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Old nude pics to himself !?

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:18

Hi there, first post ever and a confusing one!

In a nutshell married to hubby for 2 years, together 7 years, 2 children. Never any reason to distrust him and have what I consider to be a happy life together!

He gave me his phone yesterday to look back through his emails, searching for one that I sent him sent last year about a holiday.....

While searching around the dates, I noted 4 emails over the course of 2 days, sent FROM him via his other email account to himself on his current email account. The emails contained attachments with photos of his penis to be blunt. Very old photos from 8 or so yrs ago judging by the body! Before he met me take in old apartment. He now has a dad bod!

Emails were not forwarded to any body at all. Just from himself to himself.

Shocked, I asked him about it. He genuinely said he has no idea why the pics are there. He said he has not sent them to himself at all via his old account. He said only thing he can think of is his email has been hacked or mentioned maybe his old sd card has been hacked in his current phone!?!
Please domt laugh, I don't want to sound gullible. I'm not tech savvy at all so.... is this even possible?

He then really wanted to show me his phone, Facebook account etc as he was bewildered why this has happened and didn't want me to think the worst...and yet a little bit of me is to reiterate the emails were from 12 months ago. Never had any thoughts about him playing away etc then or now.

what do you think? Is it plausible?

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barryfromclareisfit · 27/08/2019 21:20

He sends, or is thinking of sending, his dick pics to a woman or women.
Next question.

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:20

Sorry spelling mistakes im nervous!

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barryfromclareisfit · 27/08/2019 21:21

Or maybe to men. No need to exclude people.

littlepeaegg · 27/08/2019 21:21

Yeah agree... perhaps to send to you??

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:22

Thank you for being upfront. Guessed the hacking scenario was unlikely.

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:23

Not for me. They were old pics taken almost a decade ago. The emails were last year. But why would he send them from.himself, to himself?

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heylyla · 27/08/2019 21:24

The hacking scenario really doesn't sound plausible, sorry, OP. Did you look through his phone when he offered?

cubed123 · 27/08/2019 21:24

If he didn’t send them to you then he sent them to someone/some others unfortunately OP. Unlikely he doesn’t know about them

CalmFizz · 27/08/2019 21:24

Maybe for dating sites.

Maybe just to be wistful and think ‘God, I used to be fit!’

RushianDisney · 27/08/2019 21:25

I would also suspect that he forwarded them to himself to send to someone. And he is frantically showing you anything he has that is clean, maybe he sent them on via an app which he has now deleted. As they are old and show him in better shape than he is now I reckon it's some sort of online sex chat with strangers, who he is semi cat fishing. Gross.

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:26

Yes I looked through the phone. His work email. Personal email. Facebook account. Nothing at all untoward. he was beside himself. He knew I was accessing emails when I found them and he seemed so shocked!

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DM1209 · 27/08/2019 21:26

The hacking scenario is unlikely. More likely is that he has an online persona and sends these pictures (pre-Dad bod) to women or men. I am so sorry to appear negative but that is the most likely scenario.

The eagerness to show you his Facebook is also a little disconcerting and my guess is he knew there would be nothing there for you to find and so he happily showed it all to you.

However, I don't know him personally and only you can make a true judgement but I'm sorry you're going through this.

DressingGown · 27/08/2019 21:27

Daft question, but are they definitely of him? Seems odd to save “intimate” pictures of yourself for 8 years. I mean, it’s not going anywhere.

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:27

Ob god do u really think so? I didn't think of that. Cat fishing

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twolobsters · 27/08/2019 21:27

I have a different theory.

They were on his old email and he came across them and wanted to preserve them, so sent them to himself. You suggest he was in better shape then.

I'm guessing weird vanity if there's no suggestion of anything else.

cubed123 · 27/08/2019 21:27

He’s sent them to his current email to possibly save in his files and access through his computer or phone to send on seems the likely scenario.
Was anything else ‘hacked’?? Any other pics or files? ...

Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain · 27/08/2019 21:27

Honestly?

I think he was sexting someone last year, and remembered he had some old photos on an old phone, connected to an old email account. Now he probably sent them to someone via WhatsApp and deleted the thread, but he needed to retrieve them from the old account first, and send them to the email account connected to his new phone.

But that is merely speculation from a person on the internet who does not know you. And unfortunately you may never know the truth, even if you ask a hundred times. I’m sorry Sad

aintnutinchanged · 27/08/2019 21:27

Ageee with pp that they have been sent to send on to someone else

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:28

But I still dont get why he woudl have to send them between his 2 email addresses? Old account to newer one? Why not send pics from old account to someone if he was ?

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aintnutinchanged · 27/08/2019 21:28

Or maybe he just likes the way he looked all those years ago and was reminiscing

heylyla · 27/08/2019 21:29

If it is that he's using them on a dating app that he's now deleted, if he has an iPhone, you can go into the AppStore, click the profile icon in the right hand corner and click "purchased". Here you'll be able to see any apps DH has downloaded onto his phone, deleted or not.

Can I also suggest maybe checking his old email account to see what else has been sent to/from it?

EmmiJay · 27/08/2019 21:29

You say he has a dad bod now...maybe he found his old pics and wants to get back into shape? Inspiration? I've often looked back at my ancient nudes and thought "right! Need to get back on it!"

category12 · 27/08/2019 21:30

Only reason that makes sense is that he was sending them to himself to send on/post somewhere.

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Tinker2010 · 27/08/2019 21:31

There were a few other emails from his old account to new one with stuff he hadn't written eg asalea stuff about solar panels!! Again from Himself to himself this added to my confusion!

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Cabezona · 27/08/2019 21:31

He probably sent them to himself as inspiration. I've done the same. Since the year passed he completely forgot.

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