First date and embarrassment

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So went on first date, seemed a nice guy, he wanted to kiss me in the pub but people were around and I didn't want an audience so we went to a quiet area. Anyway the kiss was fab.
When we said goodbye by my car we kissed again and he got a stiffy (fair enough), he was embarrassed to walk to his car, people were around with it being quite a large car park, could have been kids but I wasn't sure. For some reason, he had to show me that he had a stiffy and put my hand on it over his jeans.
We did the normal texting when we got home, saying we enjoyed the date etc and I said that I was a bit embarrassed he did that. He said that he should not have done it and that he was sorry and hoped he'd not screwed it up.
Feel a bit [shocked] and a bit annoyed!
Should I lighten up, how would it make you feel?

You would be perfectly within your rights to contact the police if that's what you wanted to do. What he did isn't on, and men in general need to learn not to do not-on stuff.

Oh don’t be so fucking ridiculous. Those of you who say you’d report it to the police. How old are you? Twelve?

InterestedWoman You are right he didn't need to mention or reference his stiffer at all.
But neither did the OP need to mention their kissing turned her on, surely? To be fair?

I'm sorry, her behaviour gave a green light and tbf, he acted appropriately afterwards.

That's how I am reading it.
But, yes, very teenage/early twenties.

Thinking about it, even those , in my days, were more subtle!

I'm sorry, her behaviour gave a green light and tbf, he acted appropriately afterwards

A little victim blamey but I totally see your point! Odd behaviour on her part saying the kiss turned her on! I couldn’t make sense of why someone would say that on a first date!!

I think you gave him mixed messages by saying the kiss was turning you on.i can't believe some people would call the police 😳 you told him you were turned on he just wanted you to see he was too.

Sherbert, I made comment when thread was more live, that I wasn't blaming her.

But, she did give out signals and he chanced his luck. Not very subtly, but they both in their 40s, iirc.🙄

Let's move to a more private booth and snog?
In a family pub?
Eww...

I've got vomiting bug and this is sure helping!

Calling the police is alarming.

OP told him she was turned on while they were kissing which has given him the green light to show her he's turned on & he apologised for doing so. The subject of sex had already been brought up. OP was embarrassed, not fearful. I would be embarrassed too. I find it inappropriate to see people kissing in a sexual way in a public place.

This was all in public, I'm sure it would've escalated if anything untoward had happened.

Fact is, if the human race is to continue someone has to instigate sex. If they are told no, pushed off or anything to indicate that the other doesn't want to & they continue to force/pressure then that's assault/harassment and grounds to report the person to police for public safety.

This guy made a bit of a move after being told by the person he turned them on & he apologised for it. Blocking him will suffice, which OP has done.