while she was telling him she wanted marriage and babies with him.
Personally, and I wish I had done this back then, let him go and text him wishing him a lovely weekend away. End it with you will make sure all his things are neatly packed and the locks are changed before he returns and make sure you do it.

What @LizzieSiddal says....love it

Find her husband and tell him all you know . Every one is a saint when someone has problems. I don't blame you for wanting to save your marriage and keep your family together. I would too . Hope everything works out for you

As he leaves, give him a kiss and say, “Have a great trip. Enjoy shagging Mildred. I’m changing the locks and calling my lawyer. Byee.”