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Humiliated by dh in middle of Costco

306 replies

Mummy20192 · 06/09/2019 20:29

I feel humiliated and broken... went out shopping with Dds and dh to Costco. Heaving with ppl. We qued up to pay for shopping, when dh asked to return trolley. On my way back with dds after putting trolley back, we were stopped by a promotional lady sampling eczema creams.. youngest dd suffers from horrendous eczema so we stopped to sample a bit of cream.. we were away maybe for 5 min tops... my phone was on silent so didn’t hear dhs missed calls.

He saw us standing and started shouting top of his lungs do my wallet with my Costco cards, I was shocked everyone stopped and stared at me.. I was like “I’m sorry I’m coming” he blasted back “well answer your phone”.

I was so embarrassed, everyone close by stopped at stared at me being screamed at.. the lady who was showing the sample was so embarrassed, she apologised. I have never been humiliated so badly in my life.

He said sorry for shouting, but I’m heartbroken and this infront of the dds.

OP posts:
ASeriesOfUnfortunateEvents · 06/09/2019 23:47

i didn’t take the card to him, he cane upto me? screamed and he and grabbed it off me.

Okay, I am done. You keep changing your story, and it's making less and less sense each time. It's quite obvious why because this has not gone the way you expected.

Anyway, you're right OP, your husband is an abusive person who should not be out in public, LTB and live happily ever after.

CandyLeBonBon · 06/09/2019 23:48

I still think she was the one who screamed in the Sistine chapel!

Yabbers · 06/09/2019 23:49

He saw us standing and started shouting top of his lungs do my wallet with my Costco cards, I was shocked everyone stopped and stared at me.. I was like “I’m sorry I’m coming” he blasted back “well answer your phone” and yet He saw us standing and started shouting top of his lungs do my wallet with my Costco cards, I was shocked everyone stopped and stared at me.. I was like “I’m sorry I’m coming” he blasted back “well answer your phone”

Confused

Also, why would the staff member apologise, why was she embarrassed?

HUZZAH212 · 06/09/2019 23:53

I'm just baffled how someone can be in 1st and 3rd place in a queue? Does Costco have some unique system where being 3rd in the line places you ahead of the next 2 people in front? What happens to the 1st person? Do they then have to run to the back of the queue and start over? Do they play music and when it stops you get served? 🤔

CandyLeBonBon · 06/09/2019 23:54

It's the Costco relay tag team!

PickAChew · 06/09/2019 23:56

You got distracted by some one selling something while your DH needed the card necessary for buying something in the store. I'd have been annoyed, too.

Never met an excema relief salesperson before.

chickenyhead · 06/09/2019 23:57

OP you said...

He wasn’t paying he was at the front of the que... even when I got back he didn’t pay for anything and the lady started scanning

So you got back.

But now he stormed up to you.

I agree with Blocked and to be honest I think you humiliated yourself and are projecting it on to him. You are on here seeking validation for your heartbreaking experience.

God help your DD I agree.

Caucho · 06/09/2019 23:59

Ha ha I remember the Sistine Chapel screamer

readitandwept · 07/09/2019 00:07

My living room is 4.5 metres long. I can't believe that in that small distance between you both, there was time for all this phoning and shouting/answering back and forth to take place before he physically reached you and took the card from you? It's like 10 steps!

PickAChew · 07/09/2019 00:09

@Mummy20192 DS1 (aah, my pfb) got stuck on the A1(M) at scotch corner for half an hour on his way home from school, this afternoon. Hope you have some crocodile tears for him, as it wasn't even London. Boofucking hoo.

CandyLeBonBon · 07/09/2019 00:12

Scotch corner can be a proper bastard @PickAChew
Your mockery is not welcome

mehmehmehmeh · 07/09/2019 00:37

This thread is the epitome of school yard bullying. How hilarious you all are making fun of someone! Bet you all feel really good about yourselves.

purplebutterfly90 · 07/09/2019 00:39

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Jaffacakesaremyfave · 07/09/2019 00:48

It's just horrible. I hope the OP is able to get support elsewhere Flowers

Drogosnextwife · 07/09/2019 01:32

mehmehmehmeh

I was just thinking the same. I understand it when it's a troll and everyone has a laugh and the made up story, this is just pathetic bullying now. Some people just love to get ripped in. Must make them feel superior.

prawnsword · 07/09/2019 01:43

If he has a history of snapping at you, then understandably this public incident would really sting.

Otherwise, the situation sounds kind of understandable, Costco is quite overwhelming & holding up people at the counter when you have a card would be really frustrating.

It would have been better to give him the card then go back to the excsma creams

Drabarni · 07/09/2019 01:48

"i was like" "Broken" speaks volumes.

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MrsNotNice · 07/09/2019 02:10

There seems to be a trend this week or absolutely bitchiness and people ripping into others... what’s the deal ?!!

Kids returning to school and mums feeling insecure at the gates and coming to feel better about themselves by putting others down on an anonymous forum??

Very odd tbh

Sharpandshineyteeth · 07/09/2019 02:24

OP, in the kindest way. We all lose our temper.

Hopefully you cancan talk around this and understand each other better.

Maybe not.... sometimes we perceive situations differently

PhilCornwall1 · 07/09/2019 02:46

I think broken is a bit strong! You are really broken just over this?

CandyLeBonBon · 07/09/2019 06:55

The ops story has jumped about so many times and is so confusing I think many people don't believe it.

Techway · 07/09/2019 08:00

OP, have you discussed this with your husband?

Costco tills are stressful, they often have boards with staffs takings per hour so they are super efficient at getting people through. As a wholesaler there is a no frills concept, it is just "get it done". I think if you risked delaying him & others you judged it wrong. As it is not the place where you can(deliberately) hold up the queue for a few minutes..let alone 5. Other shoppers and the staff would be angry at being forced to wait.

If you kept people waiting then you should feel embarrassed.

My friend used to say how her husband was a nightmare going through airports. I had to reason to doubt it until I flew with her...the stress! She kept wandering off, instead of heading to security, gates etc and I then realised how her DH felt.

To be fair to her she saw the funny side as hadn't previously appreciated that her wandering off caused others to be delayed.

SparklyMagpie · 07/09/2019 08:06

"It's the Costco relay tag team" 😂😂😂

kmammamalto · 07/09/2019 08:18

This is easy, you don't need to keep changing the story to make him sound worse..
You should have come back with the card, he shouldn't have shouted. The end.
Shopping can be stressful, stop hinting at how much worse your life is than anyone else's on here because that's just not nice. You don't know what anyone else is going through just as they don't know what you are.